For the Bees with divorced parents/inlaws

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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710 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’ve found it easy, I just have them on different tables. But my parents can be civil towards each other so I don’t need to stress they will fight. 

It’s a shame some parents can’t put aside their issues for one day and just be happy for their daughter/son.

Post # 3
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426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I had a top table with my parents who are divorced and the step parents were on family tables right by the top table! my parents dont get on but put it all aside for our big day and got on well which was a joy to see and so good they could put differences aside. i even have some lovely pics of myself and my husband with my mum and dad 🙂 i will treasure these always! Hopefully your parents can put their differences aside and enjoy your day and make it lovely for u!

Post # 4
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183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My parents are divorced and I am putting them with their significant others at separate tables. I am not having a head table so it will work out 🙂

Post # 5
Hostess
9903 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

Liss13:  My family is a blast in this sense – they’re all divorced.

We ended up having mom & her family at one table, the dad’s siblings at the next table (Who are all still friendly with mom to act as a buffer) then dad’s table with my step-mom and her family.  Amazingly, everyone was amicable, they all got along amazingly well and there was no drama at all at the wedding (which was one of my biggest fears about the whole day).

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Liss13:  FI’s parents are divorced and seating isn’t too much of a problem.  What has become an issue now since his grandmother can’t attend the reception is introductions.  FMIL will be escorted by a groomsman since it’s uneven and now we don’t know what to do with FFIL.  Neither of us want his “girlfriend” introduced into the party.

Would FFIL walking in alone be odd?    

Post # 7
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812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

We seated DH’s biological father with my parents at their table, and his mom and step-dad were at another table. Do any of your parents get along and maybe could be seated together so you don’t have 4 parents tables?

Post # 10
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812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

Liss13:  You can totally kick step-parents out. Just do one picture with, one without. Anyone who pitches a fit is just making your case for why they shouldn’t be in the picture. 🙂

Loved it. LOVED IT. Jane was fantastic, everything came together really well, we got awesome pictures, our guests loved it and had a lot of fun. We had a skunk there which was very cool. We picked the skunk because we thought a mammal would be cutest and they’re dressed for the occasion in a little tux. Penguins apparently are such assholes that they require two handlers each. (aka extra $$)

If you PM me I can send you more details and pictures if you want.

Post # 11
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1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Liss13:  Seating wasn’t a problem for us.  DH’s parents are still together and my parents have been divorced for 22 years, but luckily they have always been amicable with each other.  Mom has been dating a guy for years now and he came to my wedding, and Dad remarried a few years ago, but he opted not to bring his wife.  

The seating arrangement for them wasn’t what I had originally pictured.  I wanted my parents to sit together, but because my mom had invited so many friends and there were certain relatives of mine that did not get along, I ended up having to seat my dad at a different table with his side of the family.  That actually worked out really well since he hadn’t seen them in so long that everyone at the table was glad they were able to sit with him.  My mom got to sit with her closest friends, boyfriend, and a couple of her brothers and sisters, so everyone was happy.

The only “drama” that happened was that I accidentally sat 2 uncles that don’t get along at the same table, but my dad quickly rearranged the seating between some tables and I didn’t even notice until he told me after the reception.

Post # 12
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2047 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

 

Liss13:  my parents are divorced but they are amicable…however I did seat them at diff tables just cause it worked out nicely. We had 2 diff kinds of tables (8 person and 12 person) my parents both have multiple siblings so I just had my mom and her immediate family at one and my dad with his at another. My dads side ended up having a few people not make it so it was odd numbers but it really didnt matter. The caterers just set the table for how many would be sitting there. (advice…dont get hung up on having exact perfect amount of people at each table….it will save you stress lol)

Post # 13
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389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Norton Country Club

Both sets of our parents are divorced… only my mother has (successfully) remarried.  We will do a table for each- my mother & stepfather and siblings, my father and his sisters, MIL and her sisters and mother, FIL (if he comes) and his siblings/parents.  Since our sweetheart table is at the head of the dancefloor, we also decided to put moms on one side of the floor and dads on the other.  Equal proximity to us, but with a big buffer zone in case.

Post # 14
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63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Liss13:  Been there. We had four rows of long tables, and DH’s parents had front row tables at opposite ends. My parents are still married so they were in the middle. I was a little nervous, but everything turned out fine. 

Post # 15
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174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Having a cocktail receptio , and inviting certain people on both sides to keeo mum and dad occupied and out of trouble, mum is single and dads girlfriend isnt coming (actually shes in a hissy fit with me at the moment so im glad he isnt coming)

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