Post # 1
Just wondering, for those of you who didnt live together before marriage, did you make an extra effort to learn any wifely skills before the wedding? my cousins age 15 and 17 are being sent on a cookery course in India to prepare them for marriage. Im 25 and cook for myself but my meals are generally a quick 15 mins salad or pasta dish since i get home form work late and cant be bothered to cook an extravagant meal for myself.
so yeah, did you go on a cookery course before marraige?
any other extra skills you made an effort to perfect before marriage?
alot of men who are against living together say to expect ‘bad food and bad sex for the first year of marriage’ in a ‘settling in and learning’ period. in mexico sometimes a wife can be sent back to her family to learn these skills if she is not good enough, then go back to her husband when she has learned.
Post # 3
hell no – hubby gave me a rice cooker because i kept ruining his pots making rice and he installed a fire blanket in the kitchen because i have a habit of setting fire to things 🙂
Post # 4
I didn’t do anything special. I know basic skills like laundry and basic cooking, etc. from just taking care of myself, but anything more advanced will come in time.
Post # 5
Since Fiance works more hours than me, I wanted to learn how to iron button-down shirts. I had no idea how to do it well before.
Other than that we both know how to do basic chores around the house.
Post # 6
My mom would occassionally show me how to do something, but we’re on a learning curve, lol. Fiance and I cook together (but he lets me take the credit) and we divide chores up depending on who has worked more that day.
Post # 7
@Evie19: you iron??? my Mother-In-Law does our ironing – shes a great woman
Post # 8
No I learned everything from my mom and also just taking care of myself. I like to cook though so that wasn’t a huge sacrifice. We aren’t married yet, but as Christians we have agreed not to live together before marraige. Anyway, I’m sure there will be other things I need to “learn” before then :-). Good luck!
Post # 9
I think it would be more helpful to learn LIFE skills than wife skills,don’t you? I almost feel like I’m reading about a manual for women in the 50’s! If you can take care of yourself, adding another person into the mix is simple. Get some cookbooks and practice, throwing some dinner parties!
Post # 10
@eloping: lol, yes Fiance and I both iron. Do you live really close to your MIL? What if you need to wear something last minute and it’s wrinkled? 🙂
Post # 12
@Evie19: ha – i married a good greek man, his parents live right next door… in fact all three sons live/own houses in the same street 🙂
Post # 13
I learned to cook by practicing. Same thing for ironing, laundry and anything I’m unsure of, I ask the internet.
My girlfriends and I get togther once a week. If I’m up for trying a new recipe, I’ll try it out with them. I’ve also picked up a couple of good ones from them as well. My Fiance and friends tell me I’m a pretty good cook.
I will add tho, that if Fiance thinks he’s going to have a full meal every night, he’s out of his mind. By the time you work, go to the gym, take care of other chores, not a lot of time is left over to prepare an entire meal. We often go out or we throw something together quickly that requires minimal prep.
Post # 14
Thankfully the man I am marrying has survived on his own for many years, so it seems that the things I struggle with, he can do 🙂 Ironing, vacuuming and cleaning the kitchen are his jobs. He cooks a few nights a week too.
And, since we both work at busy and demanding jobs, we still eat simple stuff during the work week. Just because you are married doesn’t mean you need to switch to fancy 4 course meals.
Post # 15
Nope. He married the way I am, simple cooking and all. I’m making an effort to learn cause I think it’s sort of fun sometimes. But he doesnt cook at all either, if he wants to ever complain about the food I prep for us, he is more than welcome to get his butt in the kitchen. There was no extra effort to perfect any skills prior to marriage. To me, the these skills can be part of the experience and learning curve or marriage… its not going to be perfert straight from the start.
Post # 16
We joke that I have some “wife skills” when I do things like make a nice dinner or pack his suitcase, etc. but I certainly did not do any type of wife training. Living with roomates previously, and cooking at my paretns home has taught me a few things and living together, we get to understand each other’s tastes in both food as well as chores.