Post # 1
Don’t write out what each specific meal is on the RSVP card!
Just have the guests check if they want chicken, vegetarian, beef, or whatever.
We made the mistake of writing out what each meal was – chicken marsala and vegetable stratta. The vegetable stratta was supposed to be only for the few vegetarians we have in our family. It is a more expensive meal and we budgeted for only a few people (the vegetarians) to select this meal.
Now since we wrote out the entire meals on our RSVP cards we are getting a lot of couples that are selecting 1 chicken marsala and 1 vegetable stratta. People must be curious as to what the stratta is! I have a feeling if we had just written “vegetarian” then most of the nonvegetarians would not have chosen this stratta option and would have stuck with the chicken!
Just my 2 cents. Obviously I wouldn’t care so much if my meals had been the same prices, but this is really breaking my budget and I didn’t expect it at all!
Post # 3
Wow such a little thing but it makes a BIG difference – Thanks for the tip!!!!!
Post # 4
Did you write it on the actual RSVP card, like the one where they write Mr and Mrs and how many people? We are invited for a wedding in Oct. and there wasnt a choice so I wasnt sure where to put it on our RSVP card or just put in a note in the invitation?
Post # 5
Yeah we wrote it out on our rsvp card. We put the M____________ and then boxes for them to check “will attend” or “unable to attend”.
And then we said “if attending, please write your names next to your entree choice”. And we listed out all the choices. Should have just wrote chicken or vegetarian instead!
Post # 6
We put “Beef,” “Fish” and “Vegetarian” on our RSVP cards, and we still had a lot of couples split between beef or fish and vegetarian. I think that often when there are two options – no matter how they are worded – a couple will want to do one of each and share. It certainly depends a lot on your crowd though 🙂
Post # 7
@Jamieawh, yeah you are probably right! The couples like to try all the options and share them.
I was just surprised though because we live in the midwest and most people are big on meat here and make fun of vegetarian meals. My fiance’s family especially are huge meat-lovers, so I was surprised to see some of his aunts and uncles choosing the vegetable option!
Post # 8
good tidbit of advice! thanks for sharing this =)
Post # 9
Thanks for that heads’ up!
Keeping it simple really can make it easier!
Post # 10
Interesting! As a guest, I actually disagree with this post – as I would prefer to make my choice based on what the meal would actually be. And, I often check ‘vegetarian’ on wedding menus, because of rubber chicken or overdone meat usually deters me (and I’m jealous of what my vegetarian friends are eating!). Granted, it’s hit or miss, depending on the venue. But, it is definitely interesting, based on what your experience was!
Post # 11
We are putting chicken or vegetarian ONLY on the card (smart!) but listing full item on our wedding website so anyone who is picky can go there to make their choice (ie, doesn’t like mushrooms or something like that)