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How many kids do you want to have based on what you know now? I want 4-6 and everyone says I'll change my mind after the first. So for those of us without a bias yet, how many kids do you want to have?
And if you wouldn't mind sharing, how old are you and are you single, in a relationship, engaged or married?
We're 22, almost 23 and engaged and even though we aren't thinking of trying anytime soon, we want two, possibly three but probably just two.
I'm engaged. Ideally I'd love more kids, but 3 seems realistic and would fit our lifestyle more. Working is important to me, traveling and money would make me not have more than that.
Newly married, and I think I want three kids ... eventually. (he wants at least 2)
I came from 2-kid family, and my husband is an only child, and we both know we want our kids to have more siblings than we had!
ETA: We're also very strongly considering doing foster care, and all of our kids may end up being adopted, because we're ENORMOUS proponents of adoption.
We're both 27...engaged...and we want 4...but always say to ask us again after 2 haha. We will definately have 2 because we both come from large families and think siblings are the best gift we can give our child (no offense to only children! it's just how we grew up :) So I voted 4!
I'm 25 and engaged. My FI wants 3 kids, but I only want 2, so I picked 2. He'll really have to talk me into the third one.
I would like 3 (1 biological and 2 adopted) I am 30yrs and engaged!
I'm 25, he's 29. We're engaged. I want 3, he wants 2. I guess we'll see what life is like after 2. :)
TTC now--2 max, DH wants to get snipped after that.
ETA: I'm 25, he's 31.
I'm 26 and married. We've discussed it and are looking to have 2-3 kids. Neither of us are only children and really cherish having siblings, plus I think it might be hard to stop at one with how much we love kids!
FI and I want 2. As his father says, "enough to replace ourselves on this earth and no more".
I'm almost 22 and married. He wants no more than 2, but I say 3 would be my limit. If our first two are boys, I'd want to try again for a girl. I was the only girl out of three boys in my family and so I would really love to have a little girl of my own to make up for not having a sister hahaha.
28 and engaged. I know I want more than one (I'd love one girl and one boy :) but 3 seems like a lot. My sister (35) has 3 girls: 3, 6, 9 and her life is crazy!!! I know parenting styles and lifestyle choices affect the amount of chaos in your household, but someone is always crying, fighting, sick... u get the idea :) I think it will def. be easier as they all get older, though.
2-3. It really depends on the sexes of our first two children and if we feel we can afford a third to go to college. We'll have the first two before I'm 29, and maybe a 3rd at 32 or 33. We'll have been married 2 years this summer and together over 6. I really want 3, but I want to make sure we can provide the same lifestyle for all 3. But i guarantee if we have 2 boys or 2 girls first, there will DEFINITELY be a 3rd.
My husband and are both 30. We want 3 kids, but may stop after two depending on gender and how we feel about parenting. For now, here is our forecast -
If we have one of each, we may stop there
If we have two boys, we would try for a girl (but I would LOVE to have 3 boys)
If we have two girls, we are DEFINITELY having another. I grew up as one of two girls and I know very few families with two daughters where the sisters get along. Way too much competition. I would rather have 3 girls and risk middle child syndrome and more fighting (not to mention having 3 female teenagers at once!), than just have two.
I’m 29 and married (he is 45). He wants 1, I think I’d like 2, but we’ll see after 1. We’re already started a 529 college savings plan for the future baby, it’s too expensive to think about paying for more than 2 kids. And braces, ugh.
I voted for 3, but DH only wants 2 at this point. We both might change our minds and just want 1 after actually having a child! I'm 25, he's 27 and we're married.
I initially thought 3 before we were married, but I'm down to 2 now. If we can afford 3, we'll probably do it, but with how expensive college is, I don't know that we'll be able to do it.
My FI and I are both 26. I want 2-3 children and he wants 3-4. So we will likely compromise and end up having 3. And we both plan to adopt as well as have biological children. So excited to see what the future holds!
I'm 29 (same with DH) and we've been married for almost 8 months and at this point do not want to have kids. But if we change our minds in the future, I think 2 is the perfect number. I was one of 4 and my brother already has 4, my sister 3, and I think anymore than 2 is too much. The kids start to get really bratty after 2 because they can't get as much attention from the parents, there's less to go around. And sibling rivalry runs in all families, no matter how perfect. I also know a few only children and they hate it. They were bored their whole lives, one of my only child friends never even had any cousins so her homelife was really drab. So you could definitely say I'm already biased against having less than or more than 2 kids!!
DH wants 2-3 and I want 3-4 so I voted for 3. We're married, I'm 23 and DH is 24.
We would both really like to have at least one of each sex so the we can enjoy the differences in raising boys and girls so if we get that split with our first 2, I might be convinced to stop there. But if the first two are both boy or both girls, a third child will definitely be on the way!
I'm 33 & Hubs just turned 34. Our first is due in 8 weeks (hopefully after I turn 34 so we don't share a birthday). We want to try for two...I grew up as an only & it wasn't easy taking on the hopes, dreams, expectations, & occassional disappointments of my parents on my own. Hubs grew up as the older of two & felt it was a pretty ideal way to grow up. We'd probably like one of each (the Kid is a boy), but will be happy if our 2nd is a boy or a girl. If we can afford it, we'd look into adopting a 3rd.
@Pomapoo: I have a friend whose parents said that ("keep trying til we have one of each") and after five boys they finally gave up and adopted a girl! Two years later they adopted another girl. :)
I love that family - so much energy and ALWAYS something going on.
I'm 25, almost engaged, grew up with 4 kids in my family and I love having a big family. I keep saying I want 4 kids... but I'm wondering if I will get worn out after 2. I'm selfish with SO's time and I might have a hard time sharing him with the kids. ;)
Newly married, 30 (DH is 41). I want 2, but we've comprised on 1 (before getting engaged). My philosophy is 2 hands, 2 kids. Couldn't handle anything more!
We’re both 24 (but will be 25 in March – his b-day is 2 weeks before mine) and we are engaged. I’d be perfectly content with 0 but FI wants to be a dad. I’m not budging on 1 though. I’m an only child and I always enjoyed being one.
I put two, but I think I might like 3. SO is pretty sure he just wants 2. We're both 24 (25 in a few weeks). We'll see, we won't be having any kids for the next few years, anyways.
We're 24 and 25, married, and we plan to have 2. I was only child, he was 1 of 3--I don't want to have an only child because I wasn't a big fan of it and he doesn't want 3 because he thought it was too many. So, two kids it is!
We're married and both 27. DH wants three, but I want 2 or 4 because I'm that OCD about even numbers.
Well. We want two, preferably one boy, one girl. We aren't opposed to three, but definitely no more than three. I want more than one because I LOVE having siblings and want that for my children.
We are engaged. I'm 21, FI is 23. We don't plan on kids for another 4+ years though.
@ejs4y8: I totally read that as "the sexiness of the children", hahaha! As if in the case that the first two are unattractive, you'll try for a more attractive third kid.
I'm 23 and my husband is 25. We're newly married and are trying to wait 3-5 years from now to have kids. As much as we have the baby bug sometimes we enjoy our life just the two of us! So kids seem very abstract - I basically think of them in terms of the family Christmas card picture, haha :) I think a Christmas card would look perfect with three! But financially and practically, two will probably make more sense. I am definitely open to adopting our third child, also!
I'm impressed with the 6+ voters.
How are you guys PAYING for that? Every kid for itself through college? Yikes! One or two for us, please!
We are both 30 and married. Hoping for 2: a boy and a girl! If we get 2 girls I'll be content. If we get 2 boys though...that may be a problem since I really want a girl. We hope to start trying later this year.
I want 2, my husband wants 2 or more - I guess we'll have to wait and see! We are married, I am 24 and he is 25 and we will probably start ttc in about 2 years. I definitely have babies on the brain anyway!
2-3...it depends on finances, genders, etc, I suppose. I come from a 2 kid family and SO comes from a 5 kid family. I'm 26 and he's 25 and we'll be engaged by the end of February.
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