Post # 1
Just thought this would be a fun thread.
The cake is cut. The wedding is over. Photos are either there or on the way and thank you notes are to be written. The honeymoon is over and you are back at work, daydreaming of the beach.
What did you do after the wedding to get over the wedding?
I know I’m not missing my former existence at all. Not saying it wasn’t a total blast, planning our wedding and reception. But the day after your wedding, you seriously begin to wonder why the heck ever did you spend so much on wedding magazines in the first place?
I guess we were so busy that I didn’t get the post-wedding blues at all. But I do miss some of it. The looking forward to it part is what I do miss. Having that one big event or two to look forward and anticipate. But what I’ve found in almost a month of being a newlywed is that you trade it for other fun things!
We have a home to transform, my child is in a new school and there’s so much to do! My child has a birthday party I’m going to plan, and that is so much fun (love to do it every year)! We’re still seriously turning his style and my style with our furniture into “our” style!
My stylish side loves interior design, and I’m going to put a big focus on that, and the other side that loved wedding planning is into cooking now, with me wanting to learn how to cook Cuban cuisine (courtesy of El Meson de Pepe in Key West) and Japanese food. Also, I am wanting to plan parties this year and have us travel a bit as well. Travel is also a huge passion for me and my H. I forsee us doing a good bit of this in the future!
We haven’t even spent our gift cards so we have some more wedding gifts to pick out and that is so much fun! I’m so thankful to have an excuse to puruse the aisles at William Sonoma!
What’s your secret to getting over the post-wedding feelings? Any other newlyweds or wise wives care to chime in? What do you do now after the wedding? What’s your focus? What are you working on?
The wedding is the beginning. The rest is imho the best! But having a wonderful, happy day filled with life-long beautiful memories is the first step in ever-after 🙂
Post # 3
@bellenga: We went to KW for a week for our honeymoon, and we LOVED El Meson de Pepe! We ate there 3 times while we were there and they had the most amazing Cuban and steak sandwiches!
It’s amazing how much wedding planning took up my life, now when I get home from work I wonder what needs to get done tonight?!?! Then I realize, NOTHING and then I get to just sit back and relax. My new focus now is me, and finally learning French, just because… 🙂
Post # 4
we started trying to make a baby.
Post # 5
We are trying to get into this type of stuff too. Unfortunately we don’t have the money to completely redo our place or travel a ton right now but we are hoping to work on practicing our cooking skills and enjoying some good quality time at home. Yesterday we didn’t get out of bed. It was awesome!!
Post # 6
Unpack. Unpack. Unpack.
Realize we can’t find his dish drying rack. Go to Target.
Unpack some more.
It’s not incredibly exciting, but I am relieved I don’t have to care about stuff like what time exactly should the cake cutting happen. And if my centerpieces are vintage enough.
Post # 7
i’m starting grad school…tomorrow! we just moved cities too recently, so we’re still unpacking and setting up the new apartment. just finally hung more pictures yesterday
Post # 8
I can’t wait. It’ll be so nice to get back to being my normal self. I’m already thinking about redecorating one of our guest bedrooms and a couple of other projects that I want to work on.
Plus we have a ton of stuff going on post wedding (class-reunion, friends wedding) and then we’ll be into fall (my favorite season). I love getting ready for the holidays.
Post # 9
@finnaroo: I’m also starting grad school tomorrow! The other big thig I also need to do is unpack. Our apartment is a mess of boxes!
Post # 10
I was so immediatley happy it was over, it was like I was being released from Jail! Now that we aren’t prisoners anymore to the wedding, we have been cooking up a storm, going shopping for non-wedding things (like work clothes), cleaning/organizing our apartment and started a food blog! 🙂
Post # 11
I wasn’t the most diligent bride so my free time wasn’t as big a shock to the system as the space in my brain. All of a sudden I could look at florist shops or home decor shops without immediately imagining how to put something to use in a wedding setting. And my internet time has shifted from wedding-wedding-wedding to the rest of the world (with plenty of wedding stuff mixed in!)
It has been great to be together in our house deciding what to do next instead of the wedding looming off in the distance. It was wonderful (and we had two in a 2 week span!) but I am a better wife than I was a bride!
Post # 12
@colors: We’re trying for our baby too! It’s so exciting.
And we have our lives back! I can get back in my kayak and hang out with friends. It’s awesome!
Post # 13
Since Ive only been back a day we are just winding down, relaxing, opened gifts, bought a new sheet set, comforter, towels, towel rack for our house. Then we will have to unpack and get rid of all these darn boxes!!! After that I really dont know yet what Ill do. Go back to work and then figure it out from there. I want to try to find a passion, something for myself…and start planning our next vacation!!! And then of course, write thank you notes and also make albums for us, my parents from our pro pics!
Post # 14
@clarebee: I really wish I had a passion or hobby as well, the hubs and I were talking about this the other day and I really don’t have anything that I enjoy so much that I want to make it a hobby…. I do enjoy cooking, which the hubs appreciates but now we are both in a funk cuz we have gained a considerable amount of weight since the wedding due to my constant cooking and lack of exercise!! Luckily, I was still really busy after the wedding, house hunting, finishing my last semester of undergrad, finally found a house in April, so now we have been busy decorating and making it ours. I would love to travel more, but its just not foreseeable in the near future.
Post # 15
My husband and I started our own business!
I was SO looking forward to at least one year of a normal life after the wedding, but apparently I’m not that kind of person because two months after we said “I do” we were creating a business plan, and have been crazy busy since.
When I actually do have free time, I like to dive into my home decor magazines, and clip inspiration photos for our future home. Yes, I’m that ridiculous.
Post # 16
I started a new job! It has done wonders for helping me get over my post-wedding blues, which were intense at points. I would love to get our home more together, but a lot of that requires money, and we don’t have much of that right now. I would also love to get a dog, but we can’t have one at our current apartment! Once we get some savings built up, I’d really like to start planning some fun weekend getaways.