Post # 1
I know my guy has been saving up for my ring, and he’s told me the magical moment will be sometime before the year is up, but times are really tough in our household. He had been working 2 jobs but recently quit one because of problems with new management. So after paying bills, there’s really not much extra left for personal items. While we will make sure the kids have a bunch of presents (I’ve been putting stuff away all year long) since they are our 1st priority, I keep telling him not to buy me anything for my birthday (less than 2 weeks) or Christmas. I would be very satisfied and extremely overjoyed with a sole gift of an engagement ring and proposal.
Just wondering if your guys made your ring the only gift, or did you receive more presents on top of it? Did it matter to you at all? Any thoughts on this would be appreciated because for some reason I’m very curious about it. Thanks, bees!
Post # 3
My birthday is just over a week away and I would trade it, and Christmas gifts in exchange for a ring an proposal too!! There’s nothing I want more then that!
Post # 4
I was asked on Mother’s day and it was my Mother’s day gift. I also got flowers and breakfast in bed but that was part of purposal.
Post # 5
Ha! With my first husband, I got a CD. I was super annoyed too. I had bought him a really nice watch, nicer that what he’d have bought himself…and I got a CD — and NOT a certificate of deposit. I had already had a bad gift experience with him (he had let his mom buy my birthday present and hadn’t even known what she bought), so I was like “Umm..thanks?”
I guess my gift should have been a clue…but I had no idea the ring was coming later that day.
With my current husband, he gave me my ring on New Year’s Eve, but I still got earrings and a bracelet (and a bunch of smaller presesnts) for Christmas. Last year, he and the local jeweler got to know each other rather well.
Post # 6
Um… I’d say no I didn’t get anything else but its not entirely clear. We went on a trip (that I requested) for my 25th birthday and also to celebrate a really huge bonus I’d gotten at work. I paid for the trip (I offered) because I knew he was saving for a ring and because I had it at that time from the bonus. He proposed on the first day of the trip, which was about 3 days before my birthday. He said he didn’t do it on my birthday because 1) I would’ve expected it (I did) and 2) “that’s lame.” lol.
When my actual birthday rolled around he paid for us to go on a kayaking, hiking, and snorkeling excursion and also got me a card, but no other gift. But realistically if he hadn’t proposed he probably still would’ve paid for the trip and also got me a gift.
So overall I’d say he didn’t really get me anything else but that was 100% okay with me. He really killed himself scrimping and saving for my ring and it was an AWESOME surprise, I can’t really think of anything he could’ve done for my bday that would’ve made me happier. 🙂
Post # 7
@MrsSawyer: Glad I’m not the only one, lol!
@Nola: Awwww, I’d love a Mother’s Day proposal, how sweet (especially if he could involve our kids)!
@Neva: Your Christmas sounds like it was wonderful! I’m a jewelry lover so any kind of blingy gift would be awesome, but the CD? LOL, eh, not so much.
@CorgiTales: I view my guy’s scrimping and saving as a gift in and of itself, too, and if he proposes on my birthday I won’t be thinking “lame” at all, lol!
Post # 8
Hi! I got engaged on Valentine’s Day (2 days after my birthday, so I never thought much of Valentine’s day & I he usually just gives me one nice gift on my birthday only…which is more important to me anyway :). He got me a gorgeous diamond necklace for my birthday but I didn’t know a ring was coming 2 days later. So when I had this incredibly surprising proposal which I wasn’t expecting, I felt bad he spent so much and told him that he can return the necklace but he said he wanted me to keep it. I would not care at all if I was just given my engagement ring as a present for a big holiday…that was a million times more special than any other gift I could get.
Post # 9
I was proposed to on Christmas Eve (which is also my dad’s birthday) with both of our families present. I think I received one or two other present’s, but we both had gotten each others gifts earlier on in the year. If I hadn’t gotten anything else I still would have been ecstatic! I knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together, when he proposed I was over the moon happy and wouldn’t have needed nor did I want anything else. Knowing I had him for the rest of my life was more than enough!
Post # 10
@Hillzie: and @Mrs.G-McD:
So glad to know that we all would be (or were in your cases) extremely content with just our engagement rings and no other presents. I had asked a friend of mine not too long ago about this, and she said she thought it was kind of a cop out for a guy to propose during a major holiday. She said it would be like his excuse to not have to fork over any more money on other gifts, and she said she’d never want a proposal like that. I figured I’d get some more reactions like that from certain people, but I’m glad everyone on here so far isn’t that petty and selfish!
Post # 11
I got engaged on my birthday last year. He came down the night before to meet with my parents for permission while I was in night class, which kinda gave it away (long story as to why haha). That night he gave me a sweatshirt and stuffed bear that he bought while we were on vacation with his family the week before. But the next morning on my birthday, he left me for like 2 hours and said he was going to “visit friends”, which at the time bothered me! He then planned a picnic and took me out to a hiking park where he spent those 2 hours that morning carving his proposal into the rock wall… So I got a sweatshirt, bear, and the proposal on my birthday and didn’t see it coming 🙂
Post # 12
I got my ring 2 days before my actual birthday as a birthday present….and then I got a camera on my birthday.
Post # 13
I got my ring on christmas eve and an I-pod. He says he does not think he could top it this year LOL. I don’t think he could either. The ring was important, the gifts were not. But I do love my i-pod.
Post # 14
My fiance gave me my ring in my stocking on Christmas morning. We had been saying all year our gifts would be no more than $50, so we had to be creative. Well that didn’t happen obviously. But no it is was not my only gift. He gave a me a big fake diamond in front of the ring..he said it was the big diamond I had been hinting at and then there was my ring box. I was so blown away and crying…I loved that moment and didn’t care if there was anything else in there. But in the stocking I also had a DVD and a book.
It was all really sweet and I was really blown away! I also can’t wait to be his wife
Post # 15
While it was not my only BD present on the day, a lawyer friend made an interesting observation: she flippantly said that if the wedding/marriage fell through, then as it was a gift, and not solely specific to our engagement, then the ring would not have to be returned to my FI! ummm, thanks!
Post # 16
It was my birthday and I got white satin Christian Louboutin shoes.
FI gets me shoes instead of flowers, and I had seen something about the designer on tv at some point and said how it would be cool to walk down the aisle in red-soled shoes. So, as soon as I saw the shoes I knew. The ring was in a pouch in the shoe.
Also, he tricked me. I came home after working pretty late and he had flowers, a card, wine and was making dinner. I love cards, but this one was an obvious money envelope with $20. I laughed and told him we were regressing – he was treating me like a niece. But I wasn’t fazed at all. Then he asked for it back to pay for a hair cut, and I gave it back – still not fazed. He had hoped to get me worked up!