Post # 1
Just wondering if there are any marriages that you look up to, that give you inspiration to have a happy and healthy marriage?
I do, there’s a couple that I went to high school with, cute couple. High school sweethearts, they grew up in the same church, they stayed together throughout high school and college. I’m not really friends with her and her husband but I see them on facebook all the time and their marriage seems perfect. They were engaged for about a year and throughout that year, they planned their wedding, didnt live with each other but got them an appartment right before the wedding and waited till after they were married to move in with each other. He graduated college before the wedding and she graduated shortly after, he’s a person that makes blue prints for building constructions (not sure what that occupation is called) and she is a registered nurse, both had their careers pretty much established when they were married. About a month ago they purchased their first home together and even got themselves a little puppy to call their own. Everything just seems to be going so good for them and they seem like they are a very blessed couple.
I look up to that couple so much and just because, in my opinion, they did everything right. Even though my SO wasnt my high school sweetheart, I want my marriage to be like theirs. I see her mention how she’s trying to keep the tradition of cooking for her husband every night, like her grandma and mom did for their husbands. They are always posting pictures of going on couples outings with their friends and family, hiking, iceskating, football games. It just seems like their marriage is full of faith and fun! 🙂
Post # 3
My parents, and most recently MR VB’s parents.
My parents were married young (right out of high school), and they’re still married 33 years later.
Mr VB’s parents are still married too, committed to working on their relationship as well.
Post # 4
@veryberry13: Very lucky 🙂
My parents are divorced and both remarried, same with my SO. We both have like double the family, haha! The holidays are hectic for us.
Post # 5
My great grandparents. My great grandfather was a jeweler, and he married my great grandmother with a wedding band HE made! They were married from the 40s to the early 90s (when he passed). She was single until she passed five years ago–after 15 years of waiting to see him again!
And I inherited her wedding band! Which is the best thing ever.
Post # 6
@BrandNewBride: Wow thats amazing and touching 🙂
I would love to inherit something like that.
Post # 7
My parents and DH’s parents are both great examples for us, as are DH’s aunt/uncle, and my grandparents (both sets). Such faith and love in all those family relationships, which is one reason why our families get along so wonderfully. We are both so, so blessed in that regard.
And to the original poster, I think it’s great that you look up to this “perfect” couple, but also make sure you are taking into account that everything you know about them is from social media. You said yourself that you aren’t friends with them. So think about it…on social media, everyone puts their best foot forward. It’s their “highlight reel” if you will. And when we see other people’s Facebook pages or Twitter feeds, we compare all our worst moments and most mundane parts of life to the “glamorous” and “perfect” highlights of another person’s life. So don’t be discouraged if you feel like you can’t live up to a perfect standard! I would really encourage you to seek out older couples who have lived through a lot, and get to know their real, raw stories. Or even get to know some married peer couples that can be honest with you and let you have realistic expectations. You will find that even the most “perfect” couples on Facebook don’t have perfection in real life. But honestly, that’s where the beauty lies. 🙂
Post # 8
@Mine29: haha I bet they are very hectic! But, to be honest, it’s hectic for us too-our parents live in different states 16 hours away!!! AAHHH!
PS great post love hearing the stories!
Post # 9
@TogetherThroughLife: Yes, thank you. I have taken into consideration that it all might be just for show but who knows. I admire their morals, with the being done/almost done with college and then getting married, waiting to live with each other after they are married. Thats just something I look up to for some reason.
To be honest, their isnt an elderly couple I can look up to…most of my family or the older couples that I know are divorced or have some kind of scandalous intentions….
Post # 10
My parents! They just celebrated 30 years of marriage! They met in college and got married right before they graduated…and 6 months later, I showed up
So it wasn’t 100% perfect, but they got married and have stayed married thru all the ups and downs of life. They gave me and my siblings a wonderful life and showed us all how to become good people. I look up to them because in a world where divorce is so common, they are one of the only couples I know that have been married this long..among my friends growing up..it was somehow a big deal that my parents were still together. I hope my upcoming marriage will be as strong and last as long!
ETA: SO’s mother is pretty much the opposite of my family. She divorced his dad and remarried and then divorced that guy too..
Post # 11
FI’s grandparents! And mine, too, but my grandfather passed away awhile ago, so it’s not quite the same.
They met just after WWII (she was 19, he was a few years older) and have literally been inseperable ever since. A few years ago, FI and I graduated college on the same day as one of his cousins. His grandmother came to our graduation and his grandfather went to the cousin’s graduation – it was the first night they had EVER spent apart in over 65 years of marriage.
They live on the Upper East Side of Manhattan and just have the cutest life. They always go with each other to their doctor’s appointments, read the paper in the morning together and still go to work every Saturday morning together (they started a business many years ago and still have a share in it). I am obsessed with them; they are beyond adorable and an absolute inspiration to both of us.
Post # 12
there was, they were perfect in my eyes. Had 2 beautiful children and seemed genuinely in love.
They are getting divorced…
So i guess mine and his parents since they have both been married 30+ years. BUt i just look up to them as human beings in general.
Post # 13
@Mine29: Haha, “scandalous intentions..” I think it’s cool that you admire that particular couple, it sounds kind of like me and my husband. I hope that people think as fondly of us as you think of this couple. 🙂
Post # 14
This might seen weird, since they’re fictional, but I’ve always loved Gomez and Morticia Addams. They’re so incredibly in love, support the other in everything, and though they’re insane, they’re perfect for each other.
As for real couples, there was a pair I was in the drama dept. with in high school. Met as sophomores, got engaged as seniors, went to AND GRADUATED FROM 2 different colleges that weren’t close, then got married. I believe this was their 2nd wedding anniversary. 🙂
Post # 15
@Mine29: I have two.
1) SO’s friends. They are very similar to us- husband (who SO has known since undergrad) is geeky, funny, kind of odd sense of humor, wife is outgoing, crafty, vivacious. They met in their late 30s (SO is early 40s & I’m mid 30s). They are just wonderfully supportive of each other. They speak highly of each other and just are clearly very in love but also best friends. They have great communication and just act very much as a team. I discuss my relationship with the wife more than anyone else because A) she loves us and knows SO really well and B) I highly value her opinion.
2) My cousin’s grandparents (like, the ones we don’t share). They were married for 60 years before he passed away from cancer 2 months after diagnosis. They seriously looked at each other with so much love, you just knew the sun rose and set on their spouse. I was sitting next to grandpa a week before he died and he watched grandma walk by in a very pretty, kinda blingy blouse. He said “Look at my beautiful bride!” It was so incredibly sweet. When he was on in-home hospice care in a hospital bed in the middle of the living room the day before he died she would not leave his side. She slept on the couch next to the bed and sat there all day calling him her blue eyed boy. It was incredible. He passed away Feb 2012 and she passed the following December and she missed him every single day. I think that pain was worse than any of her multiple illnesses. I want to love my SO that well, even if we most likely don’t have that long. They just never stopped appreciating each other.
Post # 16
I’m really lucky to have grown up in a family full of very happy marriages. It seriously took a few relationships of my own to actually understand incompatibility and that you couldn’t “work it out” with just anyone.
I also look up to a couple my age. They build each other up every day and it’s really spectacular to see how their lives have improved since meeting. I notice the habits and qualities of a successful marriage in the way they relate with each other.