Post # 1
Did people ask you if you were pregnant?
This really bugs the shit out of me but why is that everyone’s go to? I overheard a co-worker I don’t know very well talk about how she had a friend who planned her wedding in less than 6 months and quickly added “I know what you’re thinking…she wasn’t even pregnant!”
You don’t need a bun in the oven to plan a wedding in 6-9 months. You just need to be able to get your shit together. We are planning ours within 7 months and I’m finding it to be a breeze. I just don’t want to drag this show on for more than a year – it’s not my style.
It’s annoying because I know my family suspects something is up.
Post # 3
We had to move our wedding up and had to plan it in about a month because DH got a job across the country that started earlier than we expected. My sister jokingly told people at our wedding “Don’t you know this is a shotgun wedding?”. Then we ended up actually getting pregnant on our honeymoon about three days after we got married, so I’m sure some people think we got married so quickly because I was pregnant. Oh well…
Post # 4
@skippydarling: I only got it in a joking way. (Engagement was actually 10 months, but it was about 7-8 months when we set the date). I mean if I set the date 7-8 months away because I’m pregnant, that means (a) I set the date as soon as I discovered I was pregnant, and (b) I planned on getting married when I’m 39 weeks pregnant; both of which are pretty unrealistic.
If you want to rush a wedding due to pregnancy, it’s usually got to be done in 3-4 months or even less.
Post # 5
to be fair my future father in law’s first question was if i was pregnant (before even hearing the date). sigh* people will think what they think….
Post # 6
We planned it in 3 weeks because of work too. No one asked, but I’m sure some people thought it. I figure they’ll see they were wrong when I don’t give birth in a few months.
Post # 7
My engagement is just under 6 months in total and I got asked ALL THE TIME in the beginning if I’m pregnant. Now since people obviously know I’m not, I just get the assumptions that we must be dying to be parents. Ugh. I feel your pain!
Post # 8
We planned the entire wedding from 1,200 miles away in roughly two months. We were engaged and married in less than a year of dating (We were engaged from October to December) and we planned for a “big white wedding” in June for our friends & family back home.
I got asked if I was pregnant a lot. A few were stunned when I said no. One of the two who were stunned actually got married because they got pregnant so they just assumed I was the same way.
However, ever since I got married, I’m not “allowed” to be sick. My mother assumes every small malady means I’m pregnant, of which she’d be thrilled for.
Post # 9
@Hyperventilate: we’re not even married yet and I get the sick (&/ tired) thing. So. Freaking. Annoying
Post # 10
Well, we were engaged in March planning for a summer wedding of the next year. Then that July we up and changed the date to this December! I’m sure people wondered if I got pregnant, but it’s actually bc my brother will probably be deployed next Summer. People will think what they want!
Post # 11
I’ve heard it a few times. We had a 9 month engagement. I still hear it whenever I complain of a headache or am nauseas because I get migraines a lot. It’s really annoying. I’m like no, we’ve been together 7 years and we just want to get married. If I were preggo in December, I’d be in labor at the wedding. LOL
Post # 12
@skippydarling: Same here! Someone actually said in FI family jokingly “are ya pregnant?!” I was like its a 9 month engagement I would be like due at the wedding! I had most of the major stuff done within two months. I am just a planner and impatient hahaha
Post # 13
6 month engagement. no one ever made a comment.
Post # 14
@skippydarling: Imagine being 21yrs old & a soon-to-be Junior in college when you got engaged. How many eyebrows do you think *we* raised with the baby question? 😛
We were engaged for 11 months but only planned for about 6-7 months. It’s irritating when people think there is any other motive for you to be getting married than love, so I feel your pain. They’ll get over it when they see that you are pregnancy free on your wedding day lol.
Post # 15
6 month engagement…and yes, I heard it but only as a joke so it didn’t really bother me. To each her own, but I am so glad we aren’t having a super long engagement! However, we are getting married during a less popular month and I’m really laid back about everything so it works for us!
Post # 16
I never heard anyone say that to me/about me, but I’ve heard people that that about others. We had a 4 month engagement, I agree with you – don’t drag it out! We were moving so we wanted to have ours before the move took place.