(Closed) For the marrieds: wedding dos and don’ts?

posted 8 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010


Post # 4
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m glad I had a small destination wedding. We could spend more time with each person and only people who cared enough to come came to the wedding. I’m glad I chose the location – it’s beautiful. I’m also glad that we didn’t have to spend a ton to have a nice wedding.


I regret not hiring a less traditional, younger, more experimental photogrpaher – ours was older and traditional, and we didn’t get any fun, relaxed, casual, silly shots that we wanted, just posed and traditional shots, wihch is not us

Post # 5
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Glad I did: hand made my veil and headband, handstamped the napkins with cute marriage sayings, helped write the ceremony to make it us, hired a violin duet for the ceremony, paid a lot (for our budget) for photography, and small wedding size (only 90 guests total)

Do over: not agree to remake my seating chart (for the 3rd time) the day before the wedding, stress out so much about the details!

Post # 6
1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Private home

1 – I would have had a bustle for my dress

2 – I would have not splurged on special paper for the ceremony programs (or would have made them myself on the paper)

3 – I would have told my mother in law that we could make our own albums and used the extra part of the photography budget to do an aniversary or TTD shoot.

That’s about it – otherwise it was a wonderful day!

Post # 7
3871 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think most of the smaller details and larger ones are up to the bride and groom. Everyone’s different.

Like some brides really want a video of their wedding.  I didn’t.

But the one advice that a friend of mine told me and I would pass on to other brides and groom would to remember to eat.  Either tell your bridesmaids to give you something to eat while you are getting dressed.  Of course, I was too nervous to eat while I was getting ready.  My sister did have grapes for me to nibble on.  It didn’t fill me but at least my stomach wasn’t empty.

And the day will go by fast! One minute you are at the church and next minute it’s the end of the reception.

I didn’t have the chance to say hello to everyone which I’m sad about.  But then again, if I did, I maynot have been on the dance floor as much as I was and that was something I didn’t want to give up.  I had 130 guests come and I wish the guests that I didn’t get a chance to talk to would have come up to me to say goodbye.

Post # 8
1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m very glad we’ll have video. I’m glad I had a long discussion with my photographer before the wedding about exactly what I wanted. I’m glad I ate lunch. I’m glad we had several get togethers for out of town guests in addition to the wedding.

I wish I’d planned the packing up better. I wish I had eaten more food and some cake.

Post # 9
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Glad we did:  One random decor detail I am so glad we included was to have our cocktail bar placed along one side of the dance floor.  This helped make the reception so much more social and fun, like we were all at a bar or lounge.  This was at the suggestion of our super awesome and experienced wedding coordinator, which was overall the best wedding decision we made, hands down!!!  

Do over:  stressed over the seating chart; overpaid for ceremony music; lost my original STD mailing list and accidentally forgot to send invites to 2 guests (I’m still sooo embarrassed about that last one)

Post # 10
2476 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010


  • for the photobooth– it was a great success! 
  • that I didn’t spend a small fortune on my dress… I had my moments of dress regret, but I’m glad I stuck to my guns and did not buy more than one dress
  • I didn’t sweat the little details… no one will care if your linens don’t match the dress that don’t match the men’s shirts.
  • I ate my meal– it was so yummy!
  • we did table toasts… we were able to at least say hello and thank each table for attending
  • we paid a little more than we had originally budgeted for our photographer… she was worth every penny!
  • I wore 2.5″ heels… I was able to dance the night away and still be comfortable


  • sending Save-The-Date Cards… they were really cute, but not worth the extra time and money
  • not remembering my hair flower accessory!  I left it at our hotel!  🙁

I don’t have too many regrets… I really really loved and enjoyed my wedding day!  I wish I could re-live it!  🙂

Post # 11
5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m glad we had a Bridesmaid or Best Man stay behind the morning of to help set things up. It was nice to relax knowing she had it covered.

I’d re-do the rehearsal. We were supposed to start at 6:30. But we were 30 min late because I was downstairs stressing over flowers. Get some help, and don’t worry about it! = )

Post # 12
952 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am so happy I did about 95% of the work planning. It’s great because then you don’t have a million people putting in their input. In addition to that, we paid for it all ourselves which also deterred people from trying to plan our day. We splurged on the photographer but it’s so worth it. Took a week off before the wedding to do last minute stuff (which there is way more than you might expect!). Didn’t go around visiting people all day, made people come to me. Instead I hung out with my bridesmaids and had SO much fun. Sat back and let everyone else take care of all the little things.

I regret not paying for everything way beforehand. Fully pay for things as you book them or at least pay a huge chunk. Makes the money issue way less stressful. Also we didn’t have everything completely organized down to a timeline. But it all worked out in the end!

Post # 13
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Super glad we did: -first look

                            -sweetheart table

                            -Friday night wedding

                            -Candy buffet

We didn’t (or at least tried not to) sweat the small stuff.  Realizing that all of the little details that brides usually get so worked up over are the things that guests really don’t notice. Ex. We didn’t have ceremony programs; nobody cared, we didn’t have a wedding party; nobody cared, we didn’t do a champagne toast; nobody noticed, we didn’t have elaborate centerpieces; nobody noticed. 

ADVICE: Do what YOU want, don’t worry about what others are going to think…afterall, you are the one who is going to remember it forever, your guests, however grateful they are, will enjoy themselves and move on. 

Post # 14
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Our wedding was at one p.m.   Bridal party members as well as several family members were there from 11 a.m. on.  I’m so glad I ordered food for everyone (two sub trays, one veggie tray, chips, soda, water – all from wegmans) and put it in the kitchen at the church.  My mom said I didn’t  need to and everyone could run out to get food as necessary.  But we had lots of Out of Town family who didn’t know the area.  Plus, I didn’t want people leaving and not returning when necessary.  It was nice to have plenty of food available for whoever needed some food before the ceremony.  It was awesome!  My mom spotted two guests who had driven 5+ hoiurs and come straight to the church.  She offered them a sandwhich for which they were grateful.  It was a little detail but many family members/ bridal party members expressed appreciation.

Also super glad that I had a friend fully take on the role of DOC.  It was so nice to not have to worry about details the day of.  I knew everything was in capable hands and if any issues arose they would be handled – but not by me! 🙂

Post # 15
1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Glad for: our DOC- she was seriously a life saver! Without her I don’t think we could ahve pulled everything off so smoothly! My husband wants me to add,”She was a Godsend. It couldn’t have happened without her!” We’re both glad we had our friend, Brother Michael, as our priest to marry us. I’m glad I opted for a veil with a blusher which covered my whole face- standing in the room getting ready to walk up the aisle and catching a look at myself in the mirror with it on is when the “OMG! I’m getting married!” moment hit me. It was the spark which lit me all day. The open bar- it was a huge hit with guests, it helped fuel much of the dance-floor fun, and it allowed me to over induldge in mimosas. Mmmmm…


Regret: Not inviting more people. Out of 185 guests invited, only 80 were able to make it. I wish we’d gone ahead and invited a few more people whom we wanted to be there, but didn’t invited thinking we’d have too many guests. I would have enjoyed having the company of more of our friends and family members around us! I also wish we’d had the foresight to designate someone(s) else as the sober drivers at the end of the night. I ended up in a stressfest after everything was all over because Out of the 15 or so people left after cleaning up, only 3 of us were sober and there were 4 or 5 vehicles which needed driving. Not getting more pictures of the double rainbow which arched over the reception hall!

Post # 16
2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Glad I did – made a special guest book where each guest had a loose page of paper that they answered questions on – like how do you know the bride/groom, what do you want them to remember about this day, what’s your favorite memory of the bride or groom, draw a picture of yourself, draw a picture of the married couple, etc…

Do Over – I would have brought safety pins – my bustle broke and no one had anything on them to fix it!  it was freaking annoying and my grandma kept yelling at me to fix it and asking me “why don’t your bridesmaids have anything on them to fix it for you?”

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