Post # 1
a “bridal shower”, did you plan your own or did your wedding party plan it for you? Our issue is that our wedding is September 15. 70% of our guests are from out of town or state and so it’s not going to be a huge shower anyway, but we were wanting to have our shower the end of August like the 3rd week. We have 1 person each in our wedding parties and the one that is supposed to be planning it all is my sister (my only BM). She was going to put it all together for a few days before the wedding, but I am really really wanting it at the end of August even if it’s just California guests that come, but she will be going to Hawaii with her boyfriend at that time and said she cant. Question is….
Should we just throw our own at the end of August that way we don’t have to do our “couples shower”, bachelor/bachelorette combined party, and rehersal dinner in the same week (week of the wedding)? I’m thinking we should, but would this be ok and have any of you done it? Thanks bees!
Post # 3
Traditional etiquette says you can’t throw your own shower. But people break traditional etiquette all the time. How many guests are from in town? If it’s a small wedding, would a shower even be worth it for a few guests?
You will probably need someone there to help you at the wedding to keep track of who gave which gifts so you can send correct thank yous later.
Post # 4
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: Our wedding will be between 125-150 people. Our wedding is in California and so FI’s family is in California and that is where we will live in less than 2 months from now too, but my family and Marine Corps friends will be flying in from both Texas and a few other states.
Yeah I’m not too keen on throwing our own shower, but I don’t want to have EVERYTHING the week of because that is my birthday week too. I think it’s too much for people to come too. My sister was gonna plan it all and she lives in Washington, but they are going to Hawaii in August and she said that she cant do it in August because of that.