Post # 1
Do you regret not sleeping with more people? Have you ever opened up your relationship/marriage or had a threesome to ‘compensate’ for lost time?
If you didn’t go down that route – but having more sexual experience is important to you – how do you cope with it?
Did you have few sexual partners because you were devoted to minimizing partners (i.e., in other words, you had the opportunity to sleep with more people but didn’t do so)? Or…were you someone who wanted more sexual partners, but because of opportunity, never had the chance (you met your future husband/wife when you were quite young, few people were interested in you romantically, etc.)?
Post # 3
absolutely no regrets, i don’t want threesomes (i see them as cheating, but everyone is different 🙂
up until when I met FI and before I started dating him i always thought i wanted to wait until marriage. but FI and i lost our virginities to each other after 1 year together 🙂
we both did other stuff with one previous partner (oral sex, handjobs, etc – i had only received these, i had never given until FI and I became friends with benefits – boy it was scary the first time – hadn’t seen an adult penis besides my dad’s before that, and i held it too hard, i have gotten much better in the almost four years since though ;)) but were each other’s first time, and neither of us have any regrets 🙂
i should add: we met when we were both 17 turning 18, started fooling around ten months later, then started dating two months after that
Post # 4
Not me, but my sister. She met her now husband when she was…13 maybe? He was her only partner up until the point when they married when she was 24. Then she started itching for more experience, asked for an “open relationship,” her husband told her he wasn’t comfortable with that idea, so she just cheated on him anyway at 29, and is still doing so at 31.
Now, it isn’t to say everyone who took this path is doomed to travel the road my sister went down. She has poor impulse control, and that’s always been the case.
Post # 5
I have only been with 2 people and it doesn’t bother me at all!
I had many other experiences with many other men but I always chose not to sleep with them. I have only slept with 2 people and I was in a committed relationship with both of these men.
I also ended up meeting my DH when I was fairly young (I was 20 when we met).
So I think it was a combination of a lot of things but once again it’s not something that bothers me nor is it something I really even think about. (Even though DH was VERY experienced when we met)
Post # 6
i am not in this club, but i have a very good friend who is and she really wanted more experience. neither of them were comfortable with bringing a 3rd party in or open relationships, so they got really into being adventurous and explored mutually arousing kinks… seems to have worked just fine for them!
@Jacqui90: why have you seen your dad’s penis?
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
When FI and I were first starting out dating I regretted not having more experience, but at this point (post living together and engagement), I really don’t care or think about it at all. I didn’t actively try to minimize partners, it just never really happened when I was younger.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I’ve only had an intimate relationship with two men, and I would never change that. I didn’t “explore” with anyone else. The first guy I made out with was my first for everything but a kiss. My husband is my second. I was super, super young the first time, but I still have no regrets. We were together for four years (high school sweethearts), and a week after breaking up, I met my husband (now it’s 7 years later). It was a mindful decision to “keep the numbers low,” but that’s because I value that type of relationship. You can still “experiment” in a committed relationship. It doesn’t have to be boring.
ETA: My husband’s had 8 partners, so this idea was not mutual. haha, but he’s fully committed now. When we had “the talk,” he said he didn’t think girls like me still existed.
Post # 9
My first was sadly a “friend” taking advantage, us both having had too much to drink. That made me a bit afraid of men until I met my FI who was an absolute gentleman. The way he treated me early in our relationship had a lot to do with me falling in love.
Although I didn’t intend to wait for the one, I’m actually glad he’s the only man I’ve been emotionally and physically vested in. I’ve absolutely no desire to get more sexual experience outside of our relationship. Learning about each other together has been a great experience.
Post # 10
@bostongirl27: when i was little when he got changed in his room without the door shut
Post # 11
I’ll never have regrets. Ever
My number is 2. I guess I fall in the first category in that I sort of meant for it to be that way. It’s just my personality. I want a husband and a family. I have no desire for wild & crazy nights. I was the girl locked in her room studying textbooks on Friday night.
It must be much harder to have a very adventurous personality and have happened to meet Mr. Right at a young age. That would be harder to reconcile, but I’m sure people have done it successfully.
Post # 12
Nope! I said no to many opportunities, I didn’t want to sleep with just anyone. My friends were sleeping around, self acting, neurotic over their feelings for these guys and I didn’t want that.
I slept with my SO and never regretted waiting. Our sex life s interesting and exciting and varied so I don’t feel the need to open it up beyondtrust the two of us.
keep it hot!!!
Post # 13
I have only had two partners. One ex and my current SO. No I never wish I had more partners. I am happy with the one I have now.
Post # 15
“Or…were you someone who wanted more sexual partners, but because of opportunity, never had the chance (you met your future husband/wife when you were quite young”
There was a time I was curious about more sexual partners (hey college!) but haven’t felt that way in years. Husband and I actually discussed the idea of open marriages before our wedding. We are both so happy with monogamy right now that I can’t imagine this ever being the case, but I did tell him that if either one of us ever felt sexually unsatisfied in our marrige, I would rather we discuss open marriages as a possibility before a separation (obviously, your relationship would have to be in a good place for this to work, though.) Like I said, I can’t imagine this ever actually happening, but we did mention it.
Post # 16
Nope – no regrets. I’ve only been with DH and don’t feel like I missed out on anything.
I didn’t want to have sex unless I was in a committed relationship with someone I loved, trusted, and was comfortable with and it just worked out that DH was the first person who created that situation.
I had plenty of drunken make-out sessions with a variety of people and could have had a lot more sex if I’d wanted to. But that’s just not my personality or the type of relationship I wanted to have. More power to those with higher numbers but that just isn’t me.
ETA: I was 20 when I met DH.