Post # 1
what are the reasons for your time frame (longer engagements, compared to others getting married fairly quickly – 6 months to a year or so)? I am just curious. When I was initially engaged in Nov. 2000, we had planned to get married October 2002 b/c I wanted a lot of time to plan. But, my mother in law drove me crazy (she was so nasty) that I moved it up to Sept of 2001. Just curious as to the reasons others plan a longer engagement.
Post # 3
I wanted to wait until I was done with graduate school, so that meant a 16 month engagement. I am also planning from about 7 hours away, so I wanted time to make sure that we could get everything done that we wanted. It’s working for us!
Post # 4
We got engaged right when I graduated high school and right after he graduated from getting his masters. We were poor, broke, college kids who had no money at the time to get married right away, so we waited for about 2 years to actually tie the knot.
Funny fact: We were engaged in June of 2009 and tied the knot in December 2010. We originally wanted to get married in November of 2011 but had saved enough by early 2010 we decided why the heck not bump it up?
Post # 5
We wanted my FI to be done with internship and then it was the holidays so we wanted it right after that.
Post # 6
We’re waiting to finish school (college for FI, grad school for me), and we wanted to have time to plan. When we got engaged, we were in the middle of a big transition, so we knew we didn’t have lots of planning time right away. We also needed (and need) time to save up some of the wedding funding!
I am getting impatient, but there’s less than a year to go now, and I still feel like we made the right decision. We got engaged when we did because we were ready, and because we wanted our grandparents to enjoy our engagement with us; my grandmother passed shortly after we got engaged, so I know we made the right decision on that count.
Post # 7
Our main reason to have two year engagement was to save up for the wedding. We are paying for the wedding ourselves, and set our budget based on what we could set aside every month. In addition, we didn’t feel the need to rush and get married immediately after getting engaged (we’ve already been together for 5 years when we got engaged). We got so many reactions– “why are you having such a long engagement?” Our response–“Why not?”
Post # 8
I remember it feeling like the day would NEVER come! Even when I did move our date up a year!
Post # 9
We were originally planning for me to be finished with college and have my BA (which would have been about a three-year engagement), but we bumped our date up by a year, which put us right around two years.
Post # 10
We got engaged right after our second anniversay, on a vacation after our “busy times” at work. To have planned it for a year would have meant the last two months were during BUSY work times, something we wanted to avoid. So we had an 18 month engagement.
The ironic thing is that two months later, he had a career change. And last month, I had a career change and now our wedding date is actually quite an inopportune time for us. But it’s planned and we’re making do 🙂
Post # 11
I’m in the middle of grad school and if all goes to plan he will be starting the last stage of his paramedic license very soon. Oh, and we want to buy a house in the next couple of months or so. I just can’t imagine planning the wedding while we are trying to do all of that; I know myself it would not be a fun experience for anyone.
So we decided on a two year engagement. We will be married two years to the day when we got engaged, and I couldn’t be happier.
Post # 12
waited to finish grad school and save some money!
Post # 13
We got engaged at the end of January 2010. I really wanted to get married in October and I thought 8 months was just too short to plan the wedding I wanted, plus the extra year would give me time to save, as we’re paying for it mostly ourselves. So, I bumped it from October 2010 to October 2011.
Post # 14
I decided that I want a long engagement so that we can save up money and have plenty of time to plan. Some people don’t understand why we’re waiting until Oct. 2012, but I really don’t care to explain myself.
ETA: I’ve been engaged since this past Christmas Eve. Some days it seems like it’s forever away and others it’s the perfect timeline.
Post # 15
By the time our wedding rolls around we will have been engaged for 16 months. There are a number of reasons why we choose to have a longer than normal engagement but I guess the main reason is money. While my parents are generously paying for roughly half of our wedding, FI and I are still responsible for paying the other half as well as for our honeymoon (to the tune of about $10,000). We could have made this happen sooner but it was important for us to not sacrifice our way of living just to pay for our wedding.
We didn’t want to give up the things we love or sit at home every night because every penny we make needed to be saved, that would make for a miserable engagement. Instead, we are able to save a little each week (our current weekly contribution is $100) and not give up the things we love to do. Our standard of living has not really been affected at all. I remember our friends stressing over how they were going to pay for their wedding (they only had a 6 month engagement). They even had to get rid of cable!
The other main reason for our 16 month engagement was the time of year that we wanted to get married. We knew we wanted a fall wedding but being that we were engaged in June 2010, throwing together a wedding in 4 months was completely impossible. We live in the Adirondacks and for anyone who has never been here, it’s AMAZING in the fall. All my life I’ve pictured getting married overlooking the beautiful lake and having the colorful leaves as our backdrop.
Finally, I freakin’ love being engaged and I wouldn’t have wanted the whole experience to be over and done with so quickly. When else in a woman’s life is she going to feel such anticipation than when she’s engaged (well other than being pregnant but that’s different)? I love being able to talk about our wedding plans. I love checking off each month on the calendar and seeing our wedding day get closer. I love being “the bride”. After the weddings over, what else do you have to look forward to? Obviously your life together but I look forward to my life with FI now, that’s not going to change after we’re married.
We’ve had so many people comment on how long our engagement is. Honestly, I wouldn’t change the length for anything. This is the perfect amount of time for us. The last 7 months flew by and I’m sure the next 9 will too!
ETA: Sheesh! Sorry for the novel…
Post # 16
I love October and really wanted to get married in that month. We got engaged in July, so I didn’t think there’d be enough time or money to get a wedding together in 3 months. So we decided for the next October…Our engagement will be 15 months long. 9 more to go!