Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2014 - Rebar
lately i have been thinking a lot about what happens after the wedding!!! After everything calms down lol and you are finally married to the person that you love and adore with all of your heart.
I would like to hear what has been one of the best advise you have been given or have heard in regards to marriage.
I know you can never prepare yourself fully but i would like to be as prepare as possible…i ve heard first year is always the hardest…any advise ladies?
Thank you 🙂
Post # 3
@katherin788: I have always been told to not rush anything (engagement, wedding, marriage, children, etc.) and have lots of patients. Even though most waiting bees just cant wait much longer and are dying to get married. Time flies by and before you know it, your married, your having children, your children are in college! Your children are giving you grandbabies! Your retiring! Cheerish the time, the long lasting engagment, the will never get here wedding, the after wedding settling, the children bc I think we all can agree that time does fly by and before you know it, you could of missed something very important in your life. My biggest problem is rushing things, I’m always rushing to get here or there so I end up missing the beautufil scenery on the way and I will admit that I am rushing to get married and my head is filled with so much marriage/wedding stuff that I am forgeting why I even want to get married, its bc I have an amazing guy that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I know when I do get married and all the marriage jitters are gone, I will look back and think “man where has the time gone?”
Good things come to those who wait and have patients of course 🙂
Post # 4
@Mine29: Oh I like your post, +100!
I’ve not made it any secret-I really wanted to be married by 30. Now that I’ve FINALLY gotten over that hurdle, I don’t really feel the need to rush anything anymore.
We have the rest of our lives to be married, to work at being married and with a little luck, start a family and work on having a wonderful home and raise some beautiful kids in the future.
I’m really glad that we are going to wait a while to get married so that we can really celebrate our relationship achievements, then get married, breath and have kids.
PS–I’ve also thought that the first year was the hardest. Then someone posted under the married life ‘post your 1st year experiences’ and many bees who were already living together actually didn’t have many problems! What a relief! I wouldn’t think that things would change too much(hopefully), but I know that everyone is different haha!
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2014 - Rebar
Thank you ladies for the advise. You guys are absolutely right! everything on its time 🙂
Post # 6
I don’t have any marriage advice to share–I’m a waiting bee (yay!) and really, marriage advice in my opinion shouldn’t be one size fits all. How could it be? But, I will say this: something that Mr. H and I have always lived by is that we are the only 2 people in our relationship, married or not. Even though we get pressure from our families, from friends and coworkers, from randoms who think we’re married and then find out we’re not and tell us we should be, we have always stuck to OUR timeline. We always will. We have progressed to each stage of our relationship when we were ready, and it’s been beautiful. We’re happy, we don’t fight (because we aren’t rushed; we’ve had time to gently move through things that others get snagged on in their hurry to move forward), and we don’t feel like we are suddenly at a stage/milestone but we don’t know how we got there. So, my advice to you in the first year, and all the years (and really to anyone in any stage of a relationship) is just to be genuinely happy with the person you love and to have a relationship with only you 2 in it. Don’t let others tell you how to love your SO. Do things on your own timeline when it’s right for the 2 of you. 🙂