(Closed) Formal Flatware – Sterling vs. Stainless? (And a short intro! :D)

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well, first let me say those patterns are stunning.  When you eat with sterling, it is an awesome dining experience- very few restaurants today can afford to use it, and actually few households will use it even for special occasions.  I own a set of Fairfax that I bought in the last few years and I use it very rarely- but I love having it, and I love bringing it out at my discretion.  For everything else (of a special nature) I use my high quality Dansk.  Now, with all that said, I think you actually should register for sterling.  You can ask for a setting every year for an anniversary or “other” gift and build your table gradually before you have a big family to sit for Thanksgiving.  It is truly awesome to have.  But… also register for the other stuff you will use everyday.  That is the stuff you’re more likely to actually get- someone though WILL get you something from your sterling registry… and it will make you feel as though you have a little stake in the future of your home.  A little piece of magic.  Fairfax…

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I inherited a set, so I didn’t register for it.

Right now, sterling is SUPER expensive. It will be cheaper in the future. But, in your case, with the size of your wedding, I actually wouldn’t be shocked if you did get close to a complete set.

It is a VERY traditional item, so adding it to your registry won’t look bad at all. I think thta if you go for something pretty expensive, it should either be something traditional for a registry (silver, china) OR something the couple will clearly use (based on the couple, for some a high end espresso machine makes sense, great knives for some, fabulous pots and pans for others, etc.)

Its really only when people put things on there that look ridiculous and are out of character that I think it looks greedy or weird. Which means I guess I’m saying that if you have a $300 taco shell making machine on your registry, you better be know for loving yourself some tacos. Tongue out

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

This is my stainless Dansk- Torun.  An old pattern.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I love your pattern choices!  I decided to collect sterling spoons for my goddaughter because they are such a neat thing to enjoy!  (My great-grandmother bought my aunts sterling for their childhood birthdays to enjoy for life…  I think that was such a neat idea!)  I have been told that sterling will continue to increase in value.  Silverplated items will not maintain their value however, because the silver wears out and the cost of restoring the silver is more than the value of the silverplated item. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My every day set is Oneida Bordeaux.  I got it last year on sale.

 

My Grandmother is southern, and according to her it is very important for a southern belle to have a set of silver.  For the past 4 years I get a set of silver from my grandma for my birthday and christmas.  Chantilly is my patern

Post # 9
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Worker bee

I had to comment, because that is my mother’s pattern!  My dad picked it out.  I have hand washed that stuff plenty!

I actually did register for sterling, but didn’t receive any.  I also had a really high quality stainless flatware pattern, and received six place settings of that.  I can’t imagine why anyone would be happy receiving one set, because what can you do with one? 

Just think about whether you would care to complete the set down the road, or if that expense would be prohibitive.  

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Ah this is something I’m struggling with too! I’m kinda stuck on what to register for, I inherited my parent’s china- 8 place settings, it’s pretty but very flowery, (can’t decide whether to complete it, register for my own that I like better, register for a coordinating pattern, or both)  I also inherited two different sets of not complete sterling or sterling plated.. I’m not really sure flatware that I don’t particularly care for, I can’t decide if I want to try and figure out what they are and to complete one set through replacements.com, or register for a whole new set that I really like.

I would like to be able to get the registry completion discount on it though- if we bought it ourselves so I probably will try to put it on the registry if FI doesn’t get sticker shock.

 

Also, the Michelangelo.. my grandmother and my aunt both have it, and love it- I’ve been eating with that pattern ever since I can remember! It’s very pretty and works for formal and casual no problem!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Just saw this post referenced in another thread and wanted to join in even though it loks like the matter’s been settled 🙂 I think there is nothing wrong with registering for sterling and hope you don’t feel at all bad about it! People will buy you what they want to, whether on the registry or off of it, and they shouldn’t be offended by you indicating what patterns you have selected — ther’re under no obligation to purchase your china or flatware. If they’d rather buy a $30 vase (or perhaps a $300 taco machine?!?!? LOL), they certainly can!

Good sterling lasts for generations and is well-designed so it looks nice now and a hundred years from now. I’m lucky to be inheriting my grandmother and mother’s set of Wallace Grande Baroque. The pattern has been produced for more than 60 years now!

Another thing about silver is that most of the patterns have lots of other options (ie, serving pieces, accents, etc) that come as individual items rather than a place setting and therefore are much more affordable, close to $50-100. I’m registering for some of these items so I can add to the set and really continue to make it a multi-generational heirloom for my kids some day. Place settings also can be good “chip in” gifts for groups who would rather combine smaller amounts of money to make a more significant gift — unlike an expensive pan or something that has a limited lifespan, sterling is really a commemorative gift that will forever be a memory of your wedding and the people who wanted to honor the occasion!

 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh, and I forgot, if you’re interested in seeing what all the options for your pattern are — which bloomie’s or wherever might not have all of, check out Relpacements, Ltd. at http://www.replacements.com . They have EVERYTHING, even stuff that’s no longer made anymore. You can buy estate pieces and sets, and they’re happy to set up a registry for you as well if you’d like to include them as an online shopping option for guests.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Omg Madras that is my pattern too!  Last year my great aunt gifted me for Christmas 20 place settings of the pattern and all the serving pieces.  I love this pattern!  So intricate and so timeless.

My grandmother also talked me into getting some Lenox china as her pattern (Eternity) is/was quite classic and many of their patterns are around for decades.  Her pattern mixes with my Lenox pattern and my sisters’ too. 

Pretty much the only things I want to register for are crystal (we have mismatched patterns and I’ve had a few break over the last few moves ive had), towels, bedsheets, and a cappucino/coffee/expresso machine thingey.  My sister jokes that she wants to buy me the crystal and a Jimmy Buffet margaritaville maker b/c I love a good cocktail in the summertime! 

That was the greatest gift I could imagine!  But it was a late-ish gift as she originally purchased some of it when I married my ex husband, but had a second thought of giving it to me, as she didn’t like him, and held onto it, worried I might have to give part of it up.  Well she was right and kept on buying place settings and when I got close to being engaged last year, she sent it all to me.  The fed ex guy almost broke his back bringing the boxes to my house.

I believe in sterling 100 percent.  You will use it for your dinners and for holidays and it lasts.  Sure you might have to polish it now and then, but it is something which will last and you can hand down to your children.

I’d rather have one fork or one serving piece of sterling than a cheesy gift.  I love things which last.  You can look back on this at your 50th anniversary and still remember your wedding you know? 

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