Post # 1
How did you react after the wedding was over? It seems so weird to think that an event I’ve looked forward to for almost 10 years is over, and I’m now married. I get sad when I think that I will never wear a gorgeous ballgown like that again, never be a bride, never plan such a wonderful party like that ever again. Well, maybe for my 25th anniversary.
Don’t get me wrong, I love Darling Husband, and I’m happy that I’m married to him. But I’m still a little sad that I don’t get to be a bride anymore!
What did you do to stop being sad when it was all over?
Post # 3
I think post wedding blues are fairly common to some women! I will be relieved more than anything, back to my regularly scheduled life!
Perhaps you need some hobbies after work? A little house project?
You can make a conscientious effort to stop being sad, and preoccupy your mind with something else. Some people feel they should ride the sadness out and wait for it to be done. But also, at some point, you make the commitment to stop being sad and to refocus elsewhere. It’s hard.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Post wedding blues are totally normal. I threw myself into house hunting after the wedding in order to channel my energies and ambitions, and hopefully we’ll be switching into home renovation and decoration mode soon. I need something big to plan at all times, so the house stuff is my outlet. Maybe you can find a new creative outlet that gives you something to look forward to?
Post # 5
After the wedding was over I spent more time on weddingbee than before! Haha.
My biggest reaction has been wanting my pro photos. I get so jealous to see brides who married after me getting their photos 😡 Good things come to those who wait though, right?
I threw myself into my work for a while, then I got a little wave of baby fever. I’m starting to reach out more to friends who got neglected during the wedding planning process. I’m enjoying time with the man who is FINALLY my husband! And it’s alright to be a bit sad some days. Not going to lie… some days I take a minute to hug my wedding dress… lol.
Post # 6
“some days I take a minute to hug my wedding dress… lol.”
OMG that is too funny! I imagine I’ll still keep trying my gown on long after the wedding. I still have my prom dresses from 1994 and they still fit!
Post # 7
I just got my wedding dress from my mom’s house, and I put it on last night… just sat around in it for a little while. 🙂
Thanks for the suggestions. 🙂 I’m so glad to know I’m not alone in this!! I’m going back to school soon, so hopefully that will consume my time and energies. And traveling – I have a huge list of places to go!
Post # 8
I missed my wedding when it was over, but like most weddings it ended in stages, because after the actual day, we had the honeymoon, then we went through all our gifts and cards, then a few weeks later we got the photos, and then the dvd and then I had to work on building our album online, so for several months after the wedding I still had wedding stuff to do, so I was gradually weaned off.
Post # 9
That’s funny. I was SO RELIEVED to be done with the wedding. It was so much effort and I feel like I have reclaimed my life back now that it’s over. My husband and I have lots of free time to enjoy together now rather than scrambling to make lots of unimportant decisions that seem to matter so much in the moment.
It sounds to me like you need something new to focus on. School and travel are good ideas 🙂