Post # 1
Had you discussed engagement prior to the actual proposal? Had he insinuated it was years ahead of time and an engagement was the furthest thing from his mind? Did he lie and say there were specific plans a bit further down the line? Spill the beans!
Post # 3
We had discussed engagement but not when it would happen exactly just that it would happen soon. We looked at rings together and I knew when he had started saving for the ring. But I honestly didn’t know when he would propose. I knew he definitely wanted to marry me and I knew he would propose relatively soon but it really didn’t matter when because we were so happy regardless. He ended up proposing about a year after he started saving for the ring and proposed on a mini vacation we took to Cape May, NJ together on a dock overlooking the ocean at sunset (a special spot for us).
Post # 4
This is the exact thing that happened to me! My fiance and I have currently been dating for 6 years. We were friends all growing up, and in our last year of high school began dating. About 1 year in we started discussing marriage, but we were both in separate states (~1.5 hours away from one another) and both pursuing 6 year doctoral programs. There wouldn’t be any time or money for marriage before we graduated. However, we had discussed getting engaged and married before my boards, so I wouldn’t have to change my last name after I got licensed. Some other friends who had already graduated were getting engaged, and some other people in my year were getting engaged. I just didn’t want to wait any longer! In our 5th year we talked about marriage and getting engaged a ton! What we’d have for a wedding, kids, etc. Finally I asked for a timeline on when approximately it would happen: within the next year, couple of years, years from now…he told me probably in 3 years. I was kind of sad because almost every conversation we had ended up about getting engaged and married yet it wasn’t going to happen for a few more years. I even told him this. He laughed and told me to trust him and that it would all work out in the end. I shouldn’t worry about it, but of course I did! And I was even more angry that he at one point was laughing at me! I later found out that during all of these conversations he actually had already had the ring! He proposed after my finals for fall semester of our fifth year during our usual Friday routine of catching up on our favorite shows we’ve missed during the week. I thought it was the cutest thing ever because it was so us! Very laid back. Later when I asked him why he told me 3 years was because he didn’t want me to know when he would actually propose. We both knew it would happen eventually but he still wanted it to be a surprise and it totally was! That’s when he told me he couldn’t help laughing because he had it planned all along, already had the ring, etc. It was also cute he remembered our conversation 3 years earlier in regards to getting engaged during school and getting married before I sat for boards!
Post # 5
@winstonchurchill: We never talk about it! what i mean is i used to bring it up and then he would change the subject and then sometimes we’d fight haha! at some point, I just gave up talking about it. So the proposal was a complete surprise.
One weekend I decided to stay back home and not go with him to visit his parents, I always go with him. Only because I wasn’t in the car with him in the 3-hour drive he was able to do some thinking. Instead of driving straight to his mom’s house he detoured into the city and stopped by the jewelry shop and bought my e-ring!
Yep guys can be so undecisive for years and then BAAM! they make their mind up in a jiffy.
I asked what broke the camel’s back? and he said he tried to imagine a life without me and said he couldn’t or it made him feel sad. I didn’t want to ruin the moment and ask him “now why would you wanna try to imagine a life without me huh?!” lol 😉
Post # 6
@winstonchurchill: We got engaged after three months. Our only discussions about marriage were surrounding the fact that I didn’t see myself ever getting married 😛 I didn’t force, nag, or try to direct his proposal because I didn’t know it was coming. That’s my preference because then I know he actually wants to rather than he did it because he felt pressured and it got me to shut up 😛