- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
I find myself making a mental list of “that’s a good idea for when I have kids” and “I will never do that when I’m a parent”.
What are your ideas, both to-do and to-avoid when you have kids? (Yes, ideas may change after we have kids, but what’s in your pre-kid mind?)
For the people that are parents, what did you have in mind that you found went down the toilet after you had kids?
Here’s some of my list:
– Child will not rule the house. There will be consequences to their actions. (I see way to many households controlled by the children rather than the adults.)
– Start them off young eating what the adults eat; expose them to many different foods early on.
– When they are old enough (probably 12+) make them responsible for 1 meal per week. They have to pick out the recipe, I buy the ingredients when I do the normal grocery shopping, and they have to make the meal. I’ll help, but I want them to learn how to cook before college.
– “Please” and “thank you”. If you don’t say “thank you”, you have to give the item back. (Such as stores that give kids candy.)
– Treat animals properly: no pulling tails/ears, no “riding” the dog, etc. Teach them to always ask before petting someone’s dog.
– Give kids some choice, but give them choices I want them to make. Limit the choices, such as “do you want to wear the green shirt or the yellow shirt?” rather than “what do you want to wear?”.
– No TV before age 2. Rules on how much TV and video-game time is allowed when they are kids.
– When they are in grade-school and maybe even in junior high (hopefully they will find something they like that they want to carry on throughout their school-age years), they have to choose at least 1 physical activity to do: soccer, baseball, dance, karate, yoga, I don’t care what, but they have to do an activity.
– In high school they have to do at least 1 extracirricular activity each year; be it sports, drama, chess club, FBLA, etc.