For ladies who MUST have larger rings…..

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would have said yes to a bread tie, but I did want a stone (not necessarily a diamond) of at least one carat. The reason is that I have fat fingers–5/8 or 3/4 looks great on some women, and they certainly aren’t cheap for a diamond, but on a finger my size, it would have LOOKED like he cheaped out. I wanted something that looked porportional and to not have to deal with people being judgmental of him or of our relationship or saying things like “it’s cute” or “oh, bless your heart, you can always upgrade later!”

Post # 4
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wanted a better diamond more than I wanted a bigger diamond.

I did want at least a 1 carat sine I NEVER want to upgrade or change anything about my ring.  My husband did get me a 1.5 carat ring.  It is perfect for my finger which is long. 

Post # 5
12873 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I wouldn’t have said no if I got a small ring, but I certainly would want an upgrade or to exchange it.  Why? Cause I want what I want and I/we could afford it… no particular reason.  Everyone just has a certain taste.  With that said, I dont think my ring is *large*, but I don’t think it’s small either.  Would I have wanted larger? sure!  But I’m ok with this one and never plan to upgrade.  I decided what I wanted by how much I liked it on my hand and I wanted at least 3/4ct.


Post # 6
47 posts

He is divorced so I want my ring to be better than his ex’s ring.


Post # 7
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i would not have said no if he gave me a crackerjack box ring, i know his finances.  but i did want a nice piece of jewelry that i could wear the rest of my life.

fortunately, my mom gave FI my grandmother’s diamond to use.

we are both very thankful.


Post # 8
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i just prefer larger rings on my fingers.  i only wear rings on my ring fingers (left and right).  my rhr are all larger stones too.

trends have definitely changed over the past 30+ years.  back then, 1 carat was considered a very substantial ring.  my mom had one from her 2nd husband and it looked huge.  it was the first time i had seen a ring that big.  now, it’s almost the norm.  celebrity rings have definitely influenced our expectations.

Post # 9
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsEME:  I would have married him without a ring at all – BUT if he was going to buy me a ring, it had to be something I felt looked nice on my fat fingers (2.5″ long and size 9).  For me that meant at least a 1 carat stone, which is what I got.


@dianaross:  +1  (me too…lol)

Post # 10
5905 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@MrsEME:  I did not have a carat contingency, and I would have married Mr. 99 no matter what.  But I do want a larger stone, he knew that going in, and we’ve always said that when the time was right for a larger stone, we would get one.

I think its an aesthetic thing, AND a symbol…we aren’t the same people we were when we got engaged and married, so why leave the thing I wear every day as a representation of that in a time capsule?

We change and it changes, I’m fine with that rationale.

Post # 11
1535 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My ring definitely isn’t considered “large” by most, but it’s 1.1tcw, which is larger than most of my friends (we’re 26). But, it wasn’t me who necessarily wanted the larger ring. FI has heard our friends and women co-workers of his complain about their rings and talk about upgrading. FI was insistent on getting me a ring I wouldn’t want to upgrade, and one I would LOVE- and he succeeded!

He picked the ring style (3 stone halo) and got the largest size center stone that could fit in the setting, and he upgraded the clarity.

Post # 12
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We had a choice of some family stones. We ended up setting a 3ct. Diamond as my engagement ring. We chose it simply because it was the largest stone offered to us. There were a couple 2.75 diamomds but the stone we have now is of impeccable color and clarity. 

Post # 13
1721 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@memo:  What is a 3 halo stone?  I have a halo ering…but i haven’t heard of the 3 halo stone before. Do you have a pix u don’t mind sharing? *sorry to be nosy LOL*

Post # 14
2358 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wanted a large stone bec I’ve always dreamed of having one. FI and i have worked hard to get where we r and to earn the things we have. We agreed on the budget, and I picked out the exact ring. it feels great to have hard work pay off and to enjoy having the things we want. Its just my preference to have a big shiny versus a tiny shiny.  

Post # 15
370 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@dianaross:  I think I love you!  That was s totally something I thought but was never brave enough to admit! 

Post # 16
2783 posts
Sugar bee

I just like the look of bigger rings on my size 8 fingers..I wouldn’t say no with a smaller ring, but we went with moissanite so I really could get the size I wanted.

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