Post # 1
My wedding has been endangered twice now. Is it wrong to not even care about the things ive planned and spent money on and just say, “forget it lets do this thing in the backyard right now!?” Im so frustrated and unhappy with how life is unfolding around my wedding causing me to scrimp on almost every aspect. Its not even turning out to be what it started as.
Post # 3
I think the important thing is to create a wedding that has meaning for you and your FI . . . with as little stress as possible. And if that means the two of you in the backyard or the courthouse or eloping, then go for it. If it means tweaking the decisions you’ve already made to shape the wedding into something you like better, then that’s okay, too.
Post # 4
The fact that you started planning a wedding in the first place probably means you’re someone who actually wants a wedding and not an elopement kind of girl. My worry would be that initially you’d feel better and less stressed, but down the road regret not having one. Just stick to a simple, streamlined vision, forget what everyone wants to whine about, and focus on having a great day.
Post # 5
You have plenty of time to change everything. If it seems like your wedding has suddenly become too much of a budget issue, slash the guest list. Make it smaller. Spend less on decorations and save your money for the things that will matter most like the rings, the dress, and the tux/suit. The rest is all just fluff. All you really need is your FI, an officiant and a couple of witnesses. Don’t get stressed about the rest of it, it’s not necessary.
Remember, a bigger/more expensive wedding doesn’t make a better marriage. 😉
Post # 6
we just got $1,000 pulled from the budget because his kid crashed my car and I have to pay the deductible, the central ac went out in the house, AND the kid decided she wasnt coming to ceremony because she has other more important things to do- so I am out her 400$ airfare. Im so tired of it all at this point.
Post # 7
Best advice someone gave to me was to pick 2 things that were most important to me about the wedding, and have my fiance pick the 2 things most important to him. Those 4 things, you make sure are a part of your day…..everything else is open to compromise. The people at your wedding will remember if you and your fiance are happy, the rest is just icing on the proverbial cake.
I understand how you are feeling though, there was a moment about 6 months before the wedding that I was ready to elope as well. Now, I’m glad we didn’t. Parts of wedding planning are not fun, but will be worth it. Hang in there!
Post # 8
Thanks ladies. Honestly, I never was a wedding kind of girl until I was asked the big question and even then I had to be talked into it so I wouldnt totally be opposed to eloping. Who knows whatll happen, lol.
Post # 9
Looks like were cutting the guest list and im streamlining what I had in mind for decor. Simple is the key word for this wedding now. The things we didnt want to compromise on were; the venue (which we already had to change once btw) photography, food, and the music. Everything else is just fluff right?
Post # 10
Sounds like a plan! A very good plan! 🙂