Post # 1
I just sent out a slew of save the dates. One to a friend that lives over 1,000 miles from where the wedding is going to be held. She has a toddler and it’s a no-kids wedding. I know she usually takes great pains to make out of state weddings but I know it’s hard on her. And this is a winter wedding in Michigan. Not the best travel weather
I wanted to invite her, I spoke at her wedding, we used to be really close. How do I tell her that I totally understand if she can’t make it so she knows that the pressure is off?
Do I wait until she says something to me or just follow up with an email saying “Hey! I sent out our save the dates – I know it’s hard on you and to make everything even more difficult our venue doesn’t allow children. We totally understand if you can’t make it!” Or something to that tune. Is that too presumptuous?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t say anything. There’s no way of phrasing it that can’t be misinterpreted as “I don’t actually want you to come; I just invited you out of obligation.” If she mentions that she’s not sure she can make it or something, THEN you can respond with a bunch of “oh of course, I completely understand, and I won’t be put off at all if you can’t make it. I just love you and wanted to invite you!”
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I wouldn’t say anything. See what she RSVPs.
Post # 5
@iarebridezilla: ok good – thanks. Yea I’m sure sending out a random email so soon would look bad. I don’t want her to think she’s not welcome!
Post # 6
I’m in a similar boat so I’d love it if anyone has any suggestions. Because I’m getting married so far from where I currently live (as some background FI and I moved to Australia about 18 months ago but our families and many friends are still in Ireland), there are friends inOz who I would like to invite but I don’t want them to feel obligated to travel and I definitely don’t want them to feel like they’re invited as a gift grab. I know some of my friends would love an excuse to visit Ireland, but its still a lot to expect.