Post # 1
Did the wedding turn out OK? Did the kids behave? I really dont want kids at my wedding but this is going to be a battle that I am not going to win. If you had kids at your wedding how did it go? Did you hire a sitter or have activities? Im afraid that no one is going to want to leave their kids with a stranger…
For those who are going to have kids at your wedding…are you hiring a sitter/having activities? Thanks!
Post # 3
I can completely sympathise with you. I have always said that there were to be absolutely no kids at our wedding and while I have lost the battle it hasn;t been lost entirely. My future husband has a niece (4 years) and a nephew (won’t even be 1 year old) and he wants them at our wedding. Personally I don’t see the point of a 4 year old and a baby under 1 coming to what will be a long day but we haven’t invited any other children! and it’s staying that way!
I am very interested in what other bees did though 🙂
Post # 4
There was a thread yesterday about what one of the brides did for entertainment of the kids at the wedding.
Post # 5
We had four kids at our wedding (our nieces/nephew) and two other kids who only stayed for the ceremony/cocktail hour. They were all really well behaved, and it’s really only the parent of two of the kids that bothered me (he was walking around with his youngest ALL NIGHT–during speeches, the first dance, cake cutting) because she would’nt sit still. So you can see him walking around during all the photos. not a big deal, it just annoys me.
Post # 6
I actually had a dream last night that all these people brought kids who weren’t supposed to and i had a melt down lol. We’re handling the kids situation in a less than traditional way…. we’re inviting some but not all. We both really did NOT want kids at our wedding (mostly bc we’re not a fan of them, but also because of cost), but there were 3 families that we encountered some issues with. Fam 1- it would have caused a meltdown in my family if we’d not invited them. I know this bc my cousin just got married this summer and didn’t invite them, and there was a meltdown. Fam 2- FI’s uncle’s fam who prob would’ve either not shown up or just shown up and brought the kids anyways (did this at my shower). Fam 3- FI’s other uncle would’ve just not shown up.
So…… we invited those 3 fams with kids and no one else’s kids. Luckily all the other kids are my cousins’ kids and they are all pretty cool with the situation. They know how I feel about children and honestly they like a night out without them sometimes. There are 2 other families I think might give us some issues but if we’re questioned I think I”m going to make an age argument bc they have younger kids (under 5) and the kids that are coming are mostly older.
Post # 7
Wow! This is exact battle I am in the middle of right now. I really don’t want kids at our wedding, specifically cost and because of the space there. I get 100 chairs, and I really would like to use that for adults rather than little kids, who are not going to behave. Since most of our guests are travelling 1-2 hrs, my FI thinks that we need to invite their kids as well. I was thinking that we could do seperate room for the kids, but I am just not sure how that’ll work out? Is that ok to do? Any ideas?
Post # 8
What we are doing is inviting all the kids of parents that have to travel more than 1.5 hours away that are either in my family (my mom was adamant about the kids going) and FI’s family (he just doesnt want to fight that battle either) . This is going to add up to about 8-10 kids being there…UGH. We thought about hiring a babysitter on-site…but knowing the parents of these kids they would NOT be comfortable leaving their kids with a complete stranger. I dont think I would mind the reception as much. But knowing there will possibly be a 4 month old baby crying at my outdoor garden ceremony makes me CRINGE.
I am actually thinking about seating the mom and baby in the back of the ceremony so its easy exit and further away from us. awful i know but I already compromised on them being there in the first place!
Post # 9
My cousin brought her baby, which I was not keen on (because I have an aunt who always gushes over the baby and I find it a bit annoying, especially since DH and I do not want kids), but the baby behaved quite well so it wasn’t bad. Other than some initial gushing when she got there, nothing else happened.