(Closed) Forgoing christmas present…

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Bookaholic:   Have the two of you discussed marriage?  How long have you been together?  I need more details to be able to answer, lol.

But, generally speaking, without having had a conversation with him and knowing for certain he is on the same page with you about marriage, I would say let him get whatever gift he wants to get for you for Christmas and don’t mention anything about an engagement ring.

If you two have  discussed getting engaged soon, maybe he would appreciate the suggestion to saving money towards an e-ring, though.  It’s hard to say.

 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am married and honestly if your SO wants to get you a gift please let him.  I say this because I had a sorta of same conversation with my DH.  Believe me he was hurt when I said no gifts for me. I really rather not have anything this year.

His feelings would be probably hurt if you say something to him.  Just let it be.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Bookaholic:  How do you know that he wants to buy you a ring?

I agree with @Sunfire:  

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Bookaholic:  He’s had 7.5 years and still hasnt’ had enough time to save up for a ring?!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

We have a £20 limit because my sweet SO is paying for my e-ring and I’m paying for our holiday.

So yeah I’d suggust having small gifts and putting the money towards a ring.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My SO bought the ring and told me flat out that this may mean me forgoing a present because of tight finances…which I am totally ok with.

But he just got a sweet bonus, so I can’t see him skimping on getting me something

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’d say just talk to him. It sounds weird, but my husband and I haven’t actually bought official Christmas gifts for each other since 2010. In 2011, we were 2 weeks post-wedding and decided to spend what little money we had left after the wedding on our families. This year, we’re forgoing gifts to each other and putting the money we would have spent on each other towards the trip to Europe we’re planning in April. If you’re both okay with the idea, go for it!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Bookaholic:  Hey fellow canadian Bee lol Iam so in the same boat as you lol….i tell my SO i dont wany anything for christmas too but however i know i wont be getting a ring anyway for christmas haha…it wont be until Spring/Summer but good luck =)

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Well my SO told me he’s getting me something else for Christmas and I don’t think it’s a ring. I know the proposal is coming soon. So I don’t know if that’s to throw me off or what, but I wouldn’t mind getting a present AND a sparkly as long as the present isn’t super expensive. I’d say let him get you a small gift, even if it’s just a box of chocolates or a gift card. Then he can still save a little money for the ring as well.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I really tried to convince him to not get me a Christmas present too. He told me no way.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Bookaholic:  I see, I’d suggest talking to him, and try not to offend him like what 

@Sassygrn:  said!

It seems every year FI and I have had something going on so we always discuss what we’ll do for xmas.  This year we’re saving for the wedding, last year we were just moving in to our house and decided to go in on a piece of furniture we both wanted.  It’s not very exciting but meh 🙂

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