Post # 1
Okay, I am all for body confidence and “loving the skin you’re in”, but I’m frustrated nonetheless. I don’t think I need to get rid of all my tummy-weight to be happy, but it gets me down when my family points it out and uses it as an excuse to lecture me on my life habits. Allow me to shed some light:
1. I eat a very balanced, calorie-conscious, high-in-veggies, vegetarian diet.
2. I don’t add salt to ANYTHING I cook or eat (apparently it makes you bloated).
3. I work out consistently, and I’m active even when I’m not working out (I walk as much as I can, take the stairs instead of the elevator, etc.)
4. My cholesterol and blood pressure are right on target.
5. ALL other parts of my body are lean and toned. I can’t pinch an inch anywhere!
And yet, my belly remains the way it is. A little pudgy, very little muscle tone. Both of my parents carry weight around their middles. Sometimes I wish I looked a little more feminine and carried the weight around my hips and thighs. Many girls in my family have very svelte torsos but carry everything in their hip area, and my older female relatives point them out to me and say, “Look at your cousin so-and-so! She’s so thin! Maybe you could ask her what she does?” Gah!
I’m sure you can relate when I say that belly-weight is much harder to conceal than hip weight. Cameras emphasize it like crazy! Why do I always look so much larger on film than I do in the mirror?
I just needed to get this off my chest and see if any of you Bees can relate. Most days, it doesn’t get me down, but once in a while the frustration builds up. I’m also preparing for a trip home in a few days (I’m from the Caribbean so swimsuits will be required) and I’m freaking out a little, as I always do.
Post # 3
Ugh! This is probably the most painful thing that frustrates me to death….people pestering me about my weight or making offhand slides about other peoples! As long as you’re active and eat a nutritiously, I see nothing wrong so ignore those people who say things about you b/c they are the ones feeling self conscious and need to bring others down!
I just want you to know, I sympathize with you on many levels. As an adult, I don’t think we need to be pestered about our appearance if we’re healthy.
I think you should embrace those lovely hips and I know there are beautiful bathing suits out there for your shape 🙂
Post # 4
I wish I knew the belly fat losing secrets. It seems to be the only place I gain weight and the hardest place to lose 🙁
You’re right, it’s very hard to conceal belly fat. I wish I could help, but I have the same problem.
Post # 5
@beekiss2: Thanks! And don’t you worry. I wear bikinis with pride, pudgy tummy and all! Unfortunately, that’s when I get the most criticism, but I try to let it wash over me.
Post # 6
Oh my gosh! This happened literally a moment ago at work:
An 86-year-old man who stops by my place of work now and then suddenly blurted out, “Do you need a godfather?”
“No, sir. I already have a godfather.”
“No, what I mean is, do you need a godfather? Because you look like you might be pregnant.”
“Oh. Haha. Well. I’m not pregnant.”
Post # 7
My response would be, “Sir, do you need an optometrist? Because those glasses need checked!” or “Sir, do you need a home health aid? Because you’re really old.”
I probably wouldn’t say that…but I like to think I would.
Post # 8
Wow that’s so rude of him!
Post # 9
@LadyJDAG – OMG that’s crazy! Sometimes I can hardly believe the nerve of some older people! Years ago I worked at a pharmacy and we had an older gentleman who would come in to pick up his medications – but he always walked through the store smoking a cigar! And every time he was told that you couldn’t smoke in the building, but he did it anyways. Do some older individuals think that rules/ social etiquette don’t apply to them?!? Seriously.
Post # 10
I agree with Evabostonterrier, some just don’t think social etiquette applies but I do find that in all age groups. I guess my response is harsh telling him he’s old. I do like older people, usually they’re wise and fun to talk to, but wow, that’s a pretty terrible thing of him to say to you!
Post # 11
It’s normal and feminine to have some fat around the tum tum. I can’t gain weight anywhere else to save my life! I have accepted it but I also just picked the up the book Eat to Live and I’m going to be eating 90 percent unprocessed foods. I think it will help.
Post # 12
i can totally relate – 90% of my weight is in my middle – no matter what i do it wont go away and i am very self concious about it since when i was younger i had a janet jackson-esque six pack. but that was back when i ate one meal a day of applesause crackers and tuna and ran 6-8 miles a day.
i try to embrace the pudge and reassure myself by saying i am healthy (i eat well, exercise, etc) but it still makes me feel bad – especially when my mother tells me i look fat.
nothing i have tried works either, so if you figure it out let me know and i will do the same!
Post # 13
Now I’m feeling even worse about the fact that I’m more bloated than usual today. 🙁 Thanks, old man.
I just don’t want people thinking I’m pregnant! That’s how rumors start!
Post # 14
i am completely the same. people are always telling me how thin my legs are, but ALL of my weight is in my belly. very, very annoying. i’ve been working out, eating right, etc, and the only weight i seem to be losing is from my chest, haha. i have a personal trainer who said not to get discouraged because belly fat is the last thing to go when you’re losing weight. but if you stick it out (dieting/working out) when it does come off, it’ll come off quickly. i’m still waiting!!
Post # 15
@lady – i’m sorry to hear! It must be so frustrating to see results (and to not be able to pinch an inch? jealous!) everywhere else. I gain weight right in my butt and upper thighs and even when i’m working out, they’ve still got some pinches. It’s frustrating, but just dress for your shape. Maybe wear belts to define your waist, or empire waisted tops or other things?
Post # 16
I am the exact same way!!! I am so glad that there are girls out there that feel the same. My friends have always been tall bean poles & there I was the short, pudgy girl. By no means am I fat, but I have lean muscle everywhere BUT my belly!! I work out constantly, (At the gym at least 5 times a week), do core & ab exercises, eat a well balanced diet. GRRRR soo annoying.
The only thing I have heard people say is that for some people’s blood type you are supposed to eat certain things. I think the book was called “Eat Right For Your Blood Type” I could be wrong on that title. A girl I worked with read the book, started cutting things out & has lost a bit of weight from her midsection. She encouraged me to read it but I would rather live with my middle tummy than have to get blood taken to find out what blood type I am. I am deathly afraid of needles!!