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Let me start off by saying I miscarried at 9 weeks earlier this year. I have type 1 diabetes & it was not under control when we got pregnant. Although I started taking care of it completely once we found out. But I still MC. Fast forward to now. I am taking my shots daily like I am suppose to. Taking potassium supplements due to low potassium levels. So what other things can I due to prepare myself? I have to have my sugar in check for atleast 5 months before TTC again. We are going to wait till 6 months & then start TTC! EEEEKKKK! What vitamins are you taking? What other things are you doing? Anything you are eating/drinking different? Yogo? Running? I do go to the gym a few times a week a run between .75 miles to 1 mile. I know that isn't much but its a start.
Or if you just want to talk about it, lets talk please!
Hello! We're planning on trying in Feb/March. Right now I am taking a prenatal and tracking my cycles, just days though, no charting. I also cut coffee down to one cup a day in preparation for having to do that when I (hopefully) get pregnant! I started going to the gym too, because I'd like to lose 10 lbs before we starting TTC :)
ETA: Sorry to hear about your miscarriage!!
ETA again... I went off the pill 2 cycles a go to prepare as well!
We're planning on TTC next summer, although I have baby fever really bad these days. DH and I have only been married 3 months and we are 22/23, so we really wanted a year to settle in and "enjoy married life." By next year DH should be pretty well established in his career (He has a bachelor's degree in education, but after graduating, he decided he would rather go into restaurant management...in his company, he'd be making around $80k). I'm a preschool teacher, so I obviously adore children, but I don't feel ready *quite* yet.
I'm a runner and I've gotten DH into running as well! Also, I've been on BC since I was 14 for period issues, so I'm a little worried about getting off them. The plan is to go off BC pills after my annual visit in Feb. to give my body time to adjust. Then I will start taking prenatals.
So sorry to hear about your miscarriage!
@OttawaBride2011: Aw, that's so great! I am not really good with the charting stuff. :/ I need to research on it though! I am not & have not been on BC. We have always used the "pull out method" & it worked for us. The only time I got pregnant was the time we tried! lol (Took us four months.) So I am hopeful it wont take long this time either. :-) I don't drink coffee but I have cut back on the soda, ALOT! :-) I need to start taking my prenatal's soon too! Thanks for the reminder!!!! As of right now I am kind of under weight. But since I started taking my shots daily for my diabetes I have gained weight. YAY! I am hoping going to the gym will keep me from going over weight though. Since my medicine makes me gain. :/
Thanks though, I am fully recovered from it & ready to start TTC!
@Mrs.Estep: So sorry to hear about your loss!
I like the idea of this thread! Even though we're not getting married until December, we will have been together for 9 years. We will start trying a couple months after the wedding per my OBGYN's suggestions. I have issues with ovarian cysts and two years ago she told me the earlier I try, the better my chances will be to carry a successful pregnancy (We will both be 23, but with nice careers).
I'm on the pill now and don't plan on going off until after the wedding. I'm afraid it will take long for my body to regulate itself. I've been on BC for medical reasons since I was 15.
As for doing stuff differently, I try to be healthy anyway. We juice at least 5 times a week and I take a generic women's multi-vitamin. I also drink a lot of water and (lactose-free) milk. I normally don't drink sodas or coffee.
@JennBug89: That's awesome! Its good you two waited to have some married life time alone first. :-) My husband & I will be married for one year this December! As of right now I am a stay-at-home-wife. I will be starting online career classes soon. I am still undecided as to what I want to do. :/ Sigh.
My husband has been at his job for almost three years now. He got a promotion last year & hoping for another one this year! I am very, very proud of him! My husband goes to the gym more than I do. But I am hoping to start going more! He runs, lifts weights, the whole works. :P I just run usually though.
That sounds like a really good plan. Maybe even talk to your doctor about the TTC process? :-) Good luck with stopping the BC, too!
& Thank you. It was really hard to go through. But my husband was right there by my side. & Now we want to try again this time being more prepared! :-)
@Mrs. Estep: I am sorry about your loss.
We are going to start trying next summer as well. We can hardly wait. We are going to go to our preconception check up in Jan/Feb of next year, I will go off the pill in May after the wedding and we will start in June/July. I have been on a low dose for 3 years, so I am hoping for a small/no real delay.
I have started to cut down on the sodas already, and will start the prenatals after the preconception checkup when I have a better idea of what excatly I need to be taking vitamin wise. I work out now about 5 days a week hoping to start to get better in shape for baby.
first, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss!
second, I like this thread! I keep peeking in on the ttc boards but we aren't ttc now so I don't comment there :P we just had a big talk recently about me going off the pill next summer, so it's still very early for us. hubby doesn't quite understand the difference btwn ntnt and ttc, and he doesn't like the idea of switching back to condoms, so the ttc will begin then.
I need to figure out getting an ob/gyn so I can have a preconception visit--I'm in grad school and normally go to my school's health clinic, but for this I'll clearly want a specialist! finding a good doctor seems daunting. I had one I loved in DC, but we moved just over a year ago and I haven't ventured outside my school's clinic. i'm not really sure when to start taking prenatal vitamins...it seems a little much to start now if i'm still taking bc til summer...but maybe not?
in general i'm trying to get healthier and exercise more. also, and maybe this is kind of random, but I've been a vegetarian since I was 4 but have recently been trying to experiment with figuring out some fish and meat that I might like, since I figure getting more protein and iron into my diet might be good. the funny thing is though is that the things I like so far--for example, raw tuna sushi--aren't things I could eat when pregnant anyway! or they aren't particularly healthy, like salami. go figure!
@JennBug89: I think you and I are the same person! Married almost 3 months, we are planning on TTC next summer, and I am 22 and he is 23... weird! Once Mr. Hedgie has is career up and going.
We aren't really doing anything different. We are both pretty healthy. I don't drink coffee, rarely drink and don't smoke or anything like that. We are just saving up and making sure we can afford everything that comes with a baby! Getting closer as a couple and anjoying being married before being parents.
So sorry to hear about your miscarriage @Mrs. Estep.
I think we are going to start trying right after the wedding (next September - date in my profile is wrong...) I'd be happy waiting a while longer as far as my career/"emotional" readiness, but I will be 34 then and my cycles have already been getting kind of wonky in the past couple of years, and I tried charting for a few months and as far as I could tell, I wasn't sure I was ovulating, so I am very worried about being able to conceive. I almost thought about moving the wedding date up sooner so we could try sooner, but realistically I'm not ready to do it yet -- I am on antianxiety/depression medication which I need to either switch to another "safer" medication, or get off entirely. Very scared about that process, which will take at least a few months. I also drink tons of red wine and coffee, so I need to cut those out! It is stressful thinking about cutting out antidepressants, caffeine and booze all while planning a wedding!
I'm so sorry about your loss!
Right now I'm taking prenatals and I'm trying to limit my caffeine, either from cokes or coffee. I have been tryign to work out more and this month I've only lost 6 lbs, but it made a huge difference on my cycle. (I am overweight, so I want to get at a healthier weight) I have charted for over a year and my cycles were very consistent at 24 or 25 days. I would ovuluate very early in my cycle, like on day 6 or 8. This last cycle was my longest one in a year, ovuluated around day 16, and had 14 day LP. It was a much healthier cycle.
We started officially trying this month. 
@finnaroo are you going to go out of network? I also have my insurance through school, but other students have used the university without any problems.
Oh wow, I didn't know if this would take off or not but I am so glad it did! I will respond to each one of you personally tomorrow. :-)
So excited to have bee's to talk to about this stuff! With that being said can any of you wonderful ladies please post a link to a website about charting & cycles? Thanks so much!
Check out FertilityFriend.com. When you register, they will walk you through all of the charting stuff either by watching a bunch of youtube videos or by signing up for their course, which is like a daily email with a different lesson every day. Most of the charting girls also read "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Wenschel. You might want to check your local library to see if they have it. Oh, and obviously you need to go get a thermometer. I like this one.
@Ms Hedgehog: So cool! Have you told anyone (friends, family) when you might be TTC? I ask because a few of my friends/bridesmaids have made comments like "No babies for at LEAST 5 years!" when I mention the subject of children (which is all the time since I'm a teacher lol). However, my facebook newsfeed is always blowing up over someone new getting pregnant/married/engaged even though we all only graduated high school 4-5 years ago. My thoughts are: 1) DH and I have been together since we were 16. 2) I feel like we are being responsible because we're "getting all our ducks in a row" before TTC. But simply because we are young, I feel like a lot of people are going to have a LOT to say about it...but that's life!
@Mrs.Estep: I'm exited too! My baby fever has been raging HARD these past few months, especially last month when I missed a pill and we thought we might be pregnant. Even though it definitely isn't the right timing yet, I was still a little sad over the negative preg. test :/ but I guess thats only natural. I'm hoping to learn a lot about TTC these next few months!
@Mrs.Estep: First, I want to say I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.
We were initially going to wait 2-3 years after marriage to TTC, but ever since I got diagnosed with PCOS I think I want to start trying after 6 months of marriage to take some of the pressure off.
I plan on eating healthy, taking prenatal vitamins and exercising as much as possible. Also, I want to reduce my anxiety through exercise and yoga.
I think my main goal will be trying to find ways to cope with anxiety/fear about not conceiving, since I know that can really make conception even more difficult.
@Mrs.Estep: Thank you for making this thread, and sorry about your loss. I can only imagine how hard it must be.
I'm glad this thread started. I hang out on the TTC thread, but I'm not really TTC, so I don't feel it's a good fit.
We've been married for almost 6 weeks, and I've got hard core baby fever. We're ready, and willing (just had my blood work done this morning), but I'm on a contract job, and we don't know what's going to happen in 6 months, so that's holding us back. I'm in serious jeopardy of becoming really upset about it! lol.
DH wants me to have a full time job to go back to - and I do to, but realistically, the chances of me getting a full time govt job in the next 6 months are slim to none. I'm not really bilingual, and that's pretty much a requirement.
I've decided that I'm going to start looking for ways to save money now, and see how much of my salary we can put away for the next 6 months (well, 5 since we're paying off the honeymoon this month....)
We saved really well for the wedding, but we kinda went in reverse after, since we'd scrimped so much before. I feel like we need to get back at it. But I also feel like we're always living paycheque to paycheque, even though for the both of us right now, we're clearing 100K/yr.
Anyone else feel stressed about money once baby comes? My plans are these:
stop buying drinks when we eat out
limit evenings out to once a week (or $40 a week)
no more pop
generic brands for groceries when possible
couponing! :)
Any other thoughts?
Sorry to hijack the thread, but it's kinda relevant, since $$ is why we're waiting.
@MsYellowJacket: I am sorry to hear about your medical problems. But it sounds like you are really healthy & doing everything you can to prepare! Once you go off the pill after your wedding maybe use condoms to give your body time to adjust itself from being off the BC. :-) How are your cycles on the BC? Oh & congrats on 9 years together! That is awesome! Our 5 year anniversary is 4 days after our one year wedding anniversary this December! :-)
@dallasbride2012: So exciting! I hope there is no delay either. With low dose I think its less likely? :-) Yay! FIVE days a week! Shew you are like super woman! lol My husband goes 3-4 days a week. He begs me to go with him everytime he goes. He goes super early 7 AM & I am just waking up & usually not in the mood. I go around 3-4 times in a 10 day time frame. I use to go EVERY day though. (Besides weekends.) I am going to have to get my butt in gear & take some lessons from you! haha :-)
@finnaroo: Wow that is a long time to have been a vegetarian but awesome that you are starting to eat fish, ect! Maybe talk to your doctor about supplements you can take to replace the things you would normally eat in meat? I would start there. Yes I think its smart to find a OBGYN for your preconception visit! I would google or look in the yellow pages. If your are comfortable with asking friends I would ask who they like & who they recommend. :-)
@Ms Hedgehog: I think that is awesome you two are enjoying the newlywed life first! Hubby & I are doing the same thing. I think its smart! :-) But for those trying soon after, good for them too!
I use to drink sooooo much soda. :( But I cut back so much & I am going to start drinking alot more water. So yay for you! Its really great you don't drink coffee either. I have never liked coffee. Every one in a while I will drink a frappe from Mc'Donalds. haha But that's about it.
@laurelina: Oh my I bet that is REALLY scary! I would say the best thing to do is talk to a doctor about going off your medicine or switching to a lower dose/safer brand. I would try cutting back on the red wine & coffee before actually quitting cold turkey. Esp. with all of the wedding planning. Are you on BC? Could that be making your cycles funny? I know some women only have 4 periods a year due to the BC.
@Mrs. Bonnie Blue: Oh yay for you! I can't believe how good some women are with the tracking of their cycles/when they're ovulating. Do you have any websites I can read about this on? I am going to google it right now! haha
6 Pounds is an awesome start if you ask me! & It sounds like it really helped your cycles! Yay for TTC! Good luck & best wishes!
@JennBug89: Aw, I am sorry for the false alarm! I have had a few of those. I remember when we first started TTC last year. I would take a pregnancy test every two weeks & every negative was a BUMMER! So I stopped taking them & relaxed. We just had sex normal. I never did the charting of my cycles or anything & we got pregnant after 4 months of trying! Eeeek. That gives me alot of hope! & Now with my diabetes under control I feel so much more hope for this round. I am so exciting to be learning all of the new TTC stuff, too! I want to track my cycles & figure out when I am ovulating this time. :-)
I think we're going to start NTNT next fall. At the very least, get off birth control. We're not getting married for 18 more days, and we'd like to have a year of marriage under our belts before trying.
@Evie19: Oh I am sorry to hear about the PCOS. & Yes it can be really scary when you first start TTC. It can be really stressful if you think about not being able to. My only advice is our first go around we stayed the same. No pressure on when we had to have sex or anything like that. We just went about our sex life as normal & it worked for us. I know that is not always the case & this go around we are going to chart my cycles, ect. The yogo sounds REALLY relaxing. I would start doing that to help, for sure.
I'm 33, will be 34 when we get married. I think we're going to start trying next summer, but we're sitll in negotiations. FI has unrealistic expectations that it'll take a month or 2 to get pregnant *rolls eyes*. I'm afraid it's going to be more like 9months to a year, if at all. I've been on BC most of hte last 3 years, so I'm not sure what to expect from my cycle when I stop.
I also have lots of conflicting worries. I'm not really ready right this minute to be a mom. I have a dog and FI who works full time + grad school. I don't want us to rush anything, and I love for us to be able to do more travel. And yet, I feel like we're in a super time crunch :(.
I don't want to miss out on having kids because we wanted a european vacation. And yet, we want to travel and see the world too. Ugh, life decisions.
@Khumble: Money is absolutely important! We buy store brand/off brand groceries already. Its saves a ton of money! Also I am going to be cutting back more & more on the soda & buying more water instead. (Hopefully hubby will be in on this, also. I am already drinking way less soda than usually) Yay! Which I think will save alot, too!
Here is a coupon website another bee recommened http://hip2save.com/
Maybe you two could open a savings account? If not already. I think that is REALLY smart & something everyone should think about. :-)
@AnneTossy: I think that is smart. Gives you two plenty of time to enjoy the newlywed life!
@Future MrsB: That is totally understandable! We love to travel, too. But with money we haven't been able to do any BIG traveling. When we first started TTC the first time we thought it would take 1-2 years. But it only took 4 months! :O I am REALLY happy about that though. You still have plenty of time to think about it & figure out when to start TTC. I wish you the best of luck with trying & with deciding when to try! Maybe you guys could start TTC on your big trip? ;)
This thread rocks! I recently started a thread asking women what their favorite pregnancy prep. books were because I'm sooooo itching to start TTC. We're going to employ the strategy of 'not trying not to conceive' after our wedding for up to about a year. If we don't get pregnant we'll go from there!
My only big negative crutch is my love of coffee, so I'm going to start mixing my regualr coffee with decaf then switching over completely. I can't give it up, I just love coffee and hazelnut creamer, haha!
I walk or run my dogs for about an hour everyday but I think I need to lose some weight too just to be in optimum shape!
We're going to move first before we try to get pregnant too, we don't like the city we live it atm!
Oh and don't forget kegels!! I didn't see anyone say that...(maybe I missed it?) EVERYONE DO YOUR FREAKIN' KEGELS!!! =D
@Mrs.Estep:Thanks! I actually don't think PCOS is a huge huge problem. With a healthy diet and exercise the symptoms can almost totally go away (unless someone has a really severe case).
I just know that I can get anxious and want to take steps to help remedy that!
I wish the best for you! :) (And of course all the bees who are TTC-ing!)
Hi everyone! I too have been reading up but not chiming in to the TTC posts. We've been married a little over a month but think probably won't start trying until the new year (January/ February/ March). We're both 28 and solidly in our careers but he has been steadily building himself in his field more and more. The plan is to be at a point where once a baby comes I stay home and financially we would be alright. I have an appointment with my OBGYN in October so will start prenatal vitamins and stop BC then. I am currently eat very healthy and go to the gym/ work out 4-5 days a week. The only thing I will change is give up my morning coffee. I have been on BC since I was 16 and I am currently on ortho lo. What has been other people's experiences coming off birth control? Has anyone had really extreme changes in their cycles?
Yay, love this thread! Thanks for starting it, @Mrs.Estep:! Also, very sorry to hear about your loss, but I'm glad to hear you're taking such good care of yourself now!
For us, our wedding is just under 2 weeks out. We just recently decided that our tentative timeline for TTC will be around our 1 year anniversary. I will admit, I'm not really eating all that healthy or exercising right now (I'm just so stressed!), but my plan is to begin working toward improving my health habits after the honeymoon which is right after the wedding. I also want to get a job first - I'm finishing up school in December, and I'd like to be working by January. I definitely want to have a job secured before we start TTC.
Finally, I will be visiting my "lady doc" in December, and I'm going to get her advice on what to do about going off birth control. I've been on some form or another for the last 10 years, with the exception of one 8-month stretch where I was travelling overseas. To be honest, I never had a period that entire time I was off it. I'm a little scared that my body won't go back to normal without a little help. However, at the time I went into that 8-month-no-BC stretch, I had been on Depo and wasn't having any periods anyway. Since then, I've switched to a seasonale-like birth control pill, and I have my period right on schedule every three months on that. So who knows, maybe it won't be as big of a deal as I am imagining.
@Khumble: I feel stessed out about money after a baby, but mostly around daycare. I think FI and I will have a couple raises in between now and then (fingers crossed), but around here it's $1600/month for a newborn. No amount of couponing (which we do) or cutting of extras is going to quite cut it at those rates :(.
We make fairly good money, but FI has a gigantic student loan that's just a little less per month than what my mortgage is. We live pretty comfortably now, but not extravagantly. And I'd really be worried if nothing improves financially before we have a baby.
@Future MrsB: omg I feel your pain...sort of. Infant care here isn't that much, but that's partially because i'm in Canada and we get a year for mat leave (at 55% of the salary we were making). So infant care here is usually 12 months and up, but I'm considering going back early because 55% of a salary is hard to deal with.
thankfully, DH (eek!! hehe) works shift work, so doesn't work every single day of the week. I think we could get by with part time private care for the days that we would both work, and then send LO to a daycare around 2 or 3 to start getting ready for school.
DH has a huge student loan as well, which is more than double - yes MORE THAN DOUBLE what my mortgage paymen is. Granted - my mortgage payment is retardedly little. But still - his student loan is going to be hard to deal with (we're just coming into repayment).
And then, we'll likely want to buy a bigger house in about 2 years. I just don't understand how people do it all - mortgage, student loans, daycare, living normally, etc. thankfully, our car loan will be paid off with a couple $$ to spare when DH gets his income tax return in april
what's really stressing me out is that I don't know about a job. I have no idea where i'll be in 6 months, or if i'll be anywhere for that matter. that stresses me out on it's own, but when you add my bio clock which is basically beating me over the head with it's chimes, it doesn't add any comfort.
We have an appt with a new ob/gyn for January and at that appt I will ask what she thinks about us trying to get pregnant.
I've had 3 pregnancies. 2 births. I was 18yo when I miscarried but I didn't even know I was pregnant until I lost it. I also had blood pressure issues with both of my pregnancies that went to term. I'm overweight ( although I've lost some weight...15lbs and 8inchs thus far) and I will be 30 next year and don't want to wait much longer.
He would have me pregnant right now lol But, with my previous issues we want the dr to review my history and give us the all clear to have a healthy shot at it. If not we will be devestated but will have to deal.
I've been stalking the TTC threads for a few weeks now ~ we aren't planning on starting for a bit, but I'm paranoid that we're going to have problems! So thank you for starting this thread! I think I'm finally brave enough to post.
So about us and our story!
I'm 30 and he is 36. I'm overweight/obese (working on that right now) and also have borderline PCOS.
We've been married for just over 4 months, but have been together for 5 1/2 years now. We've also lived apart for a majority of the last 3 years.
Why? My husband decided at 33 to go through an early mid-life crisis. lol. He quit his job and went back to school in another city for a 5 year Pharmacy program leaving me along with his dog house-sitting his parents house in a city I don't care for. I have a solid, well paying job that we couldn't find a replacement for in his new city so we've decided on sticking out the LD thing for the time being. So I get him for some of the summers and some long weekends! He has 2 years left of school, but I'm hoping even though we see each other randomly we can start NTNT when we hook up next.
I've been off of B/C for the last year in an attempt to lose weight. My body is seriously f*ed up in that regard! I'm lucky enough to be able to work with both a nutritionist and a personal trainer and have access to free bootcamps that our company pays for every day. So I'm active and eating the best I can!
Our original plan was to wait for him to finish school before TTC; but looking at the time line, and considering in Canada I can take the full year off; we might move that timeline up considering it might take us longer to conceive and I can move to be with him for the first year of the babies life. I just don't know how i feel about going through the pregnancy part alone. But I've begun to chart my temperatures right now so I can get a feel of what my body is doing!
Well... enough about me (I talk/type way too much)! I'm excited to read everyone's stories and see how everyone is planning to start. For those on pre-natal vitamins, which ones? My SIL was on some and they made her really naseous!
we're hoping to TTC early next year. since i'm a crazy planner, i've been stalking the baby boards and reading up! i'll be doing much more as we get closer to the time, but right now, i've gone off BCP and started charting to hopefully get my cycles regular or at least be aware of how and when i'm ovulating.
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