Post # 1
gotta question…so there are a few more people here at work that I want to invite to my wedding which is 2 months away – ALL my invitations – even to my co-workers, whom I’ve already invited, were sent to everyone’s homes. There are about 4 people here who I did NOT send invites to, but want to invite them.
I’ve asked a few people here at work who I HAVE invited and they all agree that just laying down a formal invitation put together like I’d sent out in the mail – just laying it on their desk should be sufficiant enough…
I will be doing this – but part of me is afraid they might be a little offended thinking their invites are an “afterthought” since everyone else had theirs sent to their house – but I don’t want to ask them for their addresses now either, but NOT inviting these few people would be rude.
Also – one of the couples I want to invite is a woman who’s husband (also works here) is a “Dr.” how exactly do I address that invitation? She is not a Dr but he is.
Is it: “Dr. and Mrs. HisName TheirLastName”? or is it: “Dr. and Mrs. HisName and HerName TheirLastName”?
Post # 3
Why didn’t you invite them with the first round of invitations? I think you’re instinct that they may be offended by a late invite is right. Do you really have to invite them? If you do, I would go talk to each of them and say something like “hey, I wanted to invite you, but I didn’t have your address” or something, which might cover up the fact that you didn’t invite them at first.
For the Dr. and Mrs. one, my preference would be Dr. Hisfirst theirlast and Mrs. Herfirst theirlast, because I think its important to use the woman’s name unless you specifically know she prefers not to use it. If you are unsure, you run a much greater risk of offending a women by NOT using her name than you do by using it.
Post # 4
Is there any way to find out their addresses? Maybe through your HR dept or something?
Other then that, I think that it’s perfectly fine to hand them out at work. It’s still a couple of months before your wedding, so it probably won’t seem last minute, and they might not even know/notice that other co-workers got their invite sent to their house and not handed out at work.
Post # 5
honestly – i had SO many people to think of inviting these just slipped through the cracks.
Post # 6
i dont see anything wrong with it. i just handed two girls from my work their invitations after the fact because i had some extra.
Post # 7
Usually each county has a property appraisers website. You can google “MYCOUNTY Property Appraisers Office” and you should get a link. If they own a house then they are in there. All you need is a last name.
Post # 8
I think handing them out would be fine. They will be thrilled to be invited!
I was invited this way to a wedding once: the couple had some extra seats they hadn’t counted on, and invited some people from church. I did not mind being an “afterthought,” I was just happy to be included!
Post # 9
I think if they are close enough to you that you would like for them to be at your wedding they won’t be offended to have an invitation handed to them – especially since you didn’t have their addresses.
They might realize that they weren’t invited in the first round but I think they would probably not be so put off that they wouldn’t attend. Although I think handing them to them with the explaination of “no address” would be better than just leaving them on their desks.