(Closed) For those who "knew" he was the one, are you a thinker or feeler?

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: For those of you who KNEW he was "THE ONE" quickly... what type of person are you typically?
    Feeler. I know and can rely on these things based on experience. : (19 votes)
    28 %
    Thinker, which is why it was so weird. It was too strong to ignore and so odd; it had to be right : (22 votes)
    33 %
    Thinker... this didn't happen to me. It took me a some time to figure it out : (5 votes)
    7 %
    Thinker... this didn't happen to me. It took me a few years to figure it out : (6 votes)
    9 %
    Feeler... this still didn't happen to me. It took me a few years to figure this out : (0 votes)
    Feeler... this still didn't happen to me. It took me some time to figure it out : (2 votes)
    3 %
    I didn't really have a "just knew he was the one" feeling. I'm a thinker so I rely on logic instead : (8 votes)
    12 %
    I didn't really have a "just knew he was the one" feeling. I'm a feeler, but it makes sense : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Other? : (4 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    3553 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I’m a thinker, and it took a few years to know he was the one, but that could be due to the fact that we started dating at 16 and we’ve changed a lot since then. After we got through sophmore year of college (it was rocky and we fought a lot) I think I knew we would make it through the next 2 years of LDR and he was the one.

    Post # 4
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    2207 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    i am definitely a thinker… our relationship is kind of weird because we were friends for a year or so before we started dating (although i had a HUGE crush on him during that time!). so when we started dating, and things just felt so right, i knew he was the one a few months in.  but it was also kind of an analytical decision because we were friends first. 🙂

    Post # 5
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    806 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    im a little of both, my intuition has let me down a few times so i try not to rely on that too heavily but i have to admit im such a romantic. but with all the hardships in love that ive had it forced me to be a thinker, and so with him it was both. i felt it and i knew it in my heart and mind that hes the one, but moreso based on his actions proving to me that he will be there and wont hurt me like the others. hes definetly a god send.

    Post # 6
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    503 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I am very much a feeler but I’ve been hurt a lot in the past so I kind of forced myself to be a thinker, if that makes sense? My feelings were there because I’m a feeler but I guess I refused to accept them until I thought it through and made sure I wasn’t crazy by talking to my friends who had met him.

    Post # 7
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    945 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I’m a huge thinker. I think and analyze over everything, from who to be friends with, to what to eat, to what clothes to wear. I don’t ever go on gut feeling. It was actually really terrifying to meet him for the first time and just feel it… feel that he is the one. 😛 There was no thinking for analyzing on that one! haha

    Post # 8
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    7312 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    None of the options are quite right for me. I’m a feeler. I spent most of my dating life relying on feelings, and then watching as my feelings led me down the wrong track. LOL So I felt it with Mr. LK, but I refused to rely on those feelings. This time I needed to logically know that it was right. And the logic was undeniable… Mr. Lk was the most amazing match I could ever hope for on every level. So it was feeling AND logic, ftw!

    Post # 9
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    5221 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @BHB0526:  you “stole” my logo and my close hometown… I’m from BR 🙂

     

    OP, For my everyday life, I TRY to incorporate both into my decision making process and to strike a balance between the two. At my core, I am more of a thinker. However; when I met DH, I didn’t peg him as “ the one” for about 6-8 months in. We were both hesitant at first, but once we made the decision to get married, we dove in headfirst.

    Post # 10
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    2462 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’m absolutely a thinker in general, but the way I felt about dh basically immediately knocked me off my socks and I knew then that he was different! the first time we kissed I felt like I was totally breathless and I didn’t stop smiling for days, lol. with previous guys, I’d totally overanalyzed everything and could never tell if I actually liked a guy if I just thought they were nice and enjoyed  their attentions, but with dh it was totally different 

    Post # 11
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    5405 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I couldn’t vote because I’m really equally both. Feelings probably trump logic when I can’t decide something though. I guess I’m not sure what else to say because I’m not sure what you’re looking for. With FH, I didn’t really worry much about the future because we were young, but I knew within a couple months he was it. 

    Post # 12
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    503 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @Mrs_Amanda:  I just moved out here, I’m from Central originally haha

    Post # 13
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    1880 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m a thinker. I knew the second time I met him. (The first time had been a year before at the same bar – he was the friend of one of my friends who had invited everyone out.) I remember basically every single date I wanted to just ask him to marry me already. It was the oddest thing. Fortunately all our time together has done nothing but confirm my gut feeling, so the thinker in me can be satisfied with the outcome.

    Post # 14
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    5371 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    I’m 100% a thinker, and I knew within the first month of dating him that he was the one I was supposed to marry (: It was definitely a weird feeling, since usually I’m so logical. We were 17.

    Post # 15
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    2263 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Thinker. i knew within the first 3 months of dating he was different. Odd for me, but it worked out that way. He’s a feeler and knew before I did lol. 

    Post # 16
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    9061 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I fall in an “inbetween” stage. I voted for feeler, but it was really a happy medium of the two.

    I was a “thinker” before we reunited. My husband and I had gotten in touch through Facebook and entered into a LDR. We talked a lot about the pros and cons of this relationship compared to the one I left him for, and was going to settle for. A lot of analytics went on here, so this was the “thinker” part.

    A month later he flew me out to see him for three weeks and that’s when I knew, and it was the “feeler” part.

     

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