Post # 1
What made you decide to do it vs having a bigger wedding back home with all your fam and friends? Also, if you did elope do you have any regrets? I had a big wedding back home, and I loved it, but lately I’ve been thinking it would’ve also been very romantic to have a DW on a beach with no one but me and my DH. I was so busy trying to please everyone and hoping all my guests were entertained and comfortable that it was easy to lose focus. I’m curious to get some thoughts from those of you who eloped.
Post # 3
Well I haven’t eloped yet. But we will be in early december in Jamaica. So I can only answer the first part of your question.
Also, our son will be there, and both our moms were invited. My mom couldn’t make it. But my FMIL will be there.
What made us elope?
Well for a few reasons. 1) We are both pretty shy, to ourselves kind of people. We ( I especially) don’t feel comfortable walking to music, on cue with a bunch of people staring at me, and then a bunch of people hearing us say our vows to eachother. I Am a very emotional person, and I want to be able to say so many things to him, with privacy.
2) Money. We have so many things that take up our funds right now. Mortgage, retirement, ours sons education, food, activites, etc. The options for us were to either go on a trip and elope, or throw a wedding. We wanted the trip more than the show, and celebration with our families.
3)It is so much easier to elope. We don’t have to plan a million things, and work around everyones schedule, and think of everyone else. We get to just go, get married, sit on a beach, have a family vacay, and come home married.
I don’t think we’ll regret it, but once I return home married, I’ll let you know where I stand.
Post # 4
I’m ‘eloping’ to Las Vegas in October and I can’t wait! it’s eliminated ALOT of the stress because everything is pretty much planned, I only had to pick a dress, the flowers, and the cake. My FI lives in England and neither of us have been to Vegas before and we think it will be a fun vacation, and because i’m shy and dont like to be the center of attention, there wont be a huge group of people, just immediate friends and family! OH and it’s saved money!! all in all I think it’s been easier and will be alot more fun than the alternative. And for us, because he’s coming from England, paperwork wise it’s alot easier.
Post # 5
I wanted it to be just me and my FI too and elope alone. I think its so much more personal and intimate that way. However I did not win the arguement. I think money plays a factor and the desire to be stressfree. I wont have a true elopement. We’re going to Vegas with a dozen guests and having a ceremony and then a dinner. But better than the full blown reception IMO.
If your ok with dealing with the comments people are going to make about being insulted about the whole thing, go for it. Some people are softer than others. But I think you have a great idea brewing.
Post # 6
We are thinking about eloping so its nice to see what people think.
We were three months into a big fancy wedding, but we cancelled it last week because of all the stress and drama thats drained the happiness from the planning. It would not have been our day.
So its always good to hear what people think about eloping.
Still on the fence about it though.
Post # 7
Yay for eloping!
My fiance are planning on doing a spin on eloping– we’re having what I’ve been calling a “private ceremony” followed by a party a day or two later. Our reasons are similar to @cash000 where I’m a private person and I want to feel 100% focused on my fiance at our wedding ceremony– not worried about my hair or what people think of my dress or what my parents are thinking. We are also planning on saying our own vows which I feel are intimate and personal. Plus, eloping is enabling us to have our ceremony in a place with meaning to us (Martha’s Vineyard, where our relationship developed and grew, which would be super expensive and inconvenient to have a full-blown wedding at) on a date that has meaning (10-11-12, which I am in love with–despite being a Thursday– because he proposed on 12-11-10).
We are planning on having a party for friends and family a day or two later at a restaurant that’s easy to get to that will be casual, fun and not rediculously expensive. I’m really excited about our decision. With that said, we’ve only come to this decision over the past few weeks and still haven’t shared it with our families…. which I’m not looking forward to.
Post # 8
I don’t know if it’s a true elopement really because both of our families know we’re getting married, but we are planning to have a private ceremony in Las Vegas this October just the two of us (with no guests) and then we’re having a reception a few days after we return. Sometimes I wish we were keeping it a surprise to our families, but I know they wouldn’t react well to that.
We decided we wanted this kinda wedding cuz we are pretty private people and don’t want our wedding to feel like a production with a bunch of people watching us. We want it to feel romantic and about us. We also really don’t have a lot of money. We’re struggling just to afford this and we’re only having a reception cuz my FMIL offered to pay for it.