(Closed) For fun…Falling in Love? Do you have to date beforehand?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
9618 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

Well I fell for my Fiance before we were a couple, we had been best friends for a year and had been fooling around (everything but intercourse) for a month or two, and he came to visit me at the beach where I was staying with my family, along with a couple of friends who came to visit also.

We were all sleeping in the lounge area, I was on the couch, Fiance was on a mattress on the floor right next to me. I looked down at him while he was asleep, and just knew I loved him 🙂 Then a few days later we became ‘boyfriend and girlfriend’

Post # 4
3689 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Darling Husband was originally an online friend who I had a huge crush on.  But he was married and I started seeing someone else.  Once we were both available and started spending a lot of time chatting on IM, I fell hard for him.

Post # 5
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

I agre with your friend, I think it’s impossible to fall in love with someone before you know them well. If the two of them had known one another for a long time, that might be different, but any strong feelings he may have for her at this point will be infatuation, and it’s silly to pretend otherwise. 

Post # 6
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

Yep Darling Husband and i have known each othr for over 15years. I met him when i was younger, and we were just friends. For a long while. we could just talk and talk and talk and laugh and we would be in our own bubble, the world could be on fire and we wouldnt have know. This happened for years. and i knew i loved him. He can still remember the first time he knew he loved me, and we hadnt even shared a kiss or a date. I was walking down the road and he saw me, and i turned and smiled at him and kept walking, (i was going to work). He remebers what i had on, (i had civvies on and had to change at work into a uniform). He told me i took his breath away and he got butterflies. I was in trackies and an old red tshirt.. nothing fancy… My dad always said he has never met two people who were so unaware of what was hapening around them. He even mentioned it in his speach at our wedding. 

We didnt start dating till 10yrs after i met him, and we took our time with each other. because we both knew we would have forever to be with each other. 

he is the love of my life and honestly i loved him before we did anything. so yeah it does happen. 🙂


Post # 7
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I can honestly say I fell in love with Fiance before I even met him. We had been set up by mutual friends and, because we lived 4 hours apart, we spent a lot of time getting to know each other by phone, IM, text, etc… When he finally came into town to ‘meet’ me, I was long gone and already head over heels. I would have been devastated if our in-person relationship/chemistry/spark/whatever you want to call it wasn’t there. 


Luckily, we got along even better in person and that started a year of a lot of driving for u as we did the long distance thing until I found a job in his city. 

Post # 8
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Danny and I were friends for a long time before we ever started dating. We fell in love way before we were dating, when I was dating another man. The reason we ended up together was the admission of love, actually. We said “I love you” before our first official date and before becoming a couple. <3 falling in love before dating is definitely possible. 

I was so damaged at that point in time that I don’t think I ever would have agreed to be his girlfriend if I wasn’t head over heels for him. 

Post # 9
9218 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I was totally head over heels in love with my now-fiance for a solid year before we started dating.  He was one of my best friends though, so I knew him really well.  That was approximately 1998 and we were in high school! 

Post # 10
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Say it with me- infatuation! Infatuation can lead to deeper feelings, of course. However the girl is deluding herself if she wants a guy who is interested in her to fall for her and she won’t date him first. I’m guessing she’s dated the wrong guy a few too many times. That or she’s into the courtship thing. 

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