(Closed) For those who are paying for the wedding on your own…

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yes, we are doing presents for my mom and for FI’s parents.

I really want to get my mom an iPad as a combined Mother’s Day/wedding thank you.

For FI’s parents, we’ll probably do a picture from the wedding or something like that.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

FI and I are paying for the wedding and we plan on doing parent gifts.  Not sure what we’ll get yet, maybe a nice picture frame or keepsake.  I think it’s a combination of us wanting to do parent gifts and having a pretty small wedding party, so the gift budget we have can go a long way.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We are paying for every cent of the wedding, except from a small contribution from my mom for the dress. Since our wedding is about 30 minutes from both parents’ home, we offered to get them a hotel room for the evening and arranged transportation back and forth if they accepted. My parents did not (REALLY long story), but FIs did and were pleased.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think I’m going to go cheeseball on this one – an embroidered pocket square for dad, flowers for mom, and a handwritten heartfelt card. I know they don’t care about the money, but to write a card about how much they mean to be it would be priceless to them.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m not doing parent gifts. I’m just…not into that. Admittedly, my decision is impacted by how unsupportive they’ve been throughout my engagement. But no, if I were to give a gift, it wouldn’t be from my heart. I would just be doing it because it’s “the thing to do”

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’re getting our parents gifts, but it’ll probably just be a nice frame and the promise of a wedding picture. My FI’s family might contribute, but we don’t know. My parents are pitching in a little, but the bulk of the expenses are on us. So we want to thank them, but we can’t spend a fortune.

Post # 10
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671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

picture frame for both families with an iou wedding picture in it

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Bubbles42:  We are paying for the wedding ourselves and do not plan to buy the parents gifts.  I understand this tradition when the parents pay for the wedding but since our parents are not paying for the wedding and we are I don’t plan to buy them any gifts.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

My FI and I made our moms scrapbooks of our childhood with them.  We each wrote a letter that is embedded thoughout the book thanking them for all their love and support.  We also got them coach bags (we live right next to the outlet store), but my mom is hosting a welcome dinner and his mom is hosting a thank you brunch.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

No, we didn’t get our parents gifts. It’s not commonly done in my area and it wasn’t expected.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I want to get my parents something since they are helping to pay for some of the wedding.  My future inlaws aren’t contributing anything, but I will probably still get them each a frame (I’d feel awkward not handing them a gift at the rehearsal dinner). 

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