Post # 1
…that some things are entirely regional. (cash bars, dollar dances, dance invites)
…that you should send a gift/card even if you RSVP no. (I’ll blame my youthful ignorance on that one.)
…that it is beyond rude to be a no-show at a wedding, it’s expensive, too!
What are some things that you’ve learned from planning a wedding?
Post # 3
…..To pay someone else to do it. lol
Post # 4
…That for some reason, everyone else isn’t thinking about my wedding all day every day and dying for a chance to talk to me about it.
…That DJs hate giving you a general idea of their prices without first giving a 20-minute phone spiel about how great they are.
…That people have vastly different ideas of what makes a dress “classic,” “romantic,” “elegant,” “tacky,” “boring,” “flattering,” and even “a-line.”
..That I am madly in love with my fiance and extremely lucky to have him in my life.
Post # 5
…That I wish I had gone with my original Destination Wedding idea.
…That I don’t really like to plan stuff, even though I consider myself highly organized.
…That I can’t wait to get married!
And I agree with you and sending a gift if you RSVP “no.” Oh! And that you’re supposed to bring a gift to the shower AND the wedding, apparently. :/ Oops. I’m also blaming youthful ignorance on that one too.
Post # 6
@MissBananaBread: I hear you on the various opinions of what ‘x’ means. I’m to the point where if Mr.ND and I like it and it doesn’t make our mothers faint, it’s good. 🙂
@AmeliaBedelia: I’m a planner as well, but I’m hating this. I would have loved our small, intimate wedding I’d had in my head. *sigh* We will make it, though, not much longer!
Post # 7
People are crazy, brides even more so. IRL no one stresses for DAYS or MONTHS about if the chairs will match the bows on them… but slap a ering on that person and suddenly it is life changing.
I love planning.
Wedding etiquette means very different things depending on where you are
That people who matter will show up and move heaven and earth to be there. The rest are superfilous anyway so it isnt worth stressing that they didn’t/wouldn’t come.
I had a wonderful time at my wedding and at the end of it I was married to my husband which is all that really mattered. Who cares if someone else thought we were cheap for having cupcakes and cocoa in the church fellowship hall?
Post # 8
@indibee: You had one too?! Lol. I had like a 20-30 people wedding in my head and that is the one I am lusting after now. Lol. I just made our Guest Book (on mixbook.com) and it made me remember why we’re doing it though. Mixbook FTW! haha.
Post # 9
I have learn’t that….
You need to stay away from any vendor that spends most of the meeting telling you how crap others are.
It’s not just our day, it’s also for the parents.
I have no rhythm (dance classes reminded me of that).
Some people will always try to ruin it for you.
Those people also give yu a reality check of what kind of people you want there on your special day.
I have problem with paying someone 5 times the normal price for getting my nails/hair/make-up done just because I’ll be wearing a wedding dress later on.
Best way to please your father is to have a mixed meat grill and chips (french fries) as the reception meal.
Things differ DRAMATICALY from one country to another.
It’s not just “some white dress”
Mothers cry at a drop of the hat and fathers get a lot of dust in their eyes around the same time.
After being steamrollered into some things or inviting some people I don’t particularly want at the wedding, I hope that when it’s time for me to help my son or daughter organize theirs, I will remember that and try to make their day all about how they see it.
Post # 10
…that you should stick with a small wedding or Destination Wedding if that’s what you wanted. Do no succumb to family pressure!
…that it costs a crap load of money, especially when the family gulit-trips you to throw a wedding but no offers to help at all.
…that if i can get thru the planning, the long lost relatives, the “friends” i never knew i had, the ridiculous requests by random ass people, and trying to accomodate all the important people in my life, I can do anything.
…that despite everything I said above, enjoy the process and it will be awesome!