- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
I’m looking for a little advice when it comes to photos.
Initially, I was 100% for doing First Look/Reveal/Pre-formal pictures (before the Ceremony), for a few reasons:
1) I thought it’d help ease my nerves to see FI before the ceremony
2) We really liked the idea of getting to enjoy cocktail hour with our guests.
There were also a few cons:
1) We wouldn’t have very many getting ready photos – maybe just a few at the tail end of getting ready, because we’d have to be done with getting ready an hour and a half earlier for the First Look photos.
2) We wouldn’t be seeing each other for the first time at the actual ceremony (which is also sort of a pro, for nerves, I guess).
Once I got into the logistics of it, I started to think it wasn’t really very practical for us to do our Formals before the Ceremony. mostly because of my family dynamics.
My Parents are divorced for a long time and it was on bad terms so they haven’t spoken in over 15 years. I don’t have a real relationship with my father – I’ve maybe seen him three times in the past 5 or 6 years. I invited him and his family to the wedding mostly to be nice, but he is attending as a guest, not father of the Bride. However, I think it’d still be nice to have some photos with him and his parents (my only living grandparents), but I don’t necessarily want my dad and his family there getting to see me before the Ceremony, too.
I’m really at a loss as to how to handle all of this. Ideally, I’d like to keep him and my mother separated. I also don’t want to give him any special priviledges, but I’d like a picture or two with all of his family, as I’m closer to them than I am with him.
I’m looking for any/all advice. For reference, here is the timeline (our Ceremony and Reception are in two different rooms at the same venue).
2:30 pm: Ceremony Begins
3:00 pm: Cocktail Hour Begins
4:00 pm: Reception Begins