For those of us who constantly hear "how are you feeling?"….

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

When i was pregnant thats all i heard too. its like hello im just pregnant i dont have a life threatning disease or anything! it defiently gets annoying but im sure if no one asked i would be like well no one cares? hard medium to find! 🙂

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’ve been feeling awesome this whole pregnancy (don’t hate me!) and when I tell people that, they almost look annoyed that I’m not complaining LOL. I think it’s just a conversation starter that non-pregnant people default into using too much, so I don’t let it annoy me.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m with Wylie231388, I’ve felt just fine this whole pregnancy – never had morning sickness at all.. I’ve maybe felt more tired sometimes, but that could be the lack of caffeine…

But I am starting to go CRAZY with this question!!! I guess it’s like when you’re engaged, every single person asks “When’s the wedding? How’s planning going? Are you ready?” etc. etc…. Now it has just shifted to “How are you feeling???” – I know it’s just a way for people to express an interest in the pregnancy, but it just gets really old….

DH and I were sitting at lunch the other day and someone asked me how I’m feeling – I said fine, and DH goes “I’m doing fine too!” – it was funny in the moment.. 🙂

I never know if these people want me to say that I’m miserable so they can launch into their own little horror stories from pregnancy or what….

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

shanbp:  I’m 23.5 weeks – we aren’t going to find out until LO makes an appearance! My mom didn’t have morning sickness and I’m one of 3 girls – my sisters didn’t really have morning sickness and they’ve had a mixture of boys and girls.. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Omg, I hate this question… Overall i dont feel aweful but i dont eel quite like myself but do people really want to hear it? lol

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Haha, this question is annoying. I usually just say “I’m fine how are you?” which then seems to disappoint people. I think that people just feel like they HAVE to say something related to your pregnancy (“how are you FEELING? When are you due?”) every time they see you, which isn’t true! I’m pregnant, yes, but I don’t think about it 24/7!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

shanbp:  Loved that article!

So sick of that question too!! It’s damned if you don’t, damned if you do. If I say, “pretty good” (because I know that despite the fact that I’m 33 weeks and it was 104 degrees today, it’s been an easy pregnancy once the morning [insert all day] sickness ended), they seem disappointed or like I’m withholding, or they want to tell me just how terrible they had it like they deserve a medal and I’m a worthless mom for not being miserable.

Or if I’m honest, and say, “well, today was 24-7 heartburn (just from bending over) and he has had his foot lodged under my right rib for so long I think it’s broken lol,” they look like they don’t know what to do and wished I’d just said “fine,” or again with the competitive “well, I had morning sickness all 9 mths, or preeclampsia or what not… I feel like there is just no way to answer that question. Ever 🙂

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I love it when people ask me how I’m feeling! I feel like it’s the nicest thing you can say to a pregnant woman (other than, “You look so good!”). I felt like crap for a long time during my first pregnancy and feel like crap now in my second, so… I think the question is nice. It’s better than, “So how much weight have you gained?” or “Should you be eating that?” or “Are you going to quit working?”

Also, this article was hilarious. 🙂

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

shanbp:  When I was pregnant, there was a woman at my work every single time she saw me “How we doing momma?”  It was fine the first time, but it got so old the times after the fact.  So people actually did act like I was dying.  What would get me was the invading my personal space, I hated when people tried to do that to me.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

I’m definitely guilty of this!  Can anyone offer any helpful hints as to what is the right thing to say/ask a pregnant friend? Should I just ignore it and carry on like normal? I don’t want them to think I don’t care or empathize because I’ve never been pregnant!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

emileee:  you’re sweet! It’s not terrible to ask at all, just funny what you recognize/notice after many times of being asked it, but truly, I am not and doubt any other bees are ever really offended/annoyed. As long as it isn’t a comment about too much weight or unwanted advice, you’re golden 😉

Since you asked: My favorite has been “you look great/tiny/glowing/beautiful” but what woman doesn’t love that? 🙂 I am also one of those people who, if I see you often, likes to just ignore it. I was like that with engagement/marriage too though. It’s nice for it to be recognized but after I have seen you recently I want my friends to know I care what’s going on in their lives too and the world doesnt revolve around my life change. 

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