Post # 1
Hi bees! My wedding is right around the corner and gifts are starting to arrive in the mail (eep!), so exciting! But how do I know if they’re meant for the upcoming showers or the wedding? Does it matter? I was thinking of sending one batch of initial thank yous for the shower gifts and then a second batch of thank yous for wedding gifts (we want to use our wedding pics in the thank you notes). Is that what’s expected or no? I want to make sure all of my guests know that I appreciate their gifts and all of this etiquette can be confusing! Thanks for your help 🙂
Post # 2
I’m afraid I can’t help you as I have no idea but I just wanted to ask something that has always confused me : There’s a bridal shower with a registry right? What goes on that list? Stuff for your house and new life with DH? Then why doesn’t he get to come to the party!? And if this IS the case, what do you have on your wedding registry? More stuff for your house and life together?
Showers are not a thing where I come from so if you have a wedding list, that’s for both of you.
Post # 3
If your wedding date is in July, I would assume that anything you are getting now is still for your shower.
At the same time, I wouldn’t worry about sending a thank you card for a gift that was meant as a wedding gift and that person not getting a picture. Unless people are super close to you (mom, dad, sibblings, grandparents), they aren’t going to feel bad about not getting a wedding picture. I know I have put more than a few of them in the garbage. I’m don’t just keep stuff for the sake of keeping it, and I’m not into scrap booking so I have no place to put it. Save yourself the money on prints.
Post # 4
I totally hear what your saying! Actually FI and I made our registry completely together and he picked out at least 50% of the items with full itnent on using them 🙂 A lot of the items are things for our future home together, but that doesn’t necessarily make them feminine. We also threw some items on there like tools and furniture more geared towards his tastes so our registry would reflect both of our needs 🙂 Anyhoo, we’re having 2 showers and the one is a small party with only family ladies the other shower is a co-ed family and friends picnic style party!
Post # 5
Misswhowedding: Thanks, that’s a realistic perspective that is definitely helpful!
Post # 6
MissGoosie: I wouldn’t worry about the intent. I would just get your thank- you note out as soon as possible.
There have been many posts from Bees who wanted to use a pic on ther wedding thank- you notes who ended up being late with the notes because it took so long to get the pic from the photographer.
Just keep an eye on the time and be prepared to change to a stock thank- you card if the pic issue delays you getting your thank- you notes out.
Post # 7
I would simply send thank you notes as I received them thanking them for their gifts and letting them know that you look forward to seeing them at the shower or thank them for attending or that you look forward to seeing them at the wedding if they weren’t invited to the shower.
Please don’t wait for photographs to send a thank you note. People don’t care that much about a picture as much as they do about an acknowledgement of their gift. You can always send a holiday card with your wedding photo. That’s what we did. I finished all of my thank you notes within three weeks of my wedding.
I am still waiting on thank you notes from several brides who were supposedly sending photo cards.