(Closed) Forgot the RSVP Date on my Invites! Opinion please x

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What should I do?
    Label the back of the Response Card Envelope? : (15 votes)
    54 %
    Hand write the RSVP date on the Response Card? There is room to write it on the card. : (9 votes)
    32 %
    Leave the RSVP date off all together and hope people don't think it was an error? : (4 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    6127 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    If you requested that the date be on the RSVP and provided them with that date, they need to fix the mistake.

    Post # 4
    8533 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @kate_thorpe:  can you print a pretty label with the RSVP date and attach it to the card.

    Post # 5
    7199 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Since you included it originally I would see if they can do anything to help you out. If not PP had a good suggestion of adding some kind of clear label or sticker.

    Post # 6
    360 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think it’s worth checking with the company just in case, but generally once you’ve signed off on the final proof, that’s what you’re getting and the company is no longer liable. 

    Do you or anyone you know have really pretty handwriting? Like beautiful cursive or calligraphy-type script? I think it would still look great if someone wrote THe favor of a reply is requested before XXXX (or whatever wording you previously chose). 

    I feel like using a sticker would be more obvious, but if your guest list is really long I don’t think it’s the end of the world to use a sticker, and it would save your hand from writing on every card.  And honestly….most guests will immediately forget even if they should notice, because the RSVP card isn’t something people keep obviously!!

    Leaving it off alltogether would cause you headaches!!! As it is, many people fail to send their responses anyway, so without the date on there I’d be irritated to have to call over a hundred people. If your list is really small, you could forget it and just go ahead and call. 

    Post # 7
    3285 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Oh my! I think PPs have had lots of good ideas. I just want to say that I’m impressed you’ve made it this close to your wedding with smooth sailing! I have been having bridezilla moments all over the place recently, lol.

    And, really, no one is ever going to remember, even if they notice it the moment of!

    Post # 9
    360 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Probably a felt tip pen with a chisel calligraphy tip. (I don’t think that’s the correct lingo though).  I’d invest in a good one. Most stores will let you try their pens, so I’d take an extra one and test out your top picks!


    Post # 10
    3264 posts
    Sugar bee

    I wouldn’t even bother.  I think writing something on will look like an after thought, no matter how nice the pen and writing.

    I would just leave it off, and then follow up with guests that don’t respond when it’s a week or two before your catering deadline.

    Post # 11
    2534 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Can you slip an extra little note in there?

    “Please respond by…”

    Just an extra bit of paper which won’t be returned by the guest with the RSVP. Maybe your printer could print a few big sheets up for you (for free? for a low cost?) and you could just cut them up yourself and include them with your invites.
    I’m talking like a 2″x4″ tiny note.

    Post # 12
    1132 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @CakeyP:  That’s what I was going to suggest. It can be pretty and printed without having to mess with the response cards.

    Post # 13
    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @CakeyP:  I think this is a good idea. The printer should do it for free or for a low cost. If not, I would write that into your review.


    I think writing on it might be tough (you don’t want them to smudge before your guests receive them). However, there is a perfect spot for it (Below “Response Card”) if you chose to print a small clear label (Avery has “clear” ones now, they are actually a little frosty).


    @andielovesj:  This is another good idea (what I would probably do). Have Mom, Grandma, Maid/Matron of Honor, and friends spread the word about the deadline, and then just start calling the non-RSVPers a week before you need the numbers.

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