Post # 1
It seems that a lot of bees have gone e-ring ring shopping with their men, which is something that I didn’t really know took place. While I don’t think I like the idea of picking out my own ring, shopping together might be kind of fun…but how did you bring this up to your man? Or did he ask you to go one day?
I know my bf is going to propose sometime in the not-distant future (prolly within the next 3-5 months) although we haven’t really openly discussed it. He toys with me constantly about it, has spoken to friends (and knows I’ve spoken to them as well) etc, so it’s sort of like an unspoken truth that it will happen, but I don’t know how to bring up the idea of going to a few places to take a look. It doesn’t help that I hate shopping and I don’t even try clothes on for him because I hate the attention ha.
SO, long story short, how did YOU end up shopping together?
Post # 3
if you don’t like picking out your ring directly, you could always do what I did. I didn’t shop with him – I went with my MIL and SIL and picked out a selection of rings at a few stores. Left the rest to him.
Post # 4
We would walk by jewelry stores and go in. There were a few times when he asked me if I wanted to go shopping for a ring. We ended up going one day after purchasing a car and found the ring. He bought it the next week. We had combined finances when we moved in together so he couldn’t really surprise me with anything.
Post # 5
He suggested that we go look at rings together. Probably the best suggestion I’ve ever heard!
I don’t remember how that came about, honestly, but I think he wanted to get an idea of what I liked, and I needed to see things in person to do that. We both wanted him to actually pick the ring, so our shopping was just research — I tried on a bunch of rings over a few trips, and eventually narrowed down a a basic style of setting and cut of stone that I liked. He did the rest — and he did an EXCELLENT job! 🙂
Post # 6
The night we had a big-time relationship talk, I ended up dreaming about having a baby….and he dreamed about me being pregnant, too! After we talked about the dreams we had had, I told him, “It was fun having a baby, but man, that’s scary! Maybe we should just go look at rings instead.” And he agreed!
Post # 7
Maybe just do it casually. If you’re at the mall or something maybe ask him, “Hey, wanna stop by ______? I’ve been wanting to see what kind of engagement ring styles are out there for the future.”
Post # 8
We had no intention to buy a ring when we did. I had told him since we knew we’d get married I wanted something that wasn’t a diamond (preferrably moissanite). So when we were wandering the mall and saw that there would be a moissanite trunk show the next day, we decided to go and look at the rings.
He arrived about 10 minutes before I did (we both came straight from work) and had already looked around. I tried on a bunch of rings but one REALLY caught my eye. I had problems taking it off. None of the others felt right, that one felt like I could wear it every day for the rest of my life. He told me that was the first one he saw and thought it was completely my style. We didn’t go to buy a ring but we ended up buying it that day. We did end up putting sapphires into some of the side stones, so I didn’t know what it would look like until 4 months later!
Post # 9
@bkrocks13: Well I’m type A and I simply suggested we go look at rings together. He doesn’t really care if I have a hand in the process since he wants to make sure his money is spent on something I actually like.
I try not to nag him about it, but we’ve gone browsing in Birks (Canadian equivalent of Tiffany’s), and then Tiffany’s when we were on holiday in the States. I think I have narrowed down what ring I want. He still wants me to be in on the process when we decide to buy it.. I guess since I have changed my mind so much lol. I’m not expecting a surprise proposal or anything.
Post # 10
We had been talking about it for a long time. We looked around locally and I didn’t like anything. I didn’t know how serious he was at all… then we went for a trip to the states. There was a jeweler on the way to where we were going that sold tacori, and I wanted to stop in “just to see”. We looked around and I tried on some rings. Then he said “what about that one?” and I tried on what is now my e ring. I teared up the second I had it on. That being said he walked around with the style # for like.. 3 years before actually getting it. <.< Boys.
Post # 11
DH and I talked about getting married and I said that I wanted to have input on the biggest, most expensive piece of jewelry I’ll ever own and wear my entire life. I hate surprises SOOOO much.
So we made appointments, looked over our budget and really had fun ring shopping. I think we went about 10 times. I picked out the setting and he picked out the stone. He then planned a 100% surprise proposal that I had no idea about.
I think the main thing that helped him decide to shop with me was when I said “I want our engagement to be just like our relationship: a mutual decision and a lot of fun.”
Post # 12
@Handful: we had a joint account too, but he managed to hide it very well lol!
Post # 13
My FI brought it up to me, saying he wanted to get something for me that I really loved. So one Saturday when we were bored, we went to Jared and I tried on a bunch and chose my top three. The sales lady wrote down all the style numbers since he didn’t plan on buying the ring for 3 or 4 months. Then when he was ready, he went in and chose one of the three.
I’m incredibly glad we chose to do it this way. He’s never bought me jewelry and was pretty lost. But for some guys, it just doesn’t work this way. Some are hell-bent on surprising their lady. So maybe just ask him what he thinks about looking at rings, just to see what you both like.
Post # 14
At first my FI insisted that he would pick out the ring by himself. I guess one day it just sort of hit him that it’s a lot of money to spend on something that he wouldn’t be sure I liked. So he told me I we should go look together. I was so relieved! Maybe just suggest that while you understand that it’s the meaning behind the ring that matters, you really want to totally love your ring. If he’s completely against it try compromising with you picking out 3 and him choosing between them.
Post # 15
These stories are awesome!
I think maybe part of our challenge is that we live in NYC and we rarely “go shopping” together- there is rarely an instance where we are wandering around anywhere that there would be a jewelry store so it would be hard for me to steer him in somewhere. We would probably have to make a devoted trip.
To make matters worse, I absolutely have the ring I want picked out. All my friends have seen it. Like, 110%. And its at a store that is nowhere near anywhere we would ever really need to go so I would have to basically tell him to go there.
I really want him to see it, ha!
Post # 16
It started with him asking what I would want in a ring and I really confused him so he suggested we go and look together. We didn’t buy a ring that day, but he went back later and picked out one of the rings that had caught my eye. I loved it!