Hey hive! I just had an idea to start a thread for those of use who want to start TTC but are waiting for whatever reason. I know I've been pretty obsessed about babies lately, so I'm looking for things to do to keep my mind off of babies for a while.
Let's make a "bucket list" of things you want to do - unrelated to pregnancy and babies - that you want to do in the next few months or years while you're waiting. I'll start...
Why are you waiting? DH and I are waiting until I get a better job with health insurance.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? Within 3-6 months from now, if we're lucky.
What's on your pre-baby bucket list?
Your turn, bees!
Why are you waiting? FI and I want to start as soon as we're married. I'm probably going off of BC a few weeks before the wedding.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? We are getting married in October of this year (exactly 5 months from today!!) so in about 5 months
Good luck to all of us that are wanting to TTC in the near future!!! :)
Why are you waiting? I always intended to wait until 30 so I could have a career, now I am a Ph.D. student and DH is on a career path which means he is out of town most of the time. So, I need to finish, get a job and we need to live together as a given.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? Within 2-3 years from now. I am currently 28.
What's on your pre-baby bucket list? Mostly travel
Why are you waiting? We're waiting until I'm eligible for 9 months of paid maternity leave in my job, which won't happen until next year. We'd also like to buy our own place so that we can really settle into life and make a place our own.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? Spring 2013
What's on your pre-baby bucket list? (some adapted from previous posts...)
Why are you waiting? We're waiting at least until our 1 year anniversary. We might wait a bit after that as well, since DH and I will have some pretty stressful work stuff right around that time
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? Most likely in the next 6 to 12 months.
What's on your pre-baby bucket list?
Why are you waiting? I want to get married first, and we are working on improving our financial situation.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? 2-3 years.
Why are you waiting? Right now we're waiting until the Fall because I don't want to go off birth control until then. I take birth control primarily for acne purposes, and I know that my acne is going to EXPLODE as soon as I go off...I'd rather be able to hide it more in the fall/winter months. I'm also terrified of losing my life as I know it, so I think that has a lot to do with it.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? October-ish?
What's on your pre-baby bucket list?
We've already purchased a baby-safe car. So that's one thing off the list.
Why are you waiting? Waiting till the wedding! August 4, so soon!!
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? Shortly after the wedding - about 3 months!
Just out of curiosity, how old are you ladies? I'm 31 and FI is 27.
Why? We're young, we want to save more money, we're not ready yet even though we both think babies are adorable.
When? 5 years from now-- we'll be 29. Feels like forever, but we'll need the time because we've got some big things to cross off our bucket list.
Why are you waiting?
We are waiting until after the weddingbrand waiting a little longer in attempt to plan for due date before summer, that way i can be at home with my son or the summer as well.
Looking to start trying in about a year.
Vegas one more time!
Buy a bigger home
Get better with home organization and cleaning
Why are you waiting? We want to be in a better place financially and there's still things we want to do, just us. Also, I'm 24 and not ready yet.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? 2-3 ish years. Although, if it happened sooner it would be an awesome thing still.
- two more holidays... Thailand 2012 for our first anniversary and USA 2013 (excited!).
- work on getting healthier. I have always had body issues so the idea of gaining weight again and body changes worry me so I want to be at a decent starting point! I know this sounds selfish, which is the reason I don't think I'm ready yet.
- buy a house or at least be close to being able to handle repayments easier
- start my career and find a real job (with maternity leave)
... Hmm, not as much as I thought!
Such a cute thread.
Why are you waiting? Because we don't have awesome health insurance, and only 2 bedrooms -need at least 3.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? This year! Ah that's the first time i've admitted that to anyone haha!
Why are you waiting? We are getting married in 26 days!!!!
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? Yes on the HONEYMOON!!!
What's on your pre-baby bucket list?
This is great! I get baby fever with each passing day but need to remind myself that there are reasons why we're waiting.
Why are you waiting? DH will be getting a new job in the spring. We are waiting to see if it will be in the same city or if we will have to move.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? Once we know where we will be living...I'm hoping to stay in our town, as I have a job I love and my family is here. He should find out by the end of this summer if we can stay in our town - if so I am hoping to start TTC soon!! If we have to move it will be longer as I will have to get a job myself. I'm a teacher so it can be hard to get in the system in a new place.
-Disney trip with my girlfriends this summer-Finishing my Masters (4 weeks to go!)-Greece with my DH in Nov-Getting the house organized/decluttered-Buying a house (cross your fingers that it's in our town!!!)
On another note....I've set up a secret Pinterest account so I can 'pin' baby/nursery stuff. I don't want my friends and family to see me pinning as they'll think I'm already pregnant. Does this make me a crazy person?? Hahaha.
@missbeachbum: hahaha omg I have a board called "Future babies" but my sister in law has one called" Future Kids- NO I'm Not pregnant!" haha
Great thread! I'm glad I'm not the only one counting down!
Why are you waiting? We're waiting until the wedding. FH would like to start sooner but I feel like I have enough on my plate right now with wedding planning. Pregnancy sickness would not be productive.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? Yep, on our honeymoon. 3.5 months away! I just quit the pill to (hopefully) get my body back to normal before then.
What's on your pre-baby bucket list?
ETA: I'm 27 and FH is 29 for the person who asked for ages. :)
OMG, I'm so proud that this thread is taking off! There are more of us than I thought :)
@arametta127: Congrats on your upcoming wedding and getting off BC! I have been off BC for a few months since I was getting worried about my fertility after being on HBC for so long. I will warn you though, I got very emotional due to the hormonal changes right after I started. If you're interested in charting your cycles, I highly recommend the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility.
@UK Bride: Wow, you can get 9 months of paid maternity leave in the UK?! That's wonderful! My biggest concern is that I am covered by the Family and Medical Leave Act in the US, which means my position must be legally held open for me while I take several WEEKS of UNPAID leave. You have to be in your job for at least 12 months to qualify.
@morkiemama: Yes, the post-wedding savings is super important. DH and I still need to open joint bank accounts. Good idea to add ppls ages. I'm 29 as I said and my DH is 37.
These are some awesome goals, bees! I'm jealous of everyone's travel plans :) Keep the lists coming and also give us your and SO's ages too.
Why are you waiting? Waiting until we get married
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? Nov. 2013
I love this thread - keeps me grounded!!
Why are you waiting? DH and I originally had plans to TTC this fall. We nixed that because we realized we weren't as ready as we thought we were, after all. We'd like to travel more and enjoy being a couple!!
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? Sounds like FOREVER, but we would like to wait 3-5 years; we'd like to get a few more big trips in/save money.
While we COULD make a baby work right now, we realized that we want to be able to maintain our lifestyle as is 100% and not have to make any drastic cuts (financially). We just would not be able to do this at this point in our lives, so waiting it is!!
I'm 24, DH is 27. We've got plenty of time!!
@doxielove: Yes, you do have plenty of time! i'm sure it was a tough decision to wait, but it sounds like it will be worth it for you guys.
Anyone else? Let's keep this thread going!
@Macintosh: Super cute thread idea! All of our friends are either TTC or have newborns, so I've been trying desperately to avoid all thoughts of babies lately haha
Why are you waiting? DH and I are waiting for a couple reasons. First, I need to graduate and start my career! After that, we'd like to build up our savings. Then we'd like to travel a bit. In the meantime, we have a puppy coming home in June so that'll replace my baby fever with "I have a fur-baby, look at this picture and this picture and this picture" fever ;)
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? 3-5 years would be ideal. We shall see!
Why are you waiting? We didn't want kids yet, we've focused on career and life goals. I just finished some graduate work and have a full time job. We bought a house, got married, and went to Greece so we've accomplished a lot of our goals.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? Summer 2013 (so a year from now, so long!)
We are both 30 going on 31, so will be 32 when TTC...not ideal but not that bad either.
Why are you waiting? We wanted a little more us time after getting married and to travel
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? Either next month or in 4 months after our next big vacation
What's on your pre-baby bucket list? It was travel, we are going to Peru to hike the Inca Trail, which I certainly did not want to do pregnant, and Italy this year, and I really want to enjoy all that WINE in Italy! Aside from that, I'm in my 30s and he's in his late 20's. Our jobs are secure, our house is bought, and I'm READDDDYYY like yetserday!
Awesome thread :)
Why are you waiting? I'm still doing undergrad and FI is just graduating... so we're nowhere near financially stable! Plus we're young and even though babies are adorable, we want to make sure we're ready.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? 4+ years... 1-2 years for me to finish school, and then some time for me to find a job and save some money.
What's on your pre-baby bucket list? -Graduate with my Bachelor's
-Get some savings going!
-Buy a house? or at least be close to it!
-Take one or two "couple" vacations and a few road trips
-Enjoy just being married and together before kids
Why are you waiting? DH wants to go back to school for engineering, and I have some career goals I want to accomplish before we add a kid to the mixture. Also, we want to have a house first.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? Probably 3+ years from now. I'm 23, so we have plenty of time.
Why are you waiting? We're only 26 and in our opinion, far too young. We never pictured being parents before 30 so hopefully that's how it pans it for us (though we'd settle for 28/29).
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start to TTC? If all goes as planned as far as our "bucket list", maybe a year or two (closer to two).
Why are you waiting? Just got married a few months ago and want some newlywed time first.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start to TTC? As of right now, December. But our timeline has changed a lot so we will see!
What's on your pre-baby bucket list? Mostly Travel. Get a couple more places we want to see checked off the list, save enough for a down payment on a house and to just be more discipline with a healthy diet and and more exercise.
I'm 28, Fi is 31...
Why are you waiting? We always said we'd be married before we had kids.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start to TTC? At first it was a year post wedding, but now I'm thinking about 6 months, so that'll be around March-May next year. It's going to be hard to wait that long but I know it's best if we do!
Why are you waiting? Trying to stabilize my career with a better paying or permanent position. I am working contracts and do not have any Mat Leave pay.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? Giving myself a couple of years. Regardless of whatever happens in those years with the job and all, we will still TTC.
What's on your pre-baby bucket list? Big Japan vacation! Trying to do that THIS year. Yay!!!
P.S. - If you don't mind, we can put how old we are too. I'm closing in on 31. (So TTC will come past 32.)
Why are you waiting? DH and I are both 29 this month. We only lived together for about 6 months before marriage and haven't been together for that long (2.5 years) so we want to enjoy some time just us. We need to work on some career and financial goals too.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC?
In a perfect world, we would be ready to TTC in July/August 2013 and get pregnant right away.
Why are you waiting? We got married last fall and want some just-us time first. We're in our mid 30s and wish we had more time to enjoy being DINKs, but we think we'll regret not having kids. So, we're giving ourselves a year to be married before turning our world upside down!
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? Sometime this fall.
1. Safari honeymoon booked for August! This is my dream vacation. It's a huge splurge, and I am extremely excited!2. Attend a destination wedding in South America in October.3. Possibly buy a condo, though there is enough space in our current rental for a baby. That's our current project.4. Try to lose 10 lbs (unlikely at the rate I'm going!)5. Mourn my upcoming loss of wine and sushi. Oh, and my free time. *sob*
Why are you waiting? A few months ago I wasn't waiting for anything, but since it's sooo close to the wedding now...because I would like to be able to have a few drinks at my wedding and go out to a few nighclubs on the honeymoon.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? Honeymoon.
What's on your pre-baby bucket list? DF is looking for either a better job or a second job and I'm going to keep taking my vitamins. Already been to the doctor and cleared months ago. If we get lucky and it happens quickly, the plans until delivery are to keep working full time and saving money, get everything organized, and pay off DF's credit card debt. We are moving in July to a much safer and quieter area.
Since you asked age, I'm 21 and he's 26. I've been working since I was 14, have a full time job and a large amount in savings, and have wanted this for a long time. I think we're ready!
I am waiting for after we get married :)
I am 23 he just turned 27 yesterday and I am not sure I am ready for a child, even tho I do get all happy inside when I think about our future children ( hope that makes sense).
• get married
• go to Disney world with my future husband
• buy a new car
• go to new York city, Chicago , lake Tahoe... A few places we want to travel
• may sound silly but I want to write a book
• FI and I are going to get our masters together starting in January
• personally I would like to travel to Europe
• ween myself off of coffee ( it is really hard!)
Why are you waiting? Marriage! Wedding in December... and FI would like to get a better job though it's not vital. We just bought a house and since then FI and I have baby fever. I'm 29, he's 27.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start to TTC? Sometime early next year after we're married.
Why are you waiting? Our wedding is in November - this would be a bad time to get knocked up! I've got to fit into that dress!
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start to TTC? Wedding night ;o) According to my forecast, that's my #1 fertility day for the cycle, too! We might actually try during my October cycle, because it's not like I'd grow much and not fit into my dress, and I'm 31 so I wanna get this show on the road.
Why are you waiting? 2 reasons: 1) I have one more year of graduate school, 2) We are buying our first house. Initially we were going to plan a pregnancy around my final year but the house affected our savings somewhat so we wanted at least another few months.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? Sort of. We're debating between TTC Spring 2013 or around our 4th anniversary (Winter 2014). Big difference, I know, lol.
DH and I are both 23!
Wonderful idea for a thread, thanks for starting it!
My DH and I are in our early thirties, have a house and make okay income. It's strange to think that we are so close to begin trying for kids - it has seemed a far off goal until now. It's exciting!
Why are you waiting? We are waiting because of the time frame and because I want to continue to lose weight and become healthier.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? We are only waiting a few months to try for a Springtime baby as that works best with my work schedule.
I noticed others had "become healthier and lose weight" in their bucket list. Is there anything specific other people are doing to reach that goal?
Why are you waiting? Want to get married first, finish university, get into my career and travel more
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? In 3-4 years
Great thread!! Hi everyone!!
Why are you waiting? DH and I are waiting until we figure out our health insurance problem and/or save some money... AND, I want to get of BC for a few months before we TTC since I've been on hormonal birth control for 10 years.
Do you have a time frame that you're planning to start TTC? I think we're both comfortable with 6mo-a year... I think in about 6 mo. we'll start NTNT.
@ms lovestruck: I'm just trying to eat healthier and start working out again, I got a little lax right before the wedding since my dress was getting too big and have let myself "relax" a little too much since. :)
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