Post # 1
I posted a couple weeks ago about one of my cats who has lymphoma. He has been fighting for almost 3 months, but since last night I have seen a change in him that has let me know it’s “time”. My FH and I are going in with him tonight to say goodbye.
I would like to hear the experiences of those who have put a pet to sleep and stayed with the animal throughout the whole process. This is what we plan to do, but we don’t know what to expect.
My question is about the logistics of it. I have said goodbye to many pets in my lifetime, but that was all as a child when my parents made the decisions and stayed with the animals in their final moments. I’ve never witnessed it.
I am completely emotional and I think regardless I will be crying my eyes out. But I am hoping that someone out there can help prepare me for what those last moments will be like, so I can be calmer for his sake.
Obviously the vet will school me on what to expect… but I feel better hearing it from the average person, and I would like to know before going in. I’ve had a few months since his diagnosis to prepare myself, and I feel 100% certain that the time is right, but it is still a devastating decision to make. When we went to bed last night, our kitty cuddled with us as much as he could (he can’t seem to get comfortable anymore). I cried the whole night knowing it was the last one we would have with him 🙁 I just don’t know what to expect.
Post # 3
I’ll be honest: it is difficult and heartbreaking. You see your animal in a more vulnerable state than you ever wish to. I was there when we put down the dog I had from childhood to age 21. I broke my heart to see her so vulnerable and in so much pain, but it comforted me a bit that she knew I was there with her till the end. The vet was very gentle and made her as comfortable as possible, and we held on to her and petted her as her breathing slowed and she drifted to sleep. We all cried, and so did the vet. The worst part was leaving without her.
I’m so, so sorry you’re going through this. I know just the kind of pain and emotions you’re feeling, and I wish I could make it better. We’re here for you!
Post # 4
I’m so sorry. *hugs* My parents put down our Boxer when he was 14 a couple years ago.
I was out of state at the time, but they stayed with him. My Mom said that it really is like he’s going to sleep. She said her and my Dad cried the whole time. I really wish I could have been there.
Post # 5
i am so sorry you are having to deal with this. we had to put our dog to sleep years ago and i still remember as if it was yesterday. we took her into the office and had her lay on the examination table. we all petted her and told her it would be okay. when the vet came in he explained that it would seem as though she was going to sleep once he administered the drug and he was right. it was a quick process but she looked very peaceful as she drifted off… after she was gone i took off her collar (i still have it) and we all said our goodbyes. i get really emotional when i think about having to do this for my current pets. ugh.
i’m really sorry, again. i know how hard it is to lose a pet. i’ll keep you in my prayers.
Post # 6
@mrs.jk: I kept my dog’s collar, too. Somehow, it helped.
Post # 7
Our vet said that some dogs will fight it, even if they are ready to go, so just be with him and whisper in his ear that you love him and it’s ok. You’ll see him soon. The dog needs reassurance as much as you do. When my baby girl got put down (about 5 months ago), she didn’t fight it, just laid there and accepted the medicine. It IS hard, and painful, but as time goes on, it gets a little better every day.
I would be sick to my stomach if I weren’t there till the last breath for any of my animals. They are just as scared as we humans are/would be. No matter how hard it is for you, please stay with him and calm his nerves.
Post # 8
I haven’t actually been there, as my parents have done this with our dogs. I just wanted to say I am so so sorry, and I know how hard it is to lose a pet. But this is the right decision. You don’t want him to be in pain. And I’m sure he has lived a happy and loving life with you. Again I am so sorry, and it is okay to cry…I cried for days after our family pet of 14 years was put down two years ago. It’s difficult, but you’ll have your Fiance with you. (((hugs)))
Post # 9
this thread is making me cry 🙁
Post # 10
Aw i’m so sorry to hear you have to make a decision like that. It’s so hard to lose a pet they become a part of the family. When i was a child we put a few pets down. I was never there with them when they passed away my mom would always do that part but, i got to say my good byes. I’m sorry i can’t offer any real advice. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Post # 11
I’m so sorry that you’re going through this 🙁
You and the vet will make your pet as comfortable as possible. Bring his favorite blanket or something so he can curl up on it. You can cuddle and pet him all you want. When you are ready the vet will inject him and he will be gone pretty quickly. He’ll won’t be scared or in pain and he’ll have you by his side.
You’re doing the right thing. He’ll pass knowing you’re by his side.
Post # 12
I know, reflecting on this made me tear up, too. Such an emotional experience!
Post # 13
Thank you to everyone for sharing your experiences and condolences.
In my heart I know I am doing the right thing for him. He is tired and uncomfortable and for being a true foodie for the 3 years I’ve had him, is refusing even his most treasured treats and off-limit “human food”. It is going to be a very difficult experience but we owe it to him to be there for him at his time of greatest need. We are just trying to take comfort in the fact that he lived a good and pampered life with us, and he brought us a lot of joy as well (he turned my FH from an “I don’t like cats! Never!” man into a feline magnet).
Thanks for all of your thoughts.
Post # 14
@Sunshining: I promise that after the pain eventually subsides, you’ll be able to move forward with all of the happy memories you have.
Post # 15
So sorry to hear about this. It’s very difficult to go through. I couldn’t bring myself to be there, but would have if no one else would just to comfort my dog. My dad went into the room with her. He said it was very peaceful and she just went to sleep. Just know that you are doing what’s best for your pet. It is painful but it will get better with time and you will have lots of great memories.
Post # 16
I can keep it together during the actual procedure, because I tell myself that if the animal sees that I’m upset, they’re going to be worried during their final moments, and I don’t want that. A lot of my close friends and family ask me to accompany their pets to the vet the last time because of this “skill.” But once they’ve passed away I totally lose it. I just go to bed and cry for hours. It’s really just incredibly sad. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this – just tell yourself that he’s had a really nice, happy life, and this is one final act of love you can do for him.