- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Long story short: our wedding is an excuse for my FILs to party, and it is very annoying. FMIL really thinks the wedding should be about her, and while she did contribute to the wedding fund “as a gift with no strings attached”, she seems to think she paid for the entire thing (she is paying for maybe 1/4, which I do sincerely appreciate, but I alone am picking up the rest, and though we have cut major corners, it is still extremely expensive).
FILs decided to throw a bridal shower, that morphed into a couples shower, that orginally MOH was supposed to be involved in, but they planned it without her after offering their “help” and just didn’t tell her (obviously she has some hurt feelings there). It is not a surprise, and while FI and I are grateful for the thought, it has become very obvious that his side of the family wants everything wedding related to be about them. Because we could not have the small wedding that I wanted, I was really looking forward to spending time with my nearest and dearest leading up to the wedding. Regardless, I do appreciate the time and money spent planning a shower.
However, the shower is only a few days away, and… it appears they did not invite us. Now, it is very obvious to the wedding party, my side of the family, FI and myself that this is more of an excuse to throw a party than an actual wedding-related shower, but seriously? They bothered us incessantly about a guest list (we only invited BMs and GMs) and asked if the date would work, and then sent invitations to everyone except for us, and have not told us the time or location even. Now, we know, since our wedding party told us, but we are still pretty hurt by the fact that they obviously have completely forgotten about us. We provided them with registry info and they didn’t include it on their invites, and didn’t tell anyone, and tbh, we are kind of hurting financially and were hopeful that our honeymoon registry would see some love (maybe not PC, but it’s the truth).
We are very polite people, I just need to rant. His side of the family is very passive aggressive, and I can’t help but feel slighted just a little. I mean, they very clearly forgot us for the “wedding shower” that is this Friday night (Fri night for a bridal shower?) and it is supposedly “in honor of us”. Ah!