Post # 1
So my degree will take me about another 6 years. By that time I will be 28 years old and I really want to be finished with school before I have a baby. At the same time though, I don’t want to wait THAT long! I was hoping for maybe 3-4 years max. What about you ladies?
Post # 3
I fully plan on going back to school after we TTC/have a baby. I think it’s doable if you’re disciplined and have a great support system (great daycare, spouse is supportive, etc).
Post # 4
I anticipate having issues conceiving so I think we’re going to start trying after our first anniversary. We’re both 25 and we want to have a baby before we’re 30 so we should start early.
ETA: I totally read this wrong. I guess I didn’t see the “in school” part before I posted. I’m no longer in school so I just answered based on our own personal timeline.
Post # 5
I’ll finish law school a few moths before I turn 24, and I think we’re waiting until about 26/27 to start TTC. So, I don’t really have a baby/school question to balance for myself.
But, while kids in school can be super stressful, I think that I’d like the flexibility that classes offer when it comes to having a newborn. I know about 8 or 9 people who are having their kids this year so that they have some ‘baby time’ with them before starting careers.
Post # 6
@beekiss: Good Point!
@indibee: I never thought of that!
Post # 7
I’m finishing my masters next may or august, and then intend to take a couple years off school to work while Fiance finishes HIS masters (yes, he’s younger than me!). My plan at this point is to work while he gets his masters and make some money. Then after he has his masters I will go back to get my PhD, while he works and makes some money. From what I understand, having a baby during graduate school can actually be less stressful than having one while working. More flexible hours, less time actually AT school (than at work), etc. So ideally I would really like to start TTC during the fall of FI’s last year getting his masters. Then I can have the baby in the spring and have an entire summer to just relax with the baby before starting my PhD.
Of course, this brilliant plan will go crashing about my ears if we have problems TTC, but I don’t have any family history of TTC problems so at this point I’m pretty optimistic.
Post # 8
Well, I graduate in June (YAY!) so I’m on the other end of this dilemma. I have been in graduate school for 5 years and I’m turning 29 in one week, right before graduating. We are going to start TTC pretty soon. I wish we’d started this year but I was waiting to see what would happen for me next year, if I was going to do another year of training vs. a post-doc. Ended up going post-doc route and now I just don’t care enough to continue delaying in TTC. It’s past time, in my opinion, so we’re going to start!
This is a very personal decision that no one else can make for you. For me, I live in Boston, where the average age of first time motherhood is later than the national average, so it’s not that big of a deal.. I don’t feel super old starting now at 29. It will be nice to have school out of the way and I’d probably do it again. I’m not sure if I’d have finished if we’d had kids during my program. However, if we have problems conceiving, I’m definitely going to be kicking myself and wishing we’d started earlier. This is truly one of the worst parts of being a woman these days, I think.. the career/education/baby dilemma it creates.
Post # 9
I got pregnant the same month I graduated…at 30. 28 is still young. 😉 It definitely depends on your health/fertility and career path, though. I was doing a weekend masters while working full-time, so I didn’t have to start my career & build a reputation while pregnant.
I do recommend looking into going off HBC before you are full on TTC. I went off 7 months before TTC, and I had time to resolve some issues before we really wanted to try. I charted and we got pregnant the first month and are very lucky that way.
Post # 10
I’m just starting my 2nd year of undergrad, and I’ll be 28 when I’m all done…I really don’t want to wait that long to have a baby!
I figure we can start TTC early 2012, I’d go to school all throughout my pregnancy (so….basically 3rd year), take a semester off and go back full time after that. Fiance would take paternity leave after I go back so someone’s home with the baby full time for at least the first 8-12 months (the standard mat leave here in Canada :))
I hope it works out *fingers crossed*
Post # 11
I am 31 and I finally finish my BA in June. It was very important for me to finish school before having a baby because I felt like I wouldn’t be strong enough to finish if I stopped (because I have stopped a few times before)
I am now pregnant with my first child who is due in Oct. So it’s all working out according to plan. I will have this baby…and one more….and after the 2nd one is born I will go back to finish my masters.
I am really glad I waited until now to get pregnant. Everyone is different, but in my opinion 28 is not very old 🙂
Post # 12
Most difficult decision. If I wasn’t in grad school I would start TTC on our honeymoon!! I don’t know what is up with my hormones lately but I want to start having kids ASAP! I am 25 and will probably be in grad school for another 2 years. Ideally (haha if I can stop these raging hormones) I will be able to wait til I’m done!
Post # 13
I am going to finish my Master’s Degree and Advanced Certificate in my field next Spring. I am still toying with the idea of getting a PhD at some point but, like you, I don’t want to wait until I’m thirty. We’re planning on TTC pretty soon after the wedding, then I’ll go back and get my PhD (if I still want it) in my late 20s.