Post # 1
I can’t be the only one out there, right? I never dreamed about getting married. My BFF was one of those dreamy, wedding-planning girls and I always teased her about it.
Pros: I have no childhood dream to live up to.
Cons: I haven’t been collecting inspiration for 20 years.
Who else never thought about a wedding until is snuck up and bit you?
Post # 3
ME!! 🙂 I did always want to get married and I always assumed I would… but I NEVER fantasized about my wedding. I would kind of dream of the “I do” moment but for some reason i never really thought about the reception or any of the stuff not associated with the actually getting married part of it.
I feel sooooo totally lost because I never really paid that much attention at other weddings, or got an idea for what my style is or what I want. Sucks!
Post # 4
I had thought about it in a VERY general way, but never really had specific ideas about what I would ever want. So, when we got engaged, I wanted to just elope, but FI nixed that plan. He was like, you’re a girl, don’t you know exactly what you want?
I ended up picking a venue in my hometown that has a lot of sentimental value for me and then everything else just kind of fell into place. I think that not having 20 years worth of hopes and dreams makes it much easier to just go with the flow and make choices. If you’ve been dreaming about peonies and Chivari chairs your whole life, I think it’s a lot harder to compromise your vision (when you see how expensive they are!) than if you are just seeing them for the first time.
Post # 5
OOH OOH ME ME!! i NEVER thought i’d be engaged at 26…. i grew up telling myself that i wouldn’t even start looking for that MR.RIGHT until i was at least 30!
sure i dated and had boyfriends, but i NEVER thought about marriage or the future or kids… i just simply was a “relationship”er… a serial monogamist if you will… when one relationship didn’t work out i’d be single have my fun and then hop into the next relationship… which only really culminated to about 3 or 4 long term bf’s prior to FI. 😛
obvi i always wanted to get married and have kids and bla bla. but just like corgi, i never thought about my wedding… or anything that i wanted… this entire wedding planning process has been a whirlwind and i’ve learned so much!
it’s funny, cuz now all of my friends want me to plan their weddings! LOL
Post # 6
me!! I never thought about wedding details at all, until I met my now husband. I knew I wanted to honeymoon somewhere cool though, like the mountains or something.
My husband talked about marriage for approximately 1.5 years before he proposed to me though… so I had a LOT of time pre engagement to get excited and gather inspiration. Also, I’d attended about 20 weddings in the few years before we got engaged, so I had lots to get inspired by. By the time I was engaged, we’d talked a lot and I had lots of ideas about what we wanted, so planning was super fun and we were only engaged for 8 months.
Post # 7
I never dreamed of mine, had a 4 1/2 month engagment, and had a kickass wedding.
I think in some ways it helped because like you say, nothing to live up to. There’s a lot of silly details that if you read too much you feel like youhave to have. We just did what we wanted. Granted my MIL was a big force in getting everything done in a short amount of time and still having it go off well.
Post # 8
Same here! I was definitely planning on getting married and was very excited when I got engaged, but I had never really thought about the WEDDING part. In some ways I wish that I had, because its been a slightly stressful learning process for me since I didn’t know ANYTHING and had NO idea what I wanted…and people completely expected me to have strong opinions and to be able to articulate my vision. My long engagement (over 18 months) helped with this by giving me lots of time to figure it out.
Post # 9
ME TOO, I never thought about it before!
Now it’s like you get to this age where you’re surrounded by them, so then it gets you thinking!
Corgi – I totally regret not paying much attention at other weddings too lol
Post # 10
Me neither!! I have dreamed of being married all my life. But I never envisioned the wedding, except that it had to be intimate. When we started thinking of getting married, we were also attending many weddings at that time. It just confirmed us that we wanted something very simple yet elegant and intimate, so we went the DW route and couldn’t be happier.
Post # 11
@troubled: 4 1/2 month engagement! That’s awesome. I wish we had done that.
Ya, I guess I’ll clarify, like you girls I knew I would get married someday, I just didn’t think about it beyond “I do”. I had no idea that there was so much more to weddings until we got engaged.
Post # 12
I never knew how many options/decisions/choices there are!! I always thought pink was a pretty color…but what shade? what flower? what texture? Thank goodness for wedding magazines and wedding bee! 🙂
Post # 13
Just yesterday we were meeting with a caterer and she was like “tell me about the wedding you’ve always dreamed of”. I laughed and then I was like “uhh… I haven’t?”
Post # 14
Yep, same here. I figured I’d get married one day but didn’t think about it more than that. I was just starting to think “eah, maybe I’ll just stay single” when I met FI. Life is funny!!!
Post # 15
Ditto! I felt totally lost when we got engaged. But it turns out I’m not bad at the wedding planning thing. 🙂
Post # 16
Same here 🙂 I also always just imagined that I would get married, but I never thought too deeply about ANY of the details except that I knew I didn’t want it to be in a Church. I occasionally would look at dresses or something online, but it was more just like window shopping. Now that I’m married, I still look even lol I used to always fantasize about what married life would be like, but never about the actual wedding, heh.