Post # 1
I have a daughter who will be two this August. For me, it was a pretty simple decision not to have any more children after she was born, but people (including my own mom) think I’m crazy when I tell them I only want the one child. Any other mothers of one who are choosing not to have any more children? If so, what’s your reasoning? Mine was pretty simple: I knew I could parent one really well. Any more than that, and I’d start getting too thinned out. And while I love my daughter, I am not a fan of children in general and just kind of hate the idea of living in a house full of them. Having the one child in the house keeps a nice balance I can handle, but I think I’d lose my mind with three or four running around. I love that when we make it through a particularly rough stage with her (like when, as an infant, she finally started sleeping through the night) I can tell myself, “You NEVER have to go through that again with another one.”
So, what about you other moms? Any more kids, or are you done for now?
Post # 3
My daughter is 13 and I don’t want to start everything all over again! Plus I always tell her I did such a good job on her I would be disappointed in the other one 🙂 and I would def have a favorite!
My husband is in his early 40’s and is past that point in his life, not sure if he ever really wanted to have kids but he absolutely loves mine so we are very happy with our decision. I keep telling him when she graduates high school and we send her off to college we are moving to a tropical island!
ETA: I was an only child and LOVED it!
Post # 4
We have a 6yo DD, and we plan on TTC by the end of the year (Feb. at the latest). I went back-and-forth on wanting another because of the age-gap, but FI is set in wanting another.. he’s the one that’s pushing for the timeline, lol.
Post # 5
I have a 10 year old and I’m 30 and FH is 28. We want 2 more! I just can’t believe that I’m done having kids and FH is going to be an amazing father. He already is my DD. We think that 2 more will complete our family. PLus, I’m an only child and I HATE it. My DD will feel like an only child her whole life considering her age and if we had 1 more I wouldn’t want it to feel like an only either.
So to those with only children, take it from an only, I hate it!
Post # 6
Well, I see what you’re saying and perhaps why I was so confident in not having more is the fact that FH already has a son from a previous marriage who is 13, and our daughter adores him. So, she WILL have a sibling, and bonus- I don’t have to birth it!
When I think about how much my sister means to me I do get sad for her that she will never have that, but I do at least feel secure that I am not leaving her alone in the world when I go. She has a brother.
Post # 7
Well that’s good!! I see my FH and how close he is with his brothers and it makes me sad cause i don’t have that. But at least I’m marrying into a wonderful family. 🙂 I’m glad your daughter will have a brother. Hopefully they will grow to have a great relationship.
Post # 8
I was surprised at how from the very beginning I knew I wanted another kid! It was almost the opposite of what you are feeling – as our baby passes through every stage, I am sad, but hopeful that we get to do it all again with another baby…..maybe its because our baby is relatively “easy”, and the next one will change my mind 🙂 But for now I am reassured as he goes through new milestones that I don’t have to miss the last stage too much, because if we have another baby we get to do it again! And I also have never been a big fan of kids and am hugely relieved that the whole adage that its different whent hey are yours turned out to be true!
but everyone is different, so good for you for sticking with what works for YOU and what you think will make you the best mother – and happiest person – you can be!
Post # 9
Janna, I’m right there with you!
Post # 10
I already have 2 of my own and FI is very much wanting another so we are looking at TTC beginning of 2013.
The age gap bothers me a little bit because my oldest is 8 and my youngest is 4, so starting over in about 2 years is going to make a 10year gap with the oldest and 6year gap with my youngest now.
For FI this was a deal breaker, we talked and talked about it before we got engaged. I am very much in love with the idea of having a baby with him and completing our family of 5 that we want. But, sometimes, it’s hard to imagine not sleeping all night, bottles, diapers, crying, crying, crying lol But, that’s just the lazy part of me I think.
Because, the second I really stop and think about having no more babies, it is an actual sadness that I feel. So, I know in my heart, that one more is what I want to do.
Post # 11
@Sunchick19: @candicemcc: Add me to the list. 🙂
I think most people know pretty early on whether they want more or not. At least, for us, my husband and I started talking about our next kid(s) when Addie was maybe a couple months old. We had been planning on 3 before having her, but she pretty much just confirmed that we for sure want more.
Post # 12
@Crisark: As far as the age gap–I have the best relationship with my sister who is 14 years older than I am. So, don’t worry about that, a gap isn’t always a bad thing!
Post # 13
I have an (almost) 4 year old girl from a previous relationship. FI and I are planning on having 3 more lol We like the idea of having a large family with many siblings as both FI and I come from families where we only had one sibling. We always pictured our future with many children 🙂 But to each his/her own. If you and your FI are satisfied with just one, then you are! No one will be waking up in the middle of the night except you, no one will have to take off work when your child is sick except you. Do whats best for you. I am right there with the PP that said their babies were fairly easy. My daughter slept through the night at a couple days old lol.. Right now, if she wants a drink.. she goes in the fridge and gets it! She is pretty easy going, a tad bit spoiled lol, but very easy going
Post # 14
we have an almost 5 year old, and while we have/are toying with the idea of another, I think when it comes down to it the age difference between the kids would be the biggest deterrent, also we’re selfish & enjoy the dynamic we have now.
Post # 15
My husband and I are in the “Want more” camp 🙂
Post # 16
We want one or two more 🙂