(Closed) Found out my ex got married…..

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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420 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I know exactly how you are feeling. I have been with my FI for 9 years, and we have been engaged since last May. I just found out that my first love, my first, everything, was getting married and I found out about a week before his wedding. I haven’t seen him in 12 years, but I sure loved him back in those days. I dream about him lately. I even had a dream on a Friday, that it was the Friday before his wedding and he sent me a note, professing his love, but that he was still going to get married.(This dream I had was actually the Friday after her got married) and the strangest thing about it is I am not even interested in what he is interested in now, he is not attractive to me anymore… (we have eachother on FB) and I couldn’t care less… But sometimes, I dream about him. It’s really strange, BUT, I really think it is because you had those first feelings of love with that person, and after the break-up/ end of the relationship, you grew and changed, somewhat because of it. It is something that will stay with me always… but I know for sure, that I love and want to marry the man I am with today(even though today I am totally mad at him!!) haha…

Post # 5
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1779 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I know what you mean as well.  Even if you are not in love with that person or do not speak to them, it is still a little hard.

My very first love (16 to 21) wound up ending our relationship(we were “pre-engaged”) because he got someone else pregnant (though he did not tell me about that until months later).  Sometimes on facebook, I see mutual friends comment to him and I get a little stab in the heart.  I guess in the end he did me a favor because I would not want to be with someone like that. Turns out he is miserable… I do get a little very selfish satisifcation out of that… I know bad girl.

 

Post # 6
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5 posts
Newbee

I have had the same experience the last couple of weeks. 2 weeks ago, my college boyfriend (we dated for the better part of 3 years) got married…I was truly happy for him, but seeing the pictures on facebook was…well, it was weird! It was weird to see his facial expressions in pics and “know” that face…’thats a fake smile,’ ‘he;s had too much to drink,’ etc. I have also had a dream or 2 about him since he got married…I have no romantic feelings towards him and havent for years, but he will always hold a special place in my heart.

 Then the following weekend, another ex got married. I’m evil and just laughed at that one…I never really cared for him and we ‘built a house together,’ only for me to find out 2 weeks before we closed that he was cheating. His poor new wife…probably has no idea what she is getting into!

Post # 8
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60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My ex is dating some skanky stripper chick now (no lie… we all joke that he royally downgraded and I upgraded lol) and my first thought was “good, hopefully he’s her problem now and he’ll stop bugging me”.

I think that is the best way to deal with exes who move on.

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I know that my dad – who has been happily married to my mom for almost 30 years – admits that he still occasionally dreams about his first love, a girl he hasn’t seen in almost 40 years.  I think your first love is just someone you never forget, and it will always be weird to think of them with someone else.

Post # 10
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60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@GreenEyedMoon:

I disagree. I don’t think about my ex at all, unless it’s to think about how much he kind of sucks at life.

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