(Closed) HELP!!! From the bees with gemstone rings and for those without

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do people not realize what a coloured gemstone e-ring is unless told?
    yes : (36 votes)
    38 %
    no : (59 votes)
    62 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    584 posts
    Busy bee

    Here’s my e-ring, it’s an aquamarine with sapphire side stones.  Everyone knows it’s an engagement ring, and I’ve had a lot of people be super excited that it’s not a diamond.  We’ve even had a couple “copycats” who went the non-diamond route after seeing my ring.  I say do it! 

    ETA: That was in really good light, it usually looks bluer than in that pic.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1855 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’ve got a gemstone ering, and most people ask “Is that your engagement ring???”  I think it’s a mixture of the non-traditional style and the overall size of my ring (the center stone is pretty big).  But, they are always complimentary once I tell them.  Personally, if I see a ring on the left hand ring finger, I assume it’s an engagement ring. 

    Is there a compromise between what you and your FI like?  Maybe a more traditional setting with a gemstone center stone?  Or a bold gemstone wedding band to add to the set?  There are certainly settings out there that are a blend of modern/traditional; for example, my own ering is a large aqua emerald cut center with more delicate feminine diamond bows flanking it.  Estate stores are great for find those types of pieces.

    Post # 6
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    1086 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    What I think is most important is the setting of the ring to give off the engagement look. I have a black diamond ring (this is my third time posting it tonight lol) and I adore it and everyones gotten the hint as it’s shaped like an e-ring.

    No one has questioned it, but I have had people compliment the black diamond and say that’s what they really want. As long as the setting looks like an e-ring it really doesn’t make people question it too much

    Post # 8
    Member
    584 posts
    Busy bee

    @Elegant_Oppulence:  Thanks!! 🙂 

    I agree with @inspiredcreationsbyhaley, if I see a ring on the left hand ring finger, I assume it’s an engagement ring.  Non-diamond E-rings are a huge trend right now so I think people are beginning to pick up on that fact and knowing it’s the finger & hand, not the stone, that tells if it’s an E-ring or not. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    2609 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    nobody has ever questioned me about them but I have a fairly obvious ” wedding set”. I think the first 2 you posted would draw fewer questions ( and I think they’re prettier too 🙂

    Post # 10
    Member
    513 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I also have a gemstone e-ring, mine is a marquise emerald center stone and pink sapphires flanking it.. 

    Most people are curious about it and compliment it, but there was one person that when I first was engaged that asked me if it was a ‘cocktail ring’!!! I was a little hurt at the time BUT I quickly got over it.  I am also originally from the UK and gemstones are very traditional over there so I knew I always wanted a gemstone and YES FI also was like yours and a little reluctant at first as the thought that people would think the same (in fact he quickly learnt that a natural emerald cost more than a diamond!!).  However, he also wanted to have it custom designed with something very specific to us and he eventually went with the emerald which I LOVE… 

     

    Post # 11
    Member
    807 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I have an aquamarine with diamond side stones. I’ve never had anyone question whether it was an engagement ring; I think it’s a combination of the fact that it’s on my left ring finger and that it otherwise looks very much like an e-ring. Mostly people just tell me how much they like it 🙂

    Post # 12
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    104 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Here’s my sapphire engagement ring.  My fiance had the same worries as your fiance about going with a sapphire over a diamond, but they were quickly squashed when I tried on a sapphire ring…he knew it was so me!!  My friends & family that know me well have said the same thing.  Actually, a few people asked before they even saw the ring, “did you get a pearl or a sapphire?, lol, they know that I’m not a white diamond kind of girl!

    Keep in mind diamonds really aren’t all that “traditional” & really didn’t become common until the 1930s or so & really only in the United States.  Get the ring you love & don’t worry about what a handful of people might think, because chances are they’ll love it!!!

    Post # 13
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    4466 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I have a diamond ring and I think when I see a gemstone I would assume its an engagement ring based on the style. Like you can tell when a gemstone ring is more than just costume jewelry. 

    Post # 15
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    1359 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I have a morganite with moissanite halo. People always say, “Is that an engagement ring?” And then I say “Yeah!” And then they say, “What kind of stone is that?” And then I tell them, and they say it’s beautiful, and that’s about it. I think if you are wearing a fancy ring on your left hand people will either assume it’s an engagement ring or ask if it is. I also think it will be especially clear once you are also wearing a wedding band.

    Post # 16
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    1853 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I actually had a temporary sapphire and CZ halo ring before my current one (very similar to shutterbugKELLY‘s but fewer lovely details) and I noticed that often people didn’t realize it was an engagement ring unless they already knew I was engaged, and they didn’t usually ask. It just randomly came out one day that a few of my coworkers/friends hadn’t known all this time. I loved the blue oh so much, and would’ve wanted a permanent ring that was similar, but we’re having a long engagement and I just didn’t want the ambiguity factor for so long… I really wanted my status to be obvious because I get pretty uncomfortable with undue male attention if/when it happens. That’s just me though. I do think that gemstone rings are gorgeous, and often miss my beautiful blue halo. 

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