For Married Bees – how did you do your RSVPs and did extras show up ???

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
3251 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We did “We have __ seats reserved for you” or something similar. Then we had them write how many would be attending. I have also seen “____ out of #they are given” will be attending, and that seems to work well, too. Also remember, number the rsvps on the back and keep a list of who was which number so when you get some back without names you can figure out whose it is!

Post # 4
1193 posts
Bumble bee

@asb983:  Mine are worded very basically like below:



____ persons will attend


I also numbered them in case people forget to write their names. Its not common to see “X” number of seats reserved in your honor in my area, but I wouldn’t be offended if I saw that.

Post # 5
4072 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I worded mine as follows:

__ of __ will attend

__ will not attend

Or something like that. I might have worded it prettier. But the blanks give you an idea of what I did. I would fill in the second blank of the first option; so if I invited Mr. and Mrs. Jones and their daughter Jane, it would have read __ of 3 will attend.

Most people understood what to do. A few simply put an x, which was fine. I only had to contact two guests because they did something confusing. I think one left it all blank.

Not sure what you mean by extras? You mean people trying to add guests who weren’t invited? I didn’t have anyone change the number, no.

Post # 6
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

We did ours online where only people who were named on the invites could RSVP. No extras for us! 

Post # 7
3432 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We had online-only RSVPs.  And they were set up so that the form asked with respect to each person actually invited whether that person was coming or not.  So there was simply no way for someone to RSVP for someone not invited.

Post # 8
3813 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Ours were worded “We have reserved __ seats in your honor” and then we had a line for “Names”, which everyone understood was for those who could make it.  Got one uninvited write-in, but that’s just because it had been okayed with my parents (but not me!! LoL).

Post # 9
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

On mine I left a spot for names and a spot to fill how many are attending. That way I know exactly how many people they plan on bringing instead of assuming they took the hint with only they are invited. There are far too many people in my town who think it is okay to invite a friend to come along.

Post # 10
885 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We did this:




__ Accepts with pleasure

    __ Number Attending

__ Regretfully declines 


We put all the names on the envelopes so it would be clear how many people were invited.  We didn’t get any extras, but then again I don’t know how there could have been extras, because everyone got a +1, and we invited children.

Post # 11
5935 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

These were our RSVPs.

We didn’t have anything stating how many seats were reserved but we clearly addressed who was invited and had a space for # attending. The only problem we had was with my step-mom’s family. They’re Russian and very family oriented, so when I got back the RSVP for my step-sister/her husband/2 daughters (should be 4 people) and it stated “6 people attending” I immediately knew they included the grandparents. I let it slide because they are always very nice to us and we did have the extra room since a few people declined.

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