(Closed) Formally Asking Someone to be a Bridesmaid

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

I made cake-in-a-jar "asks" for each girl — and then flower pot Rice Krispie treats for friends when we decided to grow the group almost a year later!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

Oh, and welcome to the ‘Bee!  It’s quite addicting — you’ve been warned! 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

Hi there!  I found a designer on Etsy who makes cutom "Will you be my bm" cards.  I sent them out last week and they were a big hit!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman

There are so many options!  If you search the blog you will see lots of ways that Bees have done this, and I’m sure the boards have even more great ideas!  I loved sifting through searches on Weddingbee when I was planning the wedding, it’s the quickest way to get lots of inspiration!

Post # 7
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Worker bee

I found cute keepsake necklaces on http://www.modernluxuri.com in their bridal collection that is bridesmaid-specific. Could always buy those and ask when presenting them!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

My bridesmaids are my sisters, so they already knew they were going to be my bridesmaids, so they were surprised and happy when I asked them formally. I wrote them each a sentimental letter on a note card, including why they would be a great bridesmaid, and got them each some chocolates from target. They loved it and it was only about $6 for both of them.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

i hand wrote personal cards and gave to each girl individualy. for some reason it seemed acward for me anyways, bit was a little more thoughful i think ๐Ÿ˜‰

welcome new-bee! 

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2009

Edible greeting cards are a cool idea, the bridesmaid one reads:

It is hard for me to believe that in just a little while *NAME* and I will be walking down the aisle. And nothing would give me more joy and pride than to have you right there by my side. Will you be my Bridesmaid?

They are $9.95 each and available by special order.

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Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Mine was pretty inexpensive (ok, cheap) but they all liked it.  I didn’t know what i wanted to do so i found these color boared cards (4×6) and i water-colored a picture of us in the background of the cards (each picutre was a special occasion her and i had shared)  then i wrote something personal and special on it like how it wouldn’t be the same if she weren’t a part of my day.   I also included a honeydew scented Yankee Candle with it—Honeydew is my wedding color.  On the back of the candle i put a clear label on it that said Save the date 7-10-10….

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I called and asked my MOH on the phone for a couple of reasons. She is a newly wed herself, in grad school, etc (aka extremely busy) and I wanted to ask her if she thought it would be a burden on her to be my MOH. She gleefully said she would be honored, and that was that. I since mailed her a card thanking her for accepting and doing the honor of being my MOH. I also mailed my 2 BM’s cards with heartfelt sentiment, writing a note about our friendship and how our big day just wouldn’t be the same without them, etc. All three of them said they teared up when they read the cards (and my MOH said she’d been having a crummy day and the unexpected heartfelt card really brightened her day), and excitedly called back and said yes! ๐Ÿ™‚ I thought a card was a neat way to go just because most people don’t exactly LOVE going to the mailbox because now-a-days it seems like most mail is either junk or bills. It’s definitely nice to get a REAL piece of mail, hand addressed and written with love. They all said it was a nice surprise! ๐Ÿ™‚ Just my 2 cents.

-Bella

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I don’t think gifts are necessary, but of course, it’s always really nice.  A card or a note is probably just as appreciated. 

It might depend on how much you’ll expect from them and how personal you want to make it.  My “ask” wasn’t exactly inexpensive, but it was an important thing for me to do.  We had a destination wedding, so I knew that it was going to be a big committment (time-wise and financially) for each girl and I wanted to talk to them about it one-on-one, so I took each one of them out to lunch individually and asked her.  I gave them all the details in a folder (including estimated pricing, etc.) and told them I wanted them to think about it for a week before answering.  I wanted to make sure they knew how much they meant to me and that I didn’t mind at all if they said no or couldn’t make it and it wouldn’t affect friendship AT ALL.  I also gave them a hand-written note and a nice Kate Spade luggage tag when I asked.  Of course each of them said yes right away and refused to “think about it” any longer than about a second!  They’re the best.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I ordered BM/MOH/FG cards from http://www.weddingstand.com/be-my-bridesmaid-card-sets.htm?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=will+you+be+my+bridesmaid+cards

and found cute corresponding “Will you be my BM/MOH/FG?” poems that I wrote inside.  I mailed these to each of the girls, along with a personalized cookie from

http://store.weddingish.com/nebrpacococo.html

I shipped them all so they would arrive the same day to everyone (I live in FL…they all live in OH, PA and IL).  It was great to get their acceptance phone calls…they were all so excited and loved the matching cookies and cards!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i made a card fro each girl and wrote a poem for each one.

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