I might be ending up wearing a white/ivory dress, because right now I can’t find anything I like in other colors, and I’ve seen a wedding dress I actually like that is not traditional-looking either.
We’re keeping the seated-dinner, evening schedule that we thought we would not follow at first.
I’m hoping to have a first look. He’ll see my dress because he’ll shop it with me, but all dressed up and ready to get married : I want to capture his look !
I might keep the ”something borrowed, something blue …”, just for the challenge of finding everything, and for fun.
We’ll sleep together the night before wedding.
Things we’re not doing:
– Walking down any aile ; we’re getting married in the middle, with our families surrounding us.
– First dance, father-daughter dance : there won’t be dancing at all. We’re having music on an Ipod, jazz for dinner and rock for evening where we’ll play games at different tables.
– Bouquets, flowers, garter toss, bouquet throwing.
– Probably no exchange of rings, since we both already wear ours and our e-ring will be our wedding band.
– No ”until death do us part”. Nothing related to marriage being forever, unbreakable or anything like that. It is breakable. It might end, who knows what can happen 20, 30, 40 years from now ? It’s not about being pessimistic, it’s about being realistic. If I’m going to swear anything, it’s going to be something I feel comfortable and honest swearing.
– No introduction of the newlyweds. Really, I don’t want my wedding to be a ”formal” event : the signing of the marriage contract is formal enough, that’s why I have so much trouble with all that’s related to etiquette. It is meant, I believe, for very traditional, very formal events, and therefore, induce very formal manners. Which is totally different from what SO and I want. We’re not like that, our families are not like that. We can all behave appropriately and be polite without following rules that were written in the 1920s and that most people outside of wedding planning don’t even know exist. To me, that’s a little bit fake. We’re really hoping our wedding won’t be different from non-formal family dinners, where people dress nice, but also want to have fun, drink wine, laugh loudly and play card games, without having to follow strict guidelines all day. Just for that reason, I’m hoping many women will show up in white at my wedding. I really couldn’t care less.