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I dont really know how it will change our lives... I mean wwe already have bank accounts together, a home, a puppy and have been living together for two years.
The only thing i know will change is the closeness of our relationship! We are a very spiritual couple and we seem to bond very siritually... essentially the wedding ceremony so extremely important to us...
Other than that, probably my name and the title of calling him my husband! :)
I think for us, it will be an emotional change, not a physical one.. yeah, we'll have a joint bank account, but it will be about calling him my husband, working on our life together, talking about and planning for children, not just "someday" but actually when. It will be an accountablity thing, we are legally entwined. I think it just adds an extra layer of connection to us.
I agree with Ella1978 - it will be more of an emotional change for us and not really one that will affect our day-to-day life.
We've been together for 4.5 years and have lived together for 3.5 of those. We already share finances (in our own way, and we don't plan to change our system after we get married).
It will be nice to call him my husband though and just to feel like our life as a family unit has begun.
Oh, and babies!
We've been living together for 5 years and the only thing I feel will change is the level of commitment. Theres no running away now!
I also feel that our families can fully accept one another as friends with out fear of us breaking up and ending their friendship.
My FI and I have made a deliberate and inconvenient decision NOT to live together, for exactly this reason. I want something tangible to change after we're married. I wish I could direct everyone who asks me why we're not living together (even though we own a house together) to this thread!
(I don't want to offend anyone! Please don't be hurt!)
We will have lived together 3 yrs by the time we get married, but I feel like there will be a lot of changes -
I'm kind of glad we won't have to adjust to sharing an apartment during our 1st year of marriage. It was a little rough for us since we both like a lot of alone time. I'm glad we're past that!
We have been together for 6 (soon 7) years and have lived together for 5 of those. We met at University (Sweden) and b/c my parents had bought me an apartment there, he moved in with me after a while together. We lived in that apartment until 1,5 years ago when we moved to Stockholm (capital of Sweden) and bought an apartment together. B/c we were not married the bank requested we made a “Cohabitating agreement” (very common in Sweden) and a Will between us regarding the apartment. This procedure is as I said very common in Sweden, as is cohabitation before marriage. I'll say that nearly 100 % of those getting married cohabit before the wedding.
So, what will change? Other than to have children and to change my last name I don't wish marrying would change my life. I like things just the way they are, but o/c I cannot deny the huge emotional aspect of marrying (for me). (Oh and o/c the Will and the agreement will be obsolete after marrying)
Nothing except we'll finally be able to consumate the marriage, combine our finances have the same last name, eventually have kids and be offical in the eyes of God. Oh I also have to start cooking for him instead of just myslef we have different diets.
Nothing feels that different for me yet. I haven't changed my name or combined our bank accounts yet because in a couple of months we're moving to another state and I don't want to have to do it twice.
So right now it still feels like we're just living together since I still pay my bills with "my money", and my maiden name is still everywhere.
I think for us it will mostly be financial. We currently split everything 50/50, but I am in grad school and he is working full time. So for me to earn my half of everything is stressful, and I don't manage every month. Once we're married, I'll be more comfortable combining things a bit more.
Other than that...we already have a timeline for buying a house and having kids...so that's probably going to stay the same. And he'll be at his job thru the end of my time in school, so our work/life situation might change THEN but will stay the same for now.
oh, and I'll get to be on his health insurance. Which will mean I'll have dental and vision again!! hooray.
I've been dating my SO for almost 3 years and will have been officially living together for the better part of 2 years (I spend a lot of nights at his place, anyways, but it wasn't official until we both began to buy new furniture and refreshing the look).
A lot of our friends tell me that we're practically married, but I disagree. I was married before and most people point out that my first marriage was more of a live-in partner situation (the irony!) than what I have with my current SO.
As of now, because the SO and myself aren't married/engaged, I can't imagine us purchasing a house together or co-signing for any property. I would love to see that happen someday, but I'm just not that comfortable sharing that financial burden with him without the "official" declaration. I also am not comfortable having him sign for a property that I will live in. I don't know why I feel that way...I just thought it'd be equally nice for us to work together for something that big of a purchase. I've always imagined myself being in equal standing with my husband when it came to these things...
And I guess I might feel that way because when I lived with him things were pretty rough. Once we moved out and co-signed a lease, I felt a lot better about the security of the relationship. Is it weird for me to think that?
I'm on the same page as many of the posters here. Apart from saying, "This is my husband/wife..." when making introductions, switching to the same bank, and no longer planning a wedding, life is going to be pretty much the same. Better, even. It's a comfort to me, because no matter what changes I'm going through - good, bad, exciting, scary, wonderful - I always, ALWAYS fight it tooth and nail. And then the change happens, and I adjust.
We lived together 2 years before we got married. But this feels better.
1) We were starting to have job situations and it's much better knowing that we've committed to being together and so working together on finding jobs in the same location.
2) Money - we paid for each other but still kinda kept track, now it's a lot more combined.
3) Instead of just sometime in the future we'll have kids, the discussions are more real
4) Discussions in general about the future are more real knowing we've taken that step to commit to be by one another's side and there's another persons opinion to seriously consider
DH thought it was weird to see his mom and dad addressed on our mail... Mr & Mrs. G.... no, it was really just seeing our names instead. In his head, he has always known his parents as Mr. & Mrs. G but now he needs to get used to seeing that greeting for us!
We've lived together for about 5 years - I dont really see the wedding changing much between us, but I am expecting to notice a change in the way other people view our relationship. We're as committed as we can possibly be, but others just don't see it that way until it's official.
My name will change, but I dont really have much of an attachment to my family name...it will be a bump up in the alphabet though so that will be exciting for anything that is organized in alphabetical order by last name! (Anyone who has been through 12 years of public school with a "W" last name will understand :)
More importantly, I really don't want anything to change...Right now I'm happier than I've ever been! The wedding is really just a day to celebrate the love and happiness we already have~
We've been together 6 years, living together 5. Nothing really changed for us.
Fewer jokes about who gets the master bedroom if we split up.
Weird, but that was about it.
We were planning to get a joint checking account at our new bank, but decided that we needed something to look forward to when we married. So we have that and taxes. I already, unofficially, use his last name.
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