Post # 1
We had a heli-wedding elopement last fall. Our immediate family knew a few days prior and our relatives/friends found out shortly after. The idea was to get married sooner so we can move in together and start saving/planning for the formal event in the summer. I am the only daughter and he has 3 kids from his previous marriage, so it is important for us to have the formal ceremony and reception to celebrate our union. The kids (as well as our immediate family) live in a different province so we have to time the event for when they’re on summer break, hence the 11-month gap between the elopement and the formal ceremony/reception.
Here is where I need your advice:
The same pastor who married us last fall will also be the one officiating our ceremony this summer as we’d like to go through the vows again in a Christian ceremony. In addition, we’d like to have our immediate family read some scriptures and then have the unity sand ceremony with the kids (to symbolize the blending of families). Since it’ll be 11 months out from our elopement, can we call it renewal of vows? Or how else should we call it?
Are there any big no-no’s when it comes to bridal gown? I have a custom-designed off-white gown with a meter-long train and a long, silhouette veil. My mom and my designer think I should be able to pull this off, as this is technically my 1st marriage anyway. I’m thinking of using the veil, but just leaving my face uncovered. Any thoughts?
Finally, any suggestions on how to word the formal invitation? Here is what I initially put together:
Jane Doe and Tarzan Smith eloped to the mountains last fall. This summer, the honour of your presence is requested as they celebrate their union all over again with family and friends on Monday, the twenty-seventh day of August two thousand and twelve at half after three in the afternoon at the Silvertip Resort, Canmore, AB.
Now that I think about it, I actually had our elopement photos featured in our save the date cards. And we did not send any formal wedding announcements. Was that wrong?
Would really appreciate your thoughts/insights.
Post # 3
@Buboys_Gurl: Honour of your presence is meant to be used only for weddings taking place in a house of worship. It looks likes yours is not. So you may want to re-word it.
Jane Doe and Tarzan Smith
Invite you to join us
In celebrating and a blessing of their recent marriage
Which took place March 25, 2012 in Cool Place, Canada.
Monday the twenty-seventh of August,Tho thousand and tweleve at half past three in the afternoon
at Silvertip Resort, Canmore.
Something like this?
I would probably skip the veil, and wear a cool hair piece since you are already married. You will also have to speak to your pastor as most won’t perform the same ceremony that you already had, since it is a legal ceremony. But he will perform a blessing in your faith if you wish. But I doubt there will be a ‘do you take this man?” or a “I now pronounce you husband and wife”
Post # 4
@Buboys_Gurl: OK, I would LOOOVE to see your photos of your heli wedding. I would love to get married in the Canadian Rockies (we’re in Utah). I had a Jackson Hole wedding planned which is going to be canclled soon, and I really want to go big. After having a Teton wedding in the works for so long, the elopement has to be equally stunning if not better! I looked into the heli weddings as well!
I am a firm believer that you just get one wedding day. I would not redo the wedding or even have a ceremony. Are there even any officiants that would redo a wedding when they know the couple is already married? I would however, consider a vow renewal of some sort (do you actually want to say stuff?), or maybe a blessing of the marriage. A celebration party after the fact is also a nice idea to get your dream heli wedding, but then a party to celebrate with friends and family.
I planned on just having a party and not any vow elements, etc.
I would not rewear my wedding dress. Maybe try it on to show some people but do not wear it during the party. So no veil either. The key is to not reenact a reception, but a party for celebrating is ok.
I would word the invitation: “Jon us for a celebration party honoring the marriage of Mr. and Mrs. yadda yadda.
Post # 5
@sienna76: Oh the joy of eloping! It was really fun. And I’d do it again in a heartbeat. We had amazing, amazing photos (I am attaching a few) and we had a cute video as well (I am attaching a link)
I come from a background where it is okay to have a civil wedding and then a church wedding afterwards. But now that I’m in Canada, I’m stumped when I started reading about these etiquette issues. I’m so confused that I had to ask our invitations company to halt the process until my husband and I can think it through.
Thanks for your insights!
Here’s our wedding video:
Post # 6
I love it! What a cute video! I had some images saved from Rick Kunelius’ website (another heli-officiant).
If you didn’t have this second ceremony/reception in the works, would you be totally OK with everything you did and the way you did it so far?
FI and I would do this without knowing yet if we’ll have a reception later. So we want to make it as special and grand as possible.
Post # 7
@sienna76: Just because it’s quick and dirty doesn’t mean it can’t be special! 🙂 We wanted it to be cool and romantic… and we’re lucky to be nieghbors with the rockies.
We loved every minute of it! We got to the helipad and there were tourists trying to take our photos paparazzi-style. Afterwards, we walked around the town of Banff (me in my wedding dress and my husband in his suit), looking for a liquor store hehe. It was so much fun with people cheering, taking our photos and stopping to ask us about our wedding. And then we went to Rimrock Hotel and asked for a suite. Ahhh it was fabulous. We even had a little fondant wedding cake with a helicopter!
It was so special beyond words that a grand ceremony will have a hard time topping! I’m sure you will love yours as well.
Here’s my advice:
Make sure you have a plan B. The weather can change drastically. Our trip was cancelled 2 hours prior due to strong winds. We had to frantically phone a different heli tour and landed in the foothills instead of the mountains.
Get the best photographer you can afford. I’d like to recommend Bonner Photographer. You’ll fall in love with his photos, guaranteed.
Ooohhh lemme know how things go. I am super excited for you!
Post # 8
That sounds perfect and so stress free! Today, I am undoing the wedding I already have planned which is in 4 months (July 14). My dad was given 3-5 month to live (well, given 4-6 back in January). The sheer potential of the horrible timing is enough to make us cancel. It was planned for the Tetons/Jackson Hole, Wyoming, so everyone would have to fly in. It’d be too much for my family. FI is a big alpine mountaineer and we just love mountains. So our private wedding/honeymoon has to be BIG and just how we want it. We’d love to get married this year, but of course with so many uncertain things, it’s not like we can plan the private wedding at the moment.
I so want to do Ruedi Beglinger ‘s Selkirks hut too for hiking or skiing, depending on which season we go.
Sorry to hijack your thread. Back to your question – if it is fairly typical/common for your culture or family to have these two wedding ceremonies, then I was ask an elder or a relative that did the same thing and see what their advice is on invitation wording.
Post # 9
This is exactly what I’m planning! A heli-wedding for just the two of us & a party/vow renewal when the military makes it easier for us! Ours will also be in the Rockies…but in Colorado. Does anybody have any info on Colorado mountain heli companies?? Thanks!!!
Post # 10
Just wanted to say “Honour of your presence” isn’t meant for any specific place. It’s a way of saying we will be honored to have you there. There’s no requirement of where “there” is. Honored is honored.