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    rabbit    September 3, 2010   Milwaukee, WI

    I'm worried they might be too casual. They're $15, Navy blue, t-shirt dresses from H&M that will hit my girls an inch or three above the knee. My BM and I found them yesterday while getting make-up for my 1st make-up trial and she talked me into them. I wasn't convinced right away, then she put on heels, the pearl jewelery I gave her for Christmas (a necklas which hits a bit below the bust, earrings, a bracelet), and put her hair up a bit and put make-up on. It looked way better then expected! The only problam? I'm worried that they'll look too casual on their own. Will this dress look funny next to the gray suits my FI wants the guys to wear? Will the guys look overdressed or the girls under dressed? Ugh. I want a semi-formal wedding but it seems to be quickly falling into a super casual wedding! Or not?

     

    Here are some pictures of the kind of style of the BM dresses, but not the actual dress (because H&M sucks by not having an actual website!)(Also, none of the women in these pictures are my BM. I forgot my camera. Big Bride FAIL!):

     

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    rachel_leigh    May 15, 2010  

    Sorry, but the dress looks super casual to me.  I am not sure that accessories and makeup can bring the dresses up to the dressiness level of suits.  Sorry!

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    Hmmm... I personally think it might be kinda informal.  Not just because of the style, but the material.  I'd probably try to go for something short but still a bit more dressy.  Its super cute though.  And this is your wedding so if you like it, don't worry about it!  With the men wearing suits as opposed to tux's, I think you can get away with a lot more.  Did you buy them already?  If you end up deciding its not gonna work and you already purchased them, you can always give them the dress as part of their gifts. 

     
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    rabbit    September 3, 2010   Milwaukee, WI

    ALSO: I just wanted to add that 2 of my BMs are shaped much like the girl in the silver tree dress and the other girl is compact curvy- a small size but rockin some awesome curves. Like a slightly downsized version of the girl in the yellow belt but with much small boobs.

     
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    bridegrl    October 9, 2010   Monterey County, California

    Found My BM Dresses But... :  wedding bridesmaid dresses t shirt dress casual bridesmaid dresses cheap dress inexpensive dress Bridesmaid Dressthat dress doesn't say semi-formal. Do you have a David's Bridal nearby? I'm getting my BM dresses there. ($99) and they are a little more dressy. My color is Navy Blue too. good luck!

     

     

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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    They look super casual to me!

    I think your guests will look overdressed compared to your BMs and I don't think your BMs will match the groomsmen.

     
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    Christina.elyse    July 17, 2010   Atlanta

    I agree, they're a bit casual because the top resembles a t-shirt. I think with a suit, the dresses need to be more formal, but you can definitely make the dresses knee-length to make it more semi-formal. Modcloth.com has some cute knee-length party dresses in navy blue.

     

     
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    charismaclassic    May 29, 2010   Greeneville, TN

    I agree with the others - it's just too casual.  I actually wouldn't feel like I could wear that dress to work, let alone in a wedding.

    I do love the tree dress.  Just not for a wedding.

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    Sorry, I also think they are too casual, but if that is the look that you are going for, then they would look great.

     
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    mashka_f1    October 9, 2010   Oklahoma

    Tooo casual, i am on the same page as the girls....

     
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    miss.skinner    7/10/2010   Bethesda, MD

    I have to agree with the other ladies.  I absolutly LOVE jersey dresses but I just think this style is hard to "dress-up" to look formal. I think the dress is very cute but me personally, I would wear this dress with flip flops and a straw bag to go shopping on the boardwalk.  Not necessarily to attend a wedding in.  Alfred Angelo sells some great jersey dresses as does many other stores.  If you want the flowy look I would go for a beautiful maxi dress.  Like this:

    http://www.alfredangelo.com/Collections/ProductDisplay.aspx?productID=6c6698da-d583-44ad-a8a3-e28085eee6f2&categoryID=772f03c9-de43-4942-bfa0-da77e21ebd65&pg=1&colorId1=

    http://www.gypsy05.com/shop/p_735_Women-Maxi-Dresses-Paloma-Silk-Maxi-Dress.aspx

     

     
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    DemoDreamer    May 2011   Ohio

    I must agree; not my favorite. But I'd like to see them on your actual bridesmaid. None of the pictures are selling it for me. They are too form fitting for that size. I think if they were bigger they would look better.

     
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    Chachacha    June 2010   Minneapolis, MN

    Yeah, a bit too casual for a semi-formal wedding. I think the BMs will be underdressed compared to the GMs and the other guests.

     
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    iswimibikeirun    May 15, 2010   Houston

    A little too casual . . . unless you're doing a casual bbq.  Check out some of the party dresses at Target.  They're cute and inexpensive.

     
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    hotchildinthecity    June 12, 2010   New York, NY

    Agree with PP.  Too casual if you're going for a semi-formal wedding.

    Agree with bridegrl that David's has a huge selection in blue.  And they have jersey dresses if that's the look you're going for.

     
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    DemoDreamer    May 2011   Ohio

    Honestly; I think if your trying to keep it cheaper (you said they were $15) You could Definatly find dresses @ kohls or target any department store on sale that would be more dressy!

     
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    jb30    August 28, 2010   St. Louis

    Sorry, I think it looks like a big T-shirt :(  I'm not sure just jewelry will dress it up enough.  The price is amazing, but I don't think you will be happy with it in pictures.  I'm afraid the girls will look really out of place next to the GM in suits.

     
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    KIKI82    October 30, 2010   SoCal

    I agree with the others, even with jewwlry and make-up it's still too casual

     
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    kierbear24    June 23, 2012   Ontario

    Im sorry but I have to agree with everyone else, it seems like it might be too casual and make a lot of your guests feel like they are over dressed. Plus I worked at H&M and things sell so quickly that it might actually be hard to find the right sizes for everyone, and I know that a lot of their jersey material products stretch out a LOT while you wear them so they might look nice right away, but by the time theyve worn them for a bit they might look a little sloppy. If you want a semiformal wedding like you said then I would probably look for a dress in a different fabric.

     
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    CaMoFoJo-Bro    June 12, 2010   Dena, California

    Yes it is too casual. It's not the shape, its the material. I like bridegrls suggestion!

     
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    AREGALAFFAIR    May 30, 2009   Los Angeles

    if you are having a beach wedding its perfect, otherwise I say they are on the casual side. I think its a lovely idea to get dresses from H&M or Macy's but I would be careful of the material. If the guys are wearing suites I would be a little bit more formal.  Happy Planning

     
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    locket    September 25, 2010  

    I agree that they are too casual....I wonder if maybe you could dress them up though...you could find satin trim and trim the edges to add a dressier elelment to them...without alteration I would say too casual.

     
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    Soon2beeMrsM    October 2010   NY

    They are cute but a too informal for me. When I think of semiformal I think of something like @bridegrl posted above, not full length but short, fun and flirty!

     
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    Mrs. Menard to Be    February 11, 2010   Kansas

    i think theyre way too casual. it just seems like something i would wear to the beach or a bbq. & i also dont think theyre very flattering.

     
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    cc8139    April 24, 2010  

    They are definitely too casual...I don't think that I would even wear that to the bridal shower or rehersal dinner....good luck!

     
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    dmp777    July 10, 2010   NJ

    i totally agree with most of the bees here. it is really casual and also the fabric is not the most flattering on everyone's body type. it can be really clingy in the wrong places. you can totally find a cute navy dress that is not too formal....i am sorry i just don't think that one is working.

     
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    rabbit    September 3, 2010   Milwaukee, WI

    Ahhh! All 26 responces so far confirm my deepest fears- Far too casual! I fear I let my general happiness about my make-up trial and first ever eyebrow threading experience and the pushiness of my BM talk me into a bad decision. UGH! How do I tell my BM that not I want her to pick/wear something else now?! She went off on a rant yesterday about how my guidelines for finding a BM dress as too restrictive (because me asking for her to find a knee length, navy blue, sleeveless dress that she likes is restrictive?!) and how I keep "changing my tune about the dresses," etc.

    i thought giving my girls the ability to pick their own dresses would be awesome for them but its turned into a giant disaster! BM L (who picked the casual dresses out) wants to go super-uber casual (as you can see above). MB LN has no time to look and would much rather I pick a dress and tell her to buy it and wear it. And my MOH, my older sister, couldn't give two flips. She refuses to dress shop or even discuss it!

    Its days like this that make me want to fire my whole wedding party!

     
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    jordynrose    October 16, 2010   Las Vegas, NV/Chandler, AZ

    If "knee length, navy blue, sleeveless dress" is restrictive, then I am guilty too!  Seriously though, WTH?  How can she not find a dress she likes within these parameters.  I agree with everyone above about the formality of that dress, however if it were made of something other than jersey it might be a little more promising.

    What about this:

    http://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=50129&vid=1&pid=743249

     

     
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    Mrs. Menard to Be    February 11, 2010   Kansas

    i dont think youre being restrictive at all! im going to be a BM in september and the bride wants navy & knee length. its pretty easy to find something in those guidelines. i think you should just tell her that you realized it won't work with your wedding and that youre more than happy to help her look for a dress.

     
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    bridegrl    October 9, 2010   Monterey County, California

    wow jordynrose. you are ubber helpful! those are some cute navy dresses!

     
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    Sep_Queen    September 4, 2010  

    If you are having a casual wedding then I dont see the problem..

     
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    rabbit    September 3, 2010   Milwaukee, WI

    @jordynrose- thanks for the great links! i liked the Forever21 silk t-shirt type dress, except for the lace back. i feel that it might be too revealing for a church wedding. As for the rest, there are some CUTE dresses in those links, but they all look too short. Knee length! I want sleeveless because I think sleeves would both look funny and it'll be hot (as September usually tends to be in Wisconsin) and I don't want anyone to die from overheating as neither the ceremony or the reception hall have airconditioning!

    @Mrs. Menard to Be- i have gone shopping with her 3 times now. Everything I love- she hates. Everything she loves- I cringe. Her dress tastes tend toward the casual and slutty. Since you need a navy dress too, here are three I found today which are nice:

    $70- http://www.jcrew.com/browse/single_product_detail.jsp?PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524441792153&FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374302023931&nav_type=SEARCH&bmUID=1269324574286

    $80- http://www.jcrew.com/browse/single_product_detail.jsp?PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524441769316&FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374302023931&nav_type=SEARCH&bmUID=1269324574299

    $98- http://www.jcrew.com/browse/single_product_detail.jsp?PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524441799574&FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374302024079&nav_type=SEARCH&bmUID=1269324574306

     
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    iswimibikeirun    May 15, 2010   Houston

    Here are some target navy choices that are a little dressier and still very reasonable:

    $24 http://www.target.com/Mossimo-Black-Sheath-Dress-Navy/dp/B0033TYFQA/ref=br_1_8?ie=UTF8&frombrowse=1&searchView=grid5&searchNodeID=2086049011&node=2086049011&sr=1-8&searchRank=-product_site_launch_date&searchPage=1&searchSize=90&id=Mossimo%20Black%20Sheath%20Dress%20Navy&qid=

    $40 http://www.target.com/Merona-Collection-Strapless-Denim-Dress/dp/B002ZSA5SC/ref=br_1_7?ie=UTF8&frombrowse=1&searchView=grid5&searchNodeID=2086049011&node=2086049011&sr=1-7&searchRank=-product_site_launch_date&searchPage=1&searchSize=90&id=Merona%20Collection%20Strapless%20Denim%20Dress&qid=

    $32 http://www.target.com/Mossimo-Black-Crossover-Empire-Dress/dp/B002ZJARRA/ref=br_1_18?ie=UTF8&frombrowse=1&searchView=grid5&searchNodeID=2086049011&node=2086049011&sr=1-18&searchRank=-product_site_launch_date&searchPage=1&searchSize=90&id=Mossimo%20Black%20Crossover%20Empire%20Dress&qid=

    $20 http://www.target.com/Merona-Womens-Trapunto-Dress-Navy/dp/B002ZJ5C66/ref=br_1_19?ie=UTF8&frombrowse=1&searchView=grid5&searchNodeID=2086049011&node=2086049011&sr=1-19&searchRank=-product_site_launch_date&searchPage=1&searchSize=90&id=Merona%20Womens%20Trapunto%20Dress%20Navy&qid=

    $40 http://www.target.com/Merona-Collection-Party-Dress-Sash/dp/B001LXQB4Y/ref=br_1_49?ie=UTF8&frombrowse=1&searchView=grid5&searchNodeID=2086049011&node=2086049011&sr=1-49&searchRank=-product_site_launch_date&searchPage=1&searchSize=90&id=Merona%20Collection%20Party%20Dress%20Sash&qid=

    $40 http://www.target.com/Merona-Collection-Taffeta-Party-Dress/dp/B001LXTWSQ/ref=br_1_50?ie=UTF8&frombrowse=1&searchView=grid5&searchNodeID=2086049011&node=2086049011&sr=1-50&searchRank=-product_site_launch_date&searchPage=1&searchSize=90&id=Merona%20Collection%20Taffeta%20Party%20Dress&qid=

    $40 http://www.target.com/Merona-Collection-Strapless-Party-Dress/dp/B001L4JU3W/ref=br_1_53?ie=UTF8&frombrowse=1&searchView=grid5&searchNodeID=2086049011&node=2086049011&sr=1-53&searchRank=-product_site_launch_date&searchPage=1&searchSize=90&id=Merona%20Collection%20Strapless%20Party%20Dress&qid=

     
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    rabbit    September 3, 2010   Milwaukee, WI

    @iswimibikeirun- Thanks! I like a few of those dresses! Very cute! The one actually looks like a slightly fancier version of the dress my BM picked out. I might just order a couple to see the length, color, fabric, etc.

     

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