for serious. my sister needs to lay off (ring gap rant)

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

A lot of people do the gap. I wouldn’t worry about it. Do you like it?

Post # 4
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

WOW.  she really does need to lay off.  I have a gap just like yours and I have never heard anything but positive comments.  Is she married?  Maybe it’s just a way of trying to give you a dig.  Ah, sisters!

Post # 6
660 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Mine do not sit flush either and I don’t care much. I think yours looks just fine!

Post # 7
6407 posts
Bee Keeper

For my taste, that gap is too large, but if you like it, just tell her so and if she keeps yammering on about it, tell her “yeah, I got the message, you would choose a band that sits flush. Now can we drop it?”

Post # 8
3635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it’s pretty.  It matches really well.  My set has a gap.  It’s not that big, but they look like two different rings.  I like it that way – they are two different rings.  And sometimes I just wear my wedding ring when I don’t want to knock my diamond on everything. 

Post # 9
26 posts

I like it, especially because you can wear the band on its own and not have it be an odd shape.  You can always tell her something like, “I can see how you might think that and strangers can think whatever they like but I adore it!”  It’s your ring, not hers!

Post # 10
4440 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have a rectangular radiant cut that used to be low-profile like yours.  I didn’t want a curved band either, because it didn’t feel like a wedding ring to me…so I opted to change my e-ring setting to fit slightly higher.  The gap wasn’t a huge deal for me originally, but it eventually was all i was thinking about when looking at it.

With that said, I like your set together it’s gorgeous! I would consider raising the setting so it can sit flush, but this is my personal opinion!






^^ after:  and he decided to upgrade prior to our wedding along with the lift.



your set is gorgeous though, i love it!

Post # 11
10384 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

You should have told her that. I would have, at least. I think it’s the honest and appropriate thing to say.

Post # 12
2057 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

The gap doesn’t bother me. Both rings as a set looks gorgeous!!

I think people who hasn’t looked at many rings would find the gap odd; just be glad you have better tastes than your sister!

Post # 14
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Laurenskii:  ROCK THE GAP, GIRL! Your e-ring is to die for and I love the band… I think I just read on another post that your sister was acting a little jealous of the size of your ring so maybe that has something to do with it- just speculating 🙂

Post # 15
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

I was wondering if maybe she is jealous of both of your rings.  Maybe you got the rings she wanted?  And instead of being nice about it, it’s easier for her to focus on your ring gap?


Post # 16
6631 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have to agree with @joya_aspera:  the gap is to big for my taste, but all that matters you like it. I have a gap also…

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